General chatter while we wait (and commentary on the "pull out method")

[ladyoflocksle]

Cp- I am so sorry that af showed I know how disappointing that is! I also understand only ttc for a while longer and then going to NTNP. We are in that place now. Although I am at the point that I am about ready to stop having af altogether. I am seriously thinking if I am not pg by May, then I will look into having a hysterectomy. The older I get the worse my af gets

Dobs- I am sorry that things aren't going so well for you right now, too. I have struggled with depression myself and I know how hard that can be especially on top of what else you have going on in your life.

Thank you for your words of encouragement. I really want to give my DH a baby of his own

Gigs- good luck with your exercise program. I am too lazy to do that although I bet I would lose more weight if I did it! I go back to school on Thurs so that may help me get back on track. I am still 2 lbs. shy of my goal of losing 20 lbs. When I am at home all I want to do is eat...whether I am hungry or not!

 

[M&S+Bump]

Dobs, alcohol is alcohol no matter what form - the concentration of ethanol varies but it’s all the same chemical whether it’s drunk as beer, wine or vodka. The concept of ’hard liquer’ is a myth The average shot (1 or 2oz) of vodka or any other chosen spirit contains less alcohol than an average glass of wine (defined here as 180ml, or about 6-7oz of wine at 12% proof)

Better to bedshare occasionally and get a little sleep than end up going loopy through sleep deprivation, imo.

Gigs, my over-riding thought process with everything is a nagging voice in my head to keep going, do more, do better. I left school at the top of my class, but all the voice (my dad’s, strangely enough *eyeroll*) could say was you should be staying on for another year. You could have got into a better university. I opened a shop and the voice tells me to open another. I clean a room and the voice starts nit-picking that it could be better, and there’s another room to do, or washing to be done, or why can’t you just keep your house clean like everyone else does and then if wouldn’t be such a chore, why are you so lazy and useless? I’m never at peace or able to relax and just rest because all I see is the things not done and the endless quest for more, better. And then I get tired and depressed and try to drown out the voice with wine because I’m not super-human and I’m tired and need a break.

I don’t celebrate birthdays and I hate Christmas because all I can think is ’I haven’t done enough’ - no matter how much I’ve done or bought.

Baby is getting three new teeth to add to the one he already has at the bottom. He’s my earliest teether by far - a full six months younger than Nathaniel was when he got his first ones. I’m wondering if it might be contributing to the waking at night..

 

[DobbyForever]

Yeaaaah the problem is I don’t mix them with a single shot or take a shot. I’ll make a 10 oz glass with 50/50 coke and rum and drinks at least two to three glasses. With wine I only pour less than half a standard pour and I sip it. But I hear you on the percentages vs volume thing.

Yeah tbh that’s why I did it. I’m so exhausted i’m Making driving errors and messing up at work. Coffee and naps do nothing. When he reaches over and touches my face he can fall back asleep and he can’t do that from his bassinet. Plus i only do it after I pump/feed at 4:30-5 so i’m Not in deep sleep mode just resting more than anything but fffdchjvsrnjibd he self soothes just fine during the day and he didn’t used to do this

Oooo man that’s so many teeth!

K gonna try to get A down so I can shower

 

[Cppeace]

Dobs, as long as you vary the type of exercise and don't over work any given area you can streak exercise.I find maintaining a streak encourages me to keep it up. Otherwise I miss one and and then forget one day and well, then the excuses start lol To actually be in any decent shape I have to streak the exercise- I know me well. My highest streak was 226 days and then things got in the way and the excuses from me started and bam I'm a couch potato lol

Thanks for the well wishes.

 

[DobbyForever]

Dang that’s a long time. I just realized 1000 days is almost 3 years. That takes dedication. I can’t even get my butt to go one day haha. Kudos to you and all the ladies working out.

Meanwhile I discovered Whole Foods has an entire dairy free dessert section so gg weight

 

[shaescott]

CP- scrolling down the page I saw “couch potato” but for some reason my brain thought “cheesy potato” and I’m like wow I might have an obsession with food. Good luck with the exercise streak. You can do it! Sorry about AF though.

Dobs- sorry the ex is being an ass still. And that A is being difficult. Definitely gotta be careful with the drinking, especially with the custody battle. Don’t want the ex to argue that you drink too much, cuz even if you’re still functioning and taking care of A well he could use it to twist things.

M&S- ooo new teeth, how cute! And painful...

Lady- sorry ttc isn’t going well so far. I really hope you get a baby with your husband. My mom had super heavy periods after she had my sister, and she got a Mirena for it. She’s 50 now and still uses it to prevent heavy flow. Just in case you don’t want to undergo surgery if possible. It’s hormonal, and needs to be replaced every 5 years, but it’s a quick office procedure. It’s a trade-off I guess.

 

[DobbyForever]

Lol that’s funny because he drinks 5+ beers a night. My fridge used to not have food except a tiny section and the rest was just his beer. I’ve only been drinking at my mom’s, so it’s definitely more a mental health concern. I was going to dump my last bottle, but I forgot I bought an expensive one by mistake and it does taste amazing. So my plan is to finish it by Sat and after that drown my sorrows in dairy free desserts lol jk I was just going to deal with them healthily. I already know my ex’s strategy and it’s stupid

As for A I think he had a fever. I’m waiting on my forehead thermometer and didn’t do a rectal, but he was scorching hot to the touch. So he got a dose of Tylenol and went to bed in a onesie and thin, cotton sleep sack. I have an appointment booked, but Idk if I want to go. I just don’t like how he got so sick out of the blue when he hasn’t been around anybody who is sick. And the last doctor mentioned bring him back if that happens. He hasn’t eaten in 10 hours and he only ate 15oz yesterday (half his usual). I’m sure it’s nothing. But idk better safe than sorry

How are you feeling since you have been home?

 

[shaescott]

Dobs- okay just making sure (regarding the alcohol). Yeah I’d want to bring A in just to be safe.
Since getting home, my pain has been very minimal (thank god), and I’ve been feeling pretty good. I go to the bathroom like a million times a day and have tiny bowel movements each time but I figure they add up so it’s okay. I go whenever my butthole has pressure on it lol but sometimes it’s just gas whoops

 

[gigglebox]

Hope you're back to normal soon Shae.

Dobs Do they have any idea why he keeps getting random fevers? Any theories?

Can't remember what else, my head is out of sorts. I had to have the cat put down today. He was on the mend from the URI but recently took a turn for the worse, and has drastically lost weight this past week. I mean like emaciated looking, but he had a full belly. Turns out it was full of fluid, poor thing had FIP, which is basically random in what cats is effects and untreatable. He had lost a quarter if a pound since yesterday, and was very obviously in distress so I made the decision to not have him suffer any longer.

Hubby is pissed because he feels like we got screwed over by the SPCA, like they knew he was sick and were happy to dump him on us.

I want to make a good outcome out of this though. I'm getting his ashes back and will be playing with them to see how I can paint with them, and I may move into the business of painting pet portraits with ashes. Idk.

 

[DobbyForever]

Yeah I hear you re alcohol it’s good looking out and I definitely wouldn’t drink in front of ex because I did put it in the order that neither of us can abuse drugs or alcohol when watching A

Glad the pain is decreasing! And re gas vs poop always better safe than sorry there too! Haha learned that the hard way

Gigs they usually aren’t random. It’s ysually him catching something from a daycare kid or me bringing home germs from my classroom. But this is the only time he has gotten sick and nobody I know has been sick. I read somewhere SGA kids tend to have weaker immunity as infants/my family in general has crappy immune systems. Idk I did email his pedi that I was concerned. I cancelled the appointment though cuz we were both sleeping haha this clinic is much less busy than my usual so getting a new appointment later is easily done if he stays poorly. So far he’s only had 4.5oz today and been sleeping but no fever and I felt crappy for a bit so i’m Leaning mystery cold

I’m so sorry about your cat . I know he was a newer member but that’s still tough. Do you think the SPCA knew? I’d imagine with the amount of cats coming through they probably didn’t screen for it, but idk. Could be worth bringing it up and seeing if they’d waive an adoption fee on a new barn cat when yoi’re ready. I love the idea of painting with the ashes.

 

[ladyoflocksle]

Gigs- I am so sorry about your kitty We had to put one down a year and a half ago because he had feline leukemia It is so hard when you lose them because they are a part of your family. I hope that when/if you get a new one that it will be healthy!

Shae- Glad that you are doing a lot better!!

Dobs- Glad you and A were able to get some sleep. I hope he feels better soon!

AFM just waiting for nasty af to show up. I hope it waits until Sat like it is supposed to, BUT since I go back to school tomorrow AND I have recess duty, it will probably show up tomorrow But I guess it won't be the end of the world if it does. I have had some cramping the past couple of days and today it feels like my stomach is starting to bloat so I know it will be here soon!

 

[Looney90]

Hello Everyone,
I’m new to the thread,im currently 10dpo I’ve been very crampy lately and nauseated. Last night at 9dpo I experienced some very bad cramps in my right lower region of my stomach, radiating to my back that lasted no more than 2 minutes. I took a test today I think I saw a line but I might just have line eyes lol. I tried uploading a pic but it says it’s it big. Enough about me how’s everyone day so far?

 

[DobbyForever]

You can try uploading it toa photo site and linking it Or take a screenshot and post that. We like to look at tests

Lady I know you last lp was 13/14 days (I forgot) but your temp is still looking good so you never know fxed not out til she shows

 

[Flueky88]

Dobby sometimes you got to do things like bedshare to get some sleep. No offense to mom's that bedshare all the time. I did some with V when she was really little so I could rest. I'm sorry you are having a hard time financially. Oh, I hope that you can give A a sibling later since you want 2nd baby later.

Shae hope things get regular again for you but glad you are out of hospital. When does school start back?

Lady I hope you are wrong about AF on her way. I didn't try as long but it was still gut wrenching tryimg and not getting a bfp. Just wondering have you considered a supplement like ovaboost?

Cppeace I'm sorry AF showed. She is most unpleasant when ttc.

M&S I'm sorry that you may be done ttc if you aren't ready to stop. Is your follow up coming up soon?

Gigs I'm so sorry about the cat. How awful. Also, good luck with weight loss and glad hubs is going to help with getting a larger vehicle for you.

Sorry if I forgot anyone. Been a little hectic. V has bronchiolitis again. She seems a bit better today. I've been struggling with thoughts of preventing and ntnp. Going to wait because I feel like waiting a year at least is best for me. So i could be ttc in June. Depends on if I get some things paid off and if not, can i wait any longer to ttc lol. I was looking into the makena shot which I'll need to take when pregnant next go round to try to prevent PTL. I hope DHs insurance pays good on it or I can get assistance. It's $800 per shot. Anyways, im still trying yo lose weight, i gained 1.5lb over holidays. I'm hoping to lose 14lb before ttc again. I think I can do it. Oh happy New Year everyone!!

 

[Flueky88]

Here's a few shots of my princess

 

[M&S+Bump]

Loon if you crop the pic it should let you upload.

Fluek, there’s always going to be stuff to pay off. Princess is adorable. I have 14lb to go too til I’m at ’happy’ - I’m not sure it’s doable for me but I’ll give it a go!

Gigs, sorry about the kitty My old lady is 12 now and even though she hasn’t lived with us for years, I’m dreading when she goes. She lives with my dad and is absolutely doted on by his wife.

Shae, glad you got back home.

My follow up at the docs is cancelled, the letter I got was in error as a result of a referral put through in November - it was actioned as both an urgent referral for procedure and a referral for consultation, so obviously I already had the procedure and consultation is not required, so I just keep my appointment with my original specialist in a couple weeks and do not need to go and see the surgeon.

My DH says if I’m set on it, he’s not against another baby as such, but he just worries it would be too much. We’ve been talking about contraception though and a bit stuck - I don’t want hormones, and that limits the choice a lot - my period hasn’t returned yet and has never been regular so timing fertile periods is likely not a good way.. and condoms just suck!

I can’t see him permanently saying no to another babe. They’re just too squishy. I think the next might be the last though (if circumstances stay the same), and it will be a little while before we can think about it.

 

[M&S+Bump]

Wooks, I see you lurking! How’s it going as a mama of three?

 

[M&S+Bump]

Here’s Isaac pulling down all the decorations..

 

[M&S+Bump]

What do you mean, it’s not a teething toy?

 

[Looney90]

Thanks I didn’t think about cropping the picture 🤦🏾*♀️, I’ve been so tired I just woke up from a nap and my mouth been so dry it’s crazy 😩😩