General chatter while we wait (and commentary on the "pull out method")

[pacificlove]

Dh works 5 minutes away from the daycare, so I try to take comfort in that. But ugh, I hate the situation either way. If money was not an issue I'd quit work

 

[DobbyForever]

ditto i’d So rather be home with A. I’m glad dh is close to the daycare! That's Awesome but I hear you it’s not the same as you being close or you being home

 

[Flueky88]

Just wanted to say I'm sorry for those who want to be SAHM and can't. It's heartbreaking. I'm adjusting better though. Also, sorry about the lack of sleeping Gigs and Dobby.

Also, I heard about the pregnancy test ad on radio, Tuesday I think. It's pretty blizzard. I'm sure they are keeping the magazine's in sleeves. If not maybe the Swedish aren't crazy like us and want to pull the ads out lol.

Dobby hope A gets better again soon.

Not much going on here. I think it's crazy I think a bfp would even be possible this month. I've decided I'll go back full time before we ttc so I can have short term disability and PTO. I think I'll get a hospital indemnity plan too. DH said he'd love to ttc now but wants me and the baby to be healthy. Basically, worried about prematurity. So I think we are waiting til May. I will probably do a test next Sunday. I think I'll be 12 or 13dpo then.

 

[Cppeace]

Hey ladies Have mostly caught up in here.
We have another below freezing week here so that means hauling water out to the horse and chickens... Boo! Just got finished doing it.
Been getting unusual amount of early ewcm... Might be going to ovulate semi early-who knows...
So glad it's my Friday. I've been lazy and sleepy all week.

 

[wookie130]

Cpp- It's been terribly cold here, too. Negative 25 below wind chills. Brrr. High temps of -5 below. Makes it really unpleasant to leave the house.

Add me to the list of moms who'd like to be a SAHM. I go back to work 2 weeks from tomorrow. It breaks my heart, if I'm being completely honest.

 

[gigglebox]

can any of y'all type fast? Maybe a work from home transcriptionist? Or some other at home job?

We decided to move forward with turning our basement into my studio. It's coming along great! I'll try to get pics soon if anyone is curious.

I'm also still dreaming of a car, really looking into 3rd row seaters, namely the rav 4 circa 2010-2012 because later models don't have the optional 3rd row.

Anyone have experience with that car?

 

[M&S+Bump]

Ooft, it’s been quiet in here!

I do not want to be a SAHM. I would be quite glad of some financial pressure to be lifted though I’m not a fan of being the sole provider.

Sleep? What is this, sleep, you talk of? 😴

I’ve got back into knitting and crochet. Spent crazy amounts on yarn, but it makes me happier. So it’s all good.

 

[Flueky88]

Peace, I like Oing earlier in my cycle. Really sucks waiting 3 to 4 weeks to O. I think i Od cd18 or 19 this time. I think it's from weight loss.

Wooks beer my dad lives in WI. I can't stand how Friday their winters are. I don't envy you. When everyone complains about cold here, I think of WI and laugh. They seriously closed schools because it was too cold and was above 0.

I'm sorry your return date is approaching too fast. I really wish we had good maternity leave in US.

Gigs, I can but, I'm typically breadwinner. He is making a little more than me right now but he's working 64 hr a week and I'm being paid for roughly 32 hr a week. I don't think I'd earn enough. I'm not crafty at all either.

I'd like to see your studio. I have a rav4 but it's 2017. I'm very fond of it. Smooth ride, great turning. Higher ground clearance than my car had.

M&S nothing wrong with that. I think it's best for women to do what they feel is right for them.

I know it's really not the worst but V is waking up around 2 and then 6 to eat. I'm thinking where she reached milestone of sitting up. I hope she goes back to ditching 2 a.m. feed.

I've thought about crocheting but I did every step of my sewing project wrong in home ec. I know it's not the same but it still makes me cringe.

Nothing much to say here.

 

[ladyoflocksle]

Sorry, I haven't been around much. Just waiting to O...it should happen in the next few days. I am finally getting a "cold day." The temps are supposed to be around -10 to -25 with the wind chill so we are getting tomorrow off. We got an inch or so of snow today, so it is really cold here!

My DH surprised me by waking me up at 4:00 this morning to BD. I hated to tell him no since he hardly ever initiates. Plus I didn't have to work today (My school was out for MLK day) so I went back to sleep after he got up and got ready for work

I feel so blessed that I was able to be a SAHM for my two kids. I just wish that if I am able to get pg again that I would be able to do that again. But I don't think I will because we can't financially afford for me to stay home.

 

[Cppeace]

I tend to ovulate between cd 16 and 19 .... Last month it was later than the norm.
Lol sad thing is I can be a stay at home mom with my job but lol don't have kids... One of those ironic things I guess.
Opk today was a couple days from positive in my opinion. So probably a cd16 one this time.

 

[Jezika]

I never thought I’d want to be a SAHM but I think I’d quite like it. Or just work part time. I don’t have a choice because I have to finish school though. But at least that’s more flexible and not 9-5. Sucks though because daycare is $2k a month.

It’s been cold AF here. Was like -30 centigrade with windchill. Our apartment is small so it’s not fun for Tilly to stay indoors all the time and everyone is sick so every play date is a risk. All in all we’ve been quite lucky with how few times Tilly’s been sick (watch her get sick now, esp since the kid at our play date today was sick).

Gigs yay on your studio. I’d love to see pics.

Sorry to everyone struggling on the sleep front. All I can say is it won’t last forever, apparently. It just feels like it.

CP and Lady, I hope this is the month for you guys.

AFM I start class on Wed and not looking forward to having to use my brain again. Hubs is taking Wed afternoons off to watch Tilly. Goodness knows where my additional study time will come from. Oh, remember when I moaned the other day about Tilly’s birthday getting cancelled coz she was sick and how all our events seem to get cancelled due to someone’s sickness or weather? Well it was me and DH’s 10-year dating anniversary last Fri but we couldn’t go out for dinner because both my mum and back-up friend cancelled babysitting due to weather and then hubby’s brother from Japan called in the evening for the first time in six years ans they were on the phone for hours so I basically spent the evening alone. Grrrr. Why does this keep happening? Still haven’t celebrated it. I feel like what’s the point.

Oh that ikea preg test thing is funny. I totally thought it was a joke at first.

 

[pacificlove]

I am in the same boat, never thought I would want to be a sahm, but Logan changed my Outlook. I did get bored, so do have my small home business that keeps me busy now.
My part time job is nice, but not a permanent solution.

CPP, like you, we could have afforded me staying at home before L was born. Throw in a move and a year of financial hiatus and it's not in the cards ATM. Hopefully in a year it will be different.

Jez, my previous home in AB reported -40 Celsius plus wind chill last week. Glad we left, I don't envy you. Haha
Sorry about the missed date.... I hear you! Our last date night got ruined when mil heard that dh and I were going out for a dinner and a movie (star wars) and invited herself, bil and his GF. At first we were supposed to just meet up for the movie but then they all joined us for dinner. Yay, table for 5 please. Dh and I hadn't been out for months, let alone a date night. Who knows when we'll get to go out again.
Mil never even offered to watch L, to get it was more important to see the movie with "her" boys.

Enough ranting from me, sorry ladies!

As for sleep, I can't complain about Ls sleep right now. Considering he goes to bed early (6) and I usually fall asleep late, I could only wish for him to sleep longer then 630am... I am no expert on sleep or parenting, but I am a firm believer in you gotta do what you gotta do

 

[Fern81]

Ugh I had a loooong reply typed out but lost it. Short version - what do you make of these? 3hr random midday hold on day 28 (only had 3 28 day cycles after losing the embie). Not really dtd; no temping or trying. Idk. Took it on a whim because I'm feeling weird and sickish.

 

[Fern81]

Whaaaattt... now it's invisible on the second pic after uploading. Will test again in the am.

 

[gigglebox]

Omg fern!!! i'm on my phone in bright light and can hardly see the screen and i can STILL see a second line!!! Waiting anxiously for an update!

Flu you bring up a good point I didn't even think ok...that is Lev's sleep regression coinciding with a milestone. He is starting to crawl! I didnt even put those two together. How cute that your little lady is starting to sit! Sitting babies make for great photo ops

Wow everything else I was going to say just flew out my brain.

Oh, MS, did you ever get results from your exam? If not when is your consultation?

Afm i think i may have ovulated without feeling it...or like i felt this painful bloating i get but not pain from the ovaries, super weird, and also means i have no idea when i'm due for a period -.- if that pain was "it" then soon, if nothing by this weekend i'll grab a test just in case as this is highly unusual...

 

[wookie130]

Fern!!!! Those are definitely positive! The bottom pic is a squinter, but it is pink, and it's THERE! Test again in the a.m. with FMU, and see what happens! I'm pumped for you, and have everything crossed!

Yeah, frickity frick, it is COLDER than a witch's titty out there! Flueks, yeah, we Iowans have the cold in common with WI. Dangerous cold. It's gonna start warming up a bit tomorrow for the rest of the week.

Lady and Cpp - Sending vibes for a big juicy egg popping, and strong spermies to fertilize them! 😀

Gigs- Before and after pics! I'm in the same boat as you with a car. I drive a small older Ford Escape, and I found a web site where you can look up your car's make/model/year, and it will tell you which carseats will work 3 across. Since my pregnancy with Char was an oopsie, and we will be paying out the ass in daycare expenses soon, we won't be able to purchase a mini-van or suburban until next year when Hannah begins kindergarten. Until then the kids are squeezed together like sardines in the back. 😂😂😂 I think they like it, though. Hannah and Ozzy are besties.

Jez- That sucks, and that's the kind of stuff that happens in our household too. I'm not really ready to leave the baby with anyone yet ( although I'll have to here in less than two weeks), DH and I are in sore need of a date night. Everytime we try, someone gets sick, or something falls through. I guess I've tried to think of that stuff as some kind of omen or something.

AFM- 2nd poat-partum AF has arrived. This means that in 10 weeks, I have been bleeding for 8 of them. It's getting old, and I think it has everything to do with having my tubes tied, and how difficult it was for my OB to sew my thin uterus back together. From my understanding, it was quite the Frankenstein project. But, I am so sick of bleeding. At least now I can use my menstrual cup, instead of pads. That's been a game-changer.

 

[gigglebox]

Maybe this js extreme but could they have hust removed your uterus while they were in there? I want mine out once the baby shop is closed! So sick of 10-14 day periods!

 

[Keepsmiling91]

Fern- was it a test in a case or a dipstick one? Either way I say bfp x

Wooks- sorry to hear about the bleeding that’s rough! How’s things being a Mumma to 3? X

CP & Lady - echo what everyone else says - :babydust: x

Afm - feeling down in the dumps. I do NOT want to be pregnant. I feel awful even saying that. It’s the way the world is now, I think it’s really hard on our kids growing up especially as teenagers. There’s so many ‘selfies’ and pressure on kids now, I worry, and worry about how I’ll emotioally support 3 kids going through bullying, and fall outs, and the hard times on life, but a 4th?! How can I do that, I’m a single Mumma to 3 girls with no support (friends/family etc) and it can be tough and I’m tired. I don’t want to struggle I want to try to give the best I can to the 3 girls I do have (my attention, holidays, etc) and I want to ENJOY them, I feel so awful and ungrateful for the oppertunirty I have been given and hoping I’m not venting in the wrong place I just don’t know who else I can talk to? I love my girls, they’re my world, I just want to be the best I can be for them, and I’m afraid, soon, I will not be being a good mum, but just muddling throUgh trying to get by x

 

[gigglebox]

wish I knew what to say! Just remember things are ever changing and the challenges to kids now may not even be issues when our kids are old enough to be in those stages. I've heard social media isn't as popular as it used to be, a lot of people are just not using it as much, so things like internet bullying may not be a thing later.

But seriously online things are the root of the problem with what you mentioned and those can be controlled with limited internet access, which you can control (to a degree).

We have to just do our best to taise our families and hope they turn out ok in the end!

If you are serious about the potential of ending your pregnancy there is a forum on here for terminations that you can gain access to, however i think it may be for medical reasons...?

 

[wookie130]

Gigs...like removed it without me knowing??? 😂😂😂 Not a chance! She did remove one of my tubes due to a hemmorage, though. She sewed my uterus back together, and it is down to it's original size, but I'm sure it was hard as hell to put me back together, due to that extremely thin lower uterine segment. Eeek! I was so, so lucky I didn't rupture. I could have lost my life, and my daughter's also. My OB said during the c-section, "I'm so glad today was the day, Holly. Your uterus can't do one day more." That legt chills down my numb spinex believe it!