General chatter while we wait (and commentary on the "pull out method")

[campn]

Well, maybe get it in writing? Haha...not sure she'll be amiable about that....but yeah, you def need money and that would be a tremendous help! Business start up is such a whore! J, we may have to do some bartering...duck eggs for your baked goods. They sound scrumptious!

SO, LADIES...in an ironic twist of events...

The situation that happened in my very first post has happened again tonight lol

But we haven't gotten pregnant in 4 cycles of actively trying so i sincerely doubt anything will come from tonight's shenanigans...but oh man, wouldn't that be ironic if it did!

HAHAHAJAHA! That should be used in a movie! It's far fetched but totally totally possible!

 

[DobbyForever]

J... You are a saint for putting up with all that.

Campn, he is too cute!!! I can't remember if you told him yet?

Gigs, omg I hope it works haha. Glad you got some

The leading theory is, from both doctors,is that my body is just still fucked up from the loss/surgery. Second theory is GI thing caused by stress

 

[JLM73]

No one tell Gigs I am still secretly pulling for her to totally be knocked up!
Oh and Gigs Allllll for the barter system
I do that on market days usually first thing - like the guy with a special hybrid of super sweet fresh corn- cuz he will sell out. Everyone else we barter at the end of the day- Food is as good as currency to most
I've traded my pastries for other pastries I love sweets, and even handmade jewelry!

Campn- yea my moms a piece of work.

 

[campn]

Dobby- Did you have a D&C? I know these are harder on the body even though it's over sooner, but you've also been stressed so GI could be more like it.

I told him, he doesn't seem too excited, I think he feels a little jealous already, he's been telling me he's a baby and that we should play and pretend like he's a baby. I guess that's the down side of being an only child for almost 3.5 years.

 

[DobbyForever]

Yeah. Baby 2 wouldn't come out and my boss was all up in my nuts. Didn't have time to sit around waiting for my body to finally decide to push it out. Plus, carrying around a dead baby was killing me.

 

[JLM73]

Campn My first 2 were 5 yrs apart and got along great from day one to now.
Kids look for any kinda wiggle room to get off the path lol.
Just tell your son he's gonna be Mommy's Special Helper.

My son was fine with that. Felt like he had an important job lol.
I made sure to include him in alot of daily baby care- like bringing diapers or wipes, or bottles(if you use them), and at bath time he got the "big boy "bath with toys, but he was bath helper with baby- bringing towel etc.

He'll be fine. They only feel jealous when they feel replaced or bumped out of the spot light, but since my son was my special helper for everything he thought he was super cool lol.

 

[gigglebox]

Hmm J you're making me feel better about my increasing age gap with a second, which will now be about 5 years if we start ttc in a couple months.

Dobs, when i was having issues with Des the idea of carrying a deceased baby haunted me. Every ultrasound was terrifying (once a week, then twice a week until about my third tri). I am so, so sorry you had to live that horror. I really hope the next pregnancy is unremarkable and without complication. Which reminds me, did you come up with a plan this month?

 

[JLM73]

Thx gigs. I know most ppl try 2 yrs apart on kids That's just crazy talk I tell ya!
My friends all did that and their kids fight constantly!
Also 2 kids in diapers?? Uh - no thank you,
My manfriend and wife got bug eyes when I mentioned that about theirs lol.
The 2nd was born just after the first turned 2...so a newborn and a potty trainer
Also she regressed badly with potty training with baby there.
She's 3.5 now and still has accidents once in a while especially overnight.
I got my son GoodNights- not the disposables, but they are real underwear with a slot to insert a maxi pad type liner- very cool .
Funny thing is my son hasn't peed in one yet overnight- but I don't wanna chance it yet as he is in my bed till he's deep enough asleep to put him in his bed lol.
Otherwise he just keeps coming to "tell me or show me " things lol

 

[claireybell]

Dobby- Did you have a D&C? I know these are harder on the body even though it's over sooner, but you've also been stressed so GI could be more like it.

I told him, he doesn't seem too excited, I think he feels a little jealous already, he's been telling me he's a baby and that we should play and pretend like he's a baby. I guess that's the down side of being an only child for almost 3.5 years.

Camps, do you have any baby/pregnancy books or scan piccys from when he was in your tum? Riley didnt understand at first as he was 'the baby' but im not in your tummy lol! Started showung him some pics of babys in the tummy & hes understanding now, he likes to watch the Babycentre videos on my App aww then he kisses my belly so cute

 

[claireybell]

So sorry you had a D&C dobs, i knew you were contemplating it but wasnt sure & didnt want to pry at the time, my friend had one before xmas, they've just started ttc again now but shes very hormonal about it all & her 2 periods since were very painful & after ov'ing was ouchy aswell like your period is at the moment, so glad there was nothing serious going on though when you went to Hospital.

Haha gigs that would be soooo Ironic to typically fall preggers now lol! I will however keep everything crossed for this cycle anyways

J im so glad your son has seen a lie from your Mum re picking him up from work!! Maybe he might realise the sun doesnt always shine outta the butt!! Sorry yoir going through the hassles with your mum & the house though, looking for a new abode def seems less stressful! The stress could even be linked with the ttc stuff?

I def didnt want a newborn & a toddler/preschooler in nappies to change - 2 lots of s**t?! No thanks lol! Was so lucky with Riley he got the pull ups & toilet training straight away, was so chuffed pooping in the beginning we had a sticker chart

Today my fruit ticker is a Lemon! Im 14 weeks today & now coming into my 2nd trimester OMG.. Not liking how mega quick this is going! Terrors of birth & due date will be here in a blink

 

[campn]

My sister had two miscarriages and the first one miscarried naturally WHILE she was at work, she still showed up to work the next day. I can't believe how strong she was about it all, the second (literally right after the first) she had to go for a D&C and it broke my heart cause she's my baby sister. Luckily now she's pregnant again and almost 12 weeks so this one is sticky hopefully!

Most of my friends got pregnant when their kids turned 12 months! Like seriously what are you doing!? My breastfeeding journey was so traumatic to me and the whole first few weeks messed me up so bad so I really needed time to get over it.

Claire- Yay for a lemon! It's definitely going by so fast! I think once we're over the first few terrifying weeks we're suddenly like "need to make baby sleep arrangements! Where's the car seat!? Gotta wash clothes and sterilize my pump!"

 

[DobbyForever]

CB, that is so crazy! I cannot believe you are already at 14 weeks!!! How exciting. I forgot ( I forget a lot lol) have you announced already?

Gigs, thank you for empathezing. I think living through multiple scans a week would be far more stressful than what I went through. You are such an amazing and strong women, and Des is so blessed to have you.

Campn, agreed that maybe some ultrasound pics might help conceptually. Also, involvement is so huge. I babysit a lot in high school/college with 3s and 1s. The older sibs who gave a shit were invested in helping. Like them go baby stuff shopping, let them help with the baby. I have a kid in my class whose mom will not let him hold, touch, change, or play with his baby sister. The emotional damage it causes him is so disgusting. He was the baby for 7 years and similarly (more so) flipped out when mom told him. But his teacher suggested she show him the ultrasound pics and that's when he fell in love with his baby sister

 

[DobbyForever]

Oh and the plan is I have no plan r_r because I don't know what I want. SO was shockingly so good with my cousin's 10m, 4, 8, and 10 year old yesterday that seeing him in that light had my ovaries in overdrive. But! He has saved my life twice this week, and I have never been more in love with him. I want him to take the journey with me again. No fear. Plus, I want my drunken honeymoon. Chlcoh so no idea lol

 

[claireybell]

Id def want my drunken honeymoon aswell Dobs lol! You & SO are meant to have babies whether its sooner or later hun, sometimes theres no rushing these things, you'll make a lovely mumma

We've not officially 'announced' the pg as yet but a few close people know, had my screening letters through today for Downes, Pataus & Edwars syndrome & all were low risk or i was 'Not classed as higher risk' which im guessing is the same?! So anyhow, il be officially telling my boss & supervisor on Monday! I never Facebook announced with Riley until 20weeks & then i think it was 'Im team blue' lol!

 

[JLM73]

CB YES most my short fuse for her snooping annoying ocd behaviors etc is due to all this drama TTC- which she doen't know about bcuz she already said I should have never had more than 1 kid
She thinks HER opinions about marriage, kids, church, food etc are the ONLY right ones grrr
Also she is quick to say YOU COULDNT even keep a husband!!
Nevermind I divorced HIM and he's an ass and was abusive

So NO way am i even sharing ttc and not even bfp until like 20 wks
Hope I've moved by then lol.

 

[claireybell]

Ohh i def wasnt hinting to tell her about the ttc Lol! & 1 child?? Why?..

Hows your Saturday evening? Mines Harry Potter film & a bag of cheesy puffs lol

 

[DobbyForever]

J, hoping you a moved by then too! My mom is quick to say when I should or should not have kids. But with mine I know it is purely a wants what's easiest for me.

Um I spent all morning getting baby shower shit and baby shower shopping at the most ghetto babies r us! I couldn't find half the stuff on the registry and the stuff I could all had parts stolen out of it!!!! WTF. Sigh. But I got some great decor from party city so I'm over it.

 

[campn]

Dobby- Are you feeling better hun? I hope all that pain is gone! Today I managed to sleep until 9:30 and then take a nap around 2. I can tell the fatigue is gonna be bad with this pregnancy, more so than nausea. DH is good about letting me take naps though.

The inlaws are coming over tomorrow so we've been cleaning cause they're very judgemental towards me and everything I do. Just gotta hide all baby books and numerous pregnancy tests I've taken we're telling them next weekend so it's just one more week anyway.

How are you ladies feeling today!? Sending lots of love to each one of you!

 

[mrs.green2015]

I've been feeling very down today. As we all get when AF hits. Just realized if we don't catch an egg this cycle not only will we have been trying for a year but next month I'll be out of the country away from DH during my fertile days!

 

[campn]

I've been feeling very down today. As we all get when AF hits. Just realized if we don't catch an egg this cycle not only will we have been trying for a year but next month I'll be out of the country away from DH during my fertile days!

That wicked lady ain't fun at all! Did you get your OPKS yet!? Just go all out this cycle! I used preseed, soft cups, OPKS, and put my feet up against the wall for like 30 minutes (while I played doodle jump on my phone hehe) and BD like bunnies! I really hope this is your cycle Greens!