General chatter while we wait (and commentary on the "pull out method")

[mrs.green2015]

Hey simple!

You have pretty "normal" cycles so I would just go off last missed period. You won't get an "official" edd until your first scan.

 

[DobbyForever]

Simple my bet is on the 14th. A squinter at 9dpo sounds right to me. A squinter at 6dpo not so much. Can you implant at 6dpo? Yes, but the hcg would not be built up in your urine to test positive. I had twins that implanted early and I got a squinter at 9dpo with the new frer.

And agreed with Greenie about the EDD. Also, most women don't deliver on their EDD so really this early you're really just looking at s ballpark date. Congrats!

 

[DobbyForever]

Also, the only way to know how long your luteal phase is is to temp or do blood work to confirm O. You most likely did not have a 13 day lp if you usually have 11. What is more likely is you Oed two days later that cycle.

For example, my lp is 12 days. The 13th day I get my period. My cycles range from 25-28 days because I usually ovulate between CD13 and CD 16. But most lps are 12-14 days

 

[gigglebox]

Ok, i'm just gonna come out and ask....why is the conception date so important? Is there more than one potential father? No judging, just wondering...unless you're trying to figure out a due date, then i agree going off your last period will be pretty close. The drs usually assume a 28 day period and you're so close to that.

Dobs, and J, all i can do is offer hugs J, maybe you should move toward moving out...ugh i just know you would if you could. So i don't know what i'm saying...i just hate thinking you'll be pregnant and under all the stress from your batty mother at the same time.

Dobs, are you still hoping for a bfp then?

Cb, cute bump! i am so envious of your belly! I've just seen photos of me in the snow and man, my face is getting round. I'll be getting my ass back into gear with weight loss soon. For now, just shoveling snow is enough of a workout! But i'll be getting back on my stationary bike soon, and hiking/running when the weather warms up.

Speaking of which, how's weight loss going mrs?

 

[campn]

Simple- I'm too lazy to do the math (sorry haven't eaten lunch yet) but there are so many calculators online to so easily calculate that if you know your numbers! Having pretty average cycles I think it's safe to go off by your last menstrual cycle.

With my DS, my due date changed 2-3 times and I had him at none of those dates anyways. Babies come early, and they come late so it shouldn't matter that much? The scan will give you something to go off at least. Congratulations!

 

[Simplechick]

Ok, i'm just gonna come out and ask....why is the conception date so important? Is there more than one potential father? No judging, just wondering...unless you're trying to figure out a due date, then i agree going off your last period will be pretty close. The drs usually assume a 28 day period and you're so close to that.

Dobs, and J, all i can do is offer hugs J, maybe you should move toward moving out...ugh i just know you would if you could. So i don't know what i'm saying...i just hate thinking you'll be pregnant and under all the stress from your batty mother at the same time.

Dobs, are you still hoping for a bfp then?

Cb, cute bump! i am so envious of your belly! I've just seen photos of me in the snow and man, my face is getting round. I'll be getting my ass back into gear with weight loss soon. For now, just shoveling snow is enough of a workout! But i'll be getting back on my stationary bike soon, and hiking/running when the weather warms up.

Speaking of which, how's weight loss going mrs?

Love your being blunt Gigglebox
And yes, there is some question on daddy...not much but some. Thank you for not judging, it's hard enough to be in this position to begin with...and if I tried to explain it...I don't think I can right now.

I have used enough ovulation predictors to kinda pinpoint ovulation, along with watching Ewcm, and always getting a pinch in whichever ovary seems to be ovulating that month. I was told I couldn't conceive again after my last child, and went years and years without a problem.

So, here I am trying to figure out the likely culprit. So, when I ovulated is kinda a big deal right now In the end it won't matter because I'm ok with having the baby and my SO is too. I guess I'd just like to have some peace about it for now.

My period cycles are never 28 days, always closer to 25-26. What trips me up is I've always read our fertile time is two weeks after our cycle, and I've always conceived in that time frame to the day. So, since I know I'm not a 28 day cycle, and I know my Luteal is between 11-12 days, when did I likely ovulate?
Could it have been the 16th and got preg from late night the 17th? I would totally accept that, except can our eggs live that long? I'm 38, almost 39...I'm shocked I even have any good eggs left, let alone one that could live more than 24 hours after the 16th...
Unless I Od the 17 or 18??? In which case I got a SUPER early positive, which is possible, right?
Ugh... I'm sorry about all this...I'm just confused and hormonal right now.

Thank you all so so much though, reading your responses really is so helpful... I feel safe here, I can't talk to anyone else about this.

 

[TH_2011]

I hope it's okay to post when I know so many people are ttc. I've been there, brutal at times! We had years ttc and have had many losses prior to us being blessed with two miracles a girl and a boy 18 months apart. Needless to say life is very full on!

Hubby is adamant he doesnt want anymore children and we just recently got rid of the last of our baby things. We are using the (tmi sorry) withdrawal method and sometimes condoms for contraception. I don't mind this as I don't mind if there's an accident lol. This month we dtd several times during O. I've had so many pregnancy symptoms since then and have felt so nauseous. I've been pregnant a lot and have always known when I was very soon after o. I've tested yesterday and today (cd23&24, seems early but I o'd early) bfns.

I am sick with the flu so wondering if my symptoms could stem from that but looking back I seem to have had the flu at the start of every pregnanacy.

I'm feeling very odd and foggy (always my tell tale sign), funny with foods, vivid dreams, breathless and very nauseos, all of which don't usually start a week before af. This is driving my crazy! It's bringing me back to those years of ttc obsessing over this. Lol

Thoughts?

Sorry about the essay

 

[TH_2011]

Btw I saw the topic and thought this was a great place to post my curiosity based on this method

 

[DobbyForever]

Oooo welcome welcome. Have you tested? / when was your lmp? Sorry just saw you tested/ cd. You know it's early and unless you confirmed O you really never know. Any intentions of testing again? I gather you would love a bfp . Men freak out but he'd come around. If he is that adamant get snipped lol. Gl! Feel free to hang out with us!

Simply I love it. Been there, bought that t shirt. My second pregnancy I had to get an ultrasound to confirm gestation to confirm if my bean was my long term bd or the guy I slept with when we broke up for a bit (Ross/Rachel break)

 

[gigglebox]

Simple, looking back i'd have to say the sex on the 14th was the sex more likely to have gotten you pregnant, especially given the ewcm and the timeline of the positive test.

Hi TH! Was the sex you had protected? If not and you're symptomatic, i'd say your chances are high...how many dpo are you?

 

[TH_2011]

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Hey guys thanks for having me!

I will test again because I've always been a POAS addict lol. Not when when I ovulated but I thought about 1.5-2 weeks ago. Maybe I was wrong or maybe being pregnant is all in my head!

All times were unprotected and he would withdraw (sorry tmi) and one time was withdrawal and condom. We have used this method since my little guy was born 20 months ago so I don't now why it would be any different this month. I just feel so sick. Maybe just due to the flu.

 

[DobbyForever]

Tmi does not exist on this board lol

 

[gigglebox]

Hmm, hard to say...but if he's been careful with it, it's likely just the flu

 

[mrs.green2015]

What dob said times a million! Tmi does not exist on this board. Lol
But I agree with gig if he's been careful and if this method has always been reliable for you on the past then probably the flu.


Afm-cervix is low closed and med/firm. IF I ovulated it was yesterday. Tomorrow temp will tell me. Is it even logical to think my cervix would move that much AND already have creamy cm if I just ovulated?

 

[TexasRider]

My AF has been weird so far... It's red but it's not really filling my tampon much. This morning I had quite a bit of it when I wiped but once I put a tampon in it seemed to almost stop. So I have no idea what the hell is going on and im so freaking frustrated right now. I obviously ovulated so I'm not sure if this is just considered spotting or what...

 

[TH_2011]

Haha thanks guys! It's impossible to talk about most things re: babies without tmi!

Yeah most likely the flu I agree. I guess the only difference is that we dtd more often than normal during o and the symptoms. Who knows!

Good luck Mrs Green!

TexasRider have you tested?

 

[DobbyForever]

Yeah, Tex did you ever end up retesting before "af" arrived?

Green, can't wait to see tomorrow's temp. No idea about the cervix though.

TH, only time will tell. Sounds like you want it though. Is that a convo worth having?

 

[TexasRider]

Haven't tested at all. Depending on my temp tmrw I might. i don't know. It's most likely negative anyway

 

[campn]

Greenie- Can't wait to see your huge major temp rise hun! I was never great at checking my cervix but when I did I noticed it changes super fast and my cm went back to creamy pretty fast after ovulation so it sounds so promising! Yay!!

 

[mrs.green2015]

Thanks ladies!

Tomorrow I will know more. So be on the lookout for my temp rise!!