General chatter while we wait (and commentary on the "pull out method")

[M&S+Bump]

Dobs, that is not ok. I get it, I scream and cry and want to throw things if I don’t take my pills, or don’t get enough sleep or whatever, but I have four children 6 and under, and I am under a lot of pressure and have been properly sleep deprived for years.

Wooks, have you tried different bottles and teats? I found some of mine would totally refuse some bottle shapes (including ones supposedly for bf babies) - MAM worked for all of them though. Isaac is now refusing dummies, which is exhausting but I guess will be good in the long run. He was always fussy with what shape he’d accept, but now it’s progressed to full on batting them away if we even try, and spitting out any that sneak into his mouth during sleep.

 

[pacificlove]

Dobs, I'd be highly mad at my mother if she showed behavior like that. As in "you are out of my life". Would not trust anyone who yells at my baby!
Over Christmas a devorced, financially unstable, and previously abusive father killed his 2 daughters on the big island. The girls were 4 and 6. So sad....


Jez, we brush Ls teeth too. We got him a bubble gum flavored one with fluride (we have well water, so L isn't exposed to it through drinking plain water) and he loves it. Occasionally he'll bite down, but only to suck the toothpaste off
As for work/life balance. Right now I have hubby at home but come February we'll have to find him a daycare spot. I'll work full days then, but only 2 or 3 days then.
BTW: a lot of universities do offer child care at a reduced rate.

L never accepted the bottle (not that we tried it often), sorry I am not much help.. he now drinks from a straw or directly from the cup! Keep in mind that while you (mom) aka the source is around, babies might be much more inclined to refuse the bottle.
My mom is pretty much the only person who gets to claim that she gave L a bottle of breast milk. L was getting babysat by them, in their house without us there.

Can't remember who said their 3 year old is in size 5s! Lol, L is long, he's in 18+ month clothes for the most part. Size 4s are actually a tad on the small size nor do they hold through the night....

 

[M&S+Bump]

Elisabeth was still wearing size 4 or 4+ nappies when she potty-trained at 2 or so. Even now, 2-3yo old underwear is baggy and falling off and she’s about to turn 4! And Isaac is in 4+ nappies and not even 8 months, and I’ve just changed him at 1am as he was so wet. So need to change up or get him in cloth nappies at night.

 

[DobbyForever]

Nooo pl don’t say that i’m Always scared ex will snap and kill me/us. Some of the things he has said serious are things Scott Peterson said before he killed his wife. Yeah i’m so torn because cutting her out means cutting out the uncles and stepgrandfather and A needs those influences and she is super helpful and he loves her tthnklgrjnkg

A is on 9m so i’m No help hehe and transitioning to size 3 diapers next week. 2 is getting snug so I changed my next delivery to size 3 . So excited to go from P to age appropriate

 

[Flueky88]

Dobby wo, I'm sorry. I can't imagine my mom ever being like that to me. I'm sorry that you and A had to put up with that.

Shae I hope your body fully recovers soon. Also, I've never had dilaudid but I've given it. People do seem to love it. A guy seriously started running my head/hair after I gave a dose, oh and another tried to dance with me. This while girl can't dance to save her life lol.

Wookie thanks, I did give her a kiss from auntie Wooks lol. Maybe she will be more receptive to bottle nipple when you aren't around. Hope so for her sake. I'd say you've tries different nipples or the natural nipples?

Jez lol I know I'm crazy to think of ttc again, but I can't help it. Also, I was blessed with a very easy newborn. She took after me with wanting to sleep a lot a night. So maybe that's why I'm not opposed right now. Glad you got to see your bro and SIL. Nice to catch up with distant family. Oh and that's adorable about the toothbrushing song

Off to read the next page.

 

[Flueky88]

Pacific has going to be a tall boy. Nothing wrong with that I hope that you find a good childcare setting.

M&S I think it's so cute how fast Isaac is growing and how small Elisabeth is. How different they can be physically is interesting. V has been in size 3 for a bit. Her clothes are 9 months. I think it won't be much longer til 12 months.

Dobby, I know, I got a premie diaper out yesterday and just stood in awe thinking how it used to fit her. Nothing premature about my girl now. Oh Dobby I hope he would never do anything like that. I'm glad you changed the locks though.

AFM, I keep going back to lets just see what happens as far as babymaking. You now have sex if we want with no regard to timing. I feel like I need to this month. I know it's not the most logical, but we would make things work if I got a bfp. I seriously doubt I'd get one anyways. So yeah, I think to hell with condoms or withdrawal.

 

[pacificlove]

Dobs, worst part was that the dad's behavior was all recorded and authorities where we'll aware of him, yet they still granted him shared custody. Something is seriously f'd and it's all under investigation, meanwhile it's the mother who is suffering and on her own.


Flueky, interesting how different they all grow. We are hoping L will be a bit taller then hubby, the genes are there from both our sides, it's just his parents that are on the smaller (me) to average (dh) height

L did the cutest thing today. He grabbed his shoes from the front door, put them down in front of us and sat down on bum, feet straight out. Exact same position as when we put on his shoes to go outside. Anyway, I listened, put on his shoes and off he goes to the front door. Some pretty clear signs that he wants to go outside, right?! Jacket and tuque on and then I took him with me to feed the animals. He was pretty happy to carry our empty bucket back to the house when we were all done. Haha, such a cute kid!

 

[shaescott]

Jez- the tooth brushing song thing is sooo cute, agh I can just imagine it eee cute

PL- that’s so sad and so messed up he got shared custody. On the other hand, what L did with the shoes sounds so cuteee!

M&S- thank you for the info!

Dobs- oh geez that’s scary that you worry about your ex snapping. So sorry about everything that’s going on for you rn.

 

[DobbyForever]

I may seriously move at this point f* tenure

 

[ladyoflocksle]

Hey ladies, selfish post here, sorry! Today is supposed to be when af starts. Haven't seen her yet, no symptoms for a BFP so I wish that af would just hurry up and show so that I can get it over with!!!

 

[DobbyForever]

Take a test lol

 

[shaescott]

Lol I’m with Dobs but we’re addicts here.

 

[gigglebox]

Agree, test! Or is it possible that you o'd at the second dip?

Fluek you are brave! Good luck on ntnp; I completely get the desire.

Aw Jez sorry you also had an FIP cat. Isn't crazy how fast the decline becomes?! I mean he was seemingly ok, then went "is he losing weight?" To "holy crap he is getting too skinny" in just a couple days. I was really hoping he had treatable worms or something...no such luck, poor guy. Was such a cool cat.

Dobs what happened now? And where would move?

Y'all I just want some honey in my tea I miss sugar lol

 

[ladyoflocksle]

Well I am now one day late (two if af doesn't show today). If she isn't here in the morning, I will take a test. But I have been several days late before and not been pg so not really expecting much now either

Not looking forward to going back to work tomorrow! The kids were pretty wild the two days we went to school last week!! It didn't help that we didn't get to play outside because of it being so cold. I need to be working on lesson plans but not really feeling it

 

[Jezika]

Lady - yasss tesssst! Keeping fingers crossed for you.

Gigs - yes it’s a very dramatic decline from what I hear. Thankfully this happened just as she got transferred to another home (can’t rmeember why), so we didn’t have to see or deal with it ourselves. I would’ve been a mess. It’s so hard when family pets die, as you know, and it was bad enough even though I’d moved out by the time my childhood cats passed away. I’m dreading our cat dying one day too. We don’t know how old he is, but probably around ten. I always thought it would be easier when we have a child, but we do still love the cat and in a way it will be harder if I also have to deal with Tilly being sad over it. But I guess kids are pretty resilient. Wow, tangent, sorry.

Dobs - has your mum apologized? Gosh I hope there’s no way your ex would do anything like that. It’s pretty rare thankfully, though I’d feel a bit uneasy with all the easily accessible guns in the US and how they can make domestic disputes way more dangerous. You’re smart and strong so I know you’ll do whatever you need to for you and A.

Flueks - I truly admire people ready to get back on the TTC horse so soon! I don’t think it’s crazy. Tilly was a pretty easy baby too, so I think it’s more a testament to my lack of stamina.

PL - I saw your pic of L on Facebook. So cute! Hope you can find a way to post here. I love that they’re starting to make their wants and wishes clear. Oh, and my university has daycare, but sadly it’s not free. Not even cheaper than other daycares actually. But students and staff (DH is staff) do get priority and it’s supposed to be pretty good.

M+S - I always love the tattoo talk. Fascinating! A few days ago I was trying to see what some of these crazy fine line tattoos will look like when aged. I couldn’t really find anything. I’m so intrigued. I’m talkinf about ones that are simple line drawings, not necessarily loads of lines close together with super detail that I imagine would bleed together soon enough, just really thin lines.

I was going to comment more but forgot.

My bff who is ttc booked a holiday to Cuba but three days before she left she got a faint line on an HPT so she had two betas done at the fertility clinic. Rose from 8 at 16DPO to 15 at 18DPO and the doc was worried about late implant and low numbers so asked her to come back tomorrow, which is when she revealed she’s going to Cuba and her doc pretty much freaked out because it’s a zika country and said if she doesn’t cancel her trip then they not only can’t see her again after, but she’d need to be monitored by the CDC and cannot ttc for another 6 months. Oh, and that her numbers mean it might be ectopic so it’s best to stay in Canada anyway. My poor friend ended up having to cancel her trip (the travel agent had originally said Cuba was fine from a zika perspective) and pay $730 to transfer the plane tickets to her in-laws so they could go instead. She’s so upset and on top of that she’s petrified of an ectopic and now seems to be having a chemical (her second one).

 

[Flueky88]

Lady if you are sure on O date, it's still a possibility. I do understand wanting to be skeptical. Not as painful if you have your hopes up. I hope it's not a bad day back to work tomorrow.

Gigs, I'm not sure I'd call it brave. Probably insane oh I can't give up sugar. I just try in moderation for any food vices. I try to only drink water. Except for when I want wine. Sodas, tea, and coffee are easy for my to give up. I'm definitely glad about that.

Jez lol maybe. I'm using to care for others. A baby was something I'd never taken care of before. I definitely don't want to as a nurse. I hate seeing sick kids, so sad. My heart cannot deal with it. Oh her icu essentially doubled. Is she certain of her dates. If so maybe she just implanted late. My thoughts are with her. I hope that she lost out on a trip for a rainbow bfp.

 

[DobbyForever]

I’m just tired and cranky lol. She half apologized but i’m Just gonna take it because she did say she will work on not yelling esp in front of A

Omfg had visitation and it was so draining

Read but too bogged down with crap to respond to people

 

[ladyoflocksle]

Well I started lightly bleeding this afternoon so I didn't take a test. Af is here

 

[Flueky88]

Dobby well it's a start. Sorry about visitation. Hope you had a better day today.

Lady, I'm sorry about AF.


AFM DH didn't pullout last night. I think I'm Oing today. So I guess we will see. Happy either way, but I just don't think it will happen this time.

V has been waking up 2x in night to eat. I'm hoping that since she finished steroids yesterday she won't wake up tonight.

I've started reading the 5th game of thrones book. I got seaaons 1 through 6 for christmas. I'm excited to watch it. Not much else to say.

Have a great week everyone

 

[gigglebox]

Still never seen GOT. Half the people who've seen it tell me i have to watch it, the other half tell me not to watch it because it's an addicting time suck. I have to pay to watch so likely not going to watch it.

Fluuuuuek I'm going to live vicariously through you! Ahhh can't wait for testing time! I am definitely broody but know realistically now is not a good time. I want to start ttc around June though, so soon!

Unless I get super fit and hot and skinny and don't want to lose my hot bod yet. Lol, not likely...

Lady sorry af showed after all hang around this time!