General chatter while we wait (and commentary on the "pull out method")

[mrs.green2015]

Wookie- so sorry you're conflicted. It must be really tough especially since it's about babies and our womanly hormones take over.

Cb- how was your appointment??

 

[campn]

wookie- It's understandable, you're having to say goodbye to this season of life that you've enjoyed so much, that season of our reproductive years is short but you still have so many awesome seasons ahead of you! Like sleeping all you want, not changing diapers or wiping crayons off your walls!
When you can go out and leave your kids at home without needing a babysitter and you come back to chores done! AHHHH...

 

[campn]

Gigs- My DH is also a big gamer, he hid it so well when we were dating cause if I knew I'd have been like BYE! It bugs me when I ask him to do something now and he says "hun I can't, middle of a game!"

But really all men have a hobby some way or another, I'd rather he stays home and play video games rather than go out "with the boys" and go drinking or gambling.

 

[JLM73]

cd4...nothing exciting...
I hate this part of ttc...the annoying TWW before the real TWW...
feel like I am shipwrecked, waiting for rescue

 

[gigglebox]

Campn, yes! I agree. I'm totally fine with the games.

J, i hear you on that. It's the worst...worse maybe even than the time between knowing you aren't pregnant and waiting for af to show up...because at leatst you know she's coming and when. Waiting to ovulate is torture.

F that, it's all torture.

I was talking to hubs last night, and he was basically saying how men don't understand women wanting to be pregnant, that they are excited for the older kid stages while women crave the pregnancy and babies. I don't 100% agree since i hate the infant stage...but we did conclude that men want children, but women NEED them.

 

[campn]

Gigs- I wanted kids so badly but I still seriously don't get why I do, or why most women do! A big part of it must be instinct cause why else in the world would I want to push out a person out of my "fun zone"? I don't get it.

 

[JLM73]

Gigs
I have always said we feel the NEED to be pregnant and have babies because it's what our bodies are meant to do as Women.
Hell every female species on the planet was mean to reproduce! Period.
(save male seahorses...no idea what happened there lol)
But real talk- we were meant to reproduce, and when the body doesn't pull thru for such a basic function...it feels like we are not "whole" or like something is very wrong with us, especially when nearly anywhere you look while out n about we see preggos...

Men are just more detached- baby making for them FEELS no different than having a solo date with their handTMI- stroke stroke....finish.
Their "end" is the same whether they are alone or with a woman, or an orgy lol.

For us baby making changes our chemistry, our bodies, hell it even shoves all our organs into positions they never were before!

I just write the detached thing of men into caveman thinking...
But seriously - what is cooler than having the ability to CREATE a new life- to create a new human being??

 

[gigglebox]

Ugh, so true. It does make you feel inadequate to "fail" at reproducing...i know it's really not failure, but man, i feel like a loser today.

Especially since i'm doing the exact. Same. Thing. I do every month...which is obsessively pour over the interwebs for false hope of a late bfp.

Anyway...

T minus 20 minutes until i can sob into a box of chocolates.

For the record, i still feel symptomatic and it's pissing me off.

 

[campn]

Gigs- I felt the same way hun with every bfn I felt like I failed a test, which technically maybe I did, but doesn't mean we are failures or losers, just means that my egg just wasn't fertilized this cycle! It's hard to see it when you're still ttcing but once you get this BFP you will! And I know that will happen so soon for you. Des will be getting a sibling in 2016!

 

[pandacub]

Grr, I wrote a whole post this morning before work and forgot to press send :doh:
Wookie, I'm totally with you on feeling conflicted. Although I KNOW that it is not the right time to conveive, there is nothing more I want to then have another baby. But I want it to be different than when I had my first... I want to have all my fingers crossed for a BFP, and tell the father and have him excited, and to go baby clothes shopping together, and have someone there to go out at 9pm when I'm craving ice cream. When I told Jacobs dad I was pregnant, he broke up with me a few weeks later and promptly started seeing someone else. He's a half assed dad and he pisses me off.
Saying that though, I have actually planned out several (very detailed!) scenarios of what I could do if I did fall pregnant now! Christ, I've even been looking up maternity pay and the like.

I think I will cry, whatever the result is

I can't keep up with who has said what I remember someone was going for a scan today though, hope it went well!

 

[claireybell]

Arggghhhh just wrote out a whole post & knocked the google button on my phone! FFS! Now its all gone & im cursing grrr!!

 

[claireybell]

My mw apt went well, 12wk scan next thursday eee!

Hang in there Gigs its gonna happen hun! 2016 in the coming few months is gonna be it for you ttc'ers and.. Period may even yet not show the face

J bird so another 7 days or so until pending ov'ing.. Eee! Did you manage to get donor booked for a couple of visits this cycle?? )))

Omg my SO watches repetitive crap on tele! I only get a look in when he falls aslerp on sofa in eve lol! He loves Storage Wars or Pawn stars .. Great Riley loves to watch on repeat, bob the builder or Paw Patrol zzzzZ! Save me hahaa

 

[gigglebox]

Yay cb! Can't wait to oogle your scan and have a guess at the gender.

Love storage wars...i forgot about that show. I'll have to see if it's on netflix

 

[pacificlove]

OMG we may be able to try and catch next months egg already! Aim for the February egg and not the March one as I thought this whole time!!

DH is confirming it and I'll let you know tomorrow, so hopeful today Our new property has a cottage (beside the main house) on it and the tenant is leaving it at the end of the month. Since we already own the property but seller isn't leaving it until March 1st the realtor suggested that we ask the seller if we could occupy the cottage until then.

CB: happy to hear your scan went well

Off to read back a few pages now

 

[mrs.green2015]

That's amazing news pl!!! That sounds so promising I don't see why the seller would care if they already had Someone living there

 

[pacificlove]

Ladies you all sound like you are under the weather... C'mon over: I have lots of alcohol in the freezer. Been trying to lighten the food and beverage load to take onto the road with us. I finished the Vodka on some tomato juice with some other spices on the weekend.
I am in the last 2 weeks of work, and they have been tough. C'mon over!


Gigs, sorry your tests still haven't turned into a BFP...

Mrs: technically the previous owner is still "entitled to quiet enjoyment" whatever that means.... can I bring 80 ducks?

 

[JLM73]

Pacific great news on the ttc move up!

AFM mom is being a total B today.
She had a tooth pulled and is acting like she just had heart surgery.
My sympathy only runs so far, as we both have medical backgrounds and both know it wasn't major surgery.
I am without sleep meds the last 6 days, and she has no sympathy for me.
She just lectured me about sleeping during the day
As soon as I pointed out people in pain don't take time to argue moot points for 20 mins, she stormed off to her room....
Grrrr
Really could have used a lotto win yesterday....

 

[campn]

J- Awww so sorry hun! I think people are at their worst when they're in pain, so maybe you should avoid her for a while. I'm sorry you haven't been sleeping that's torture! Have you tried doing a bedtime routine that tells your brain it's time to sleep? I usually watch something on tv that isn't brain stimulating and turn off all lights 2 hours before I'm ready to sleep.

 

[gigglebox]

PL!!! Omg so excited for you! Lol, quiet ducks....what are those?

Yeah, i'm bitter and had a pity party in my car about not being pregnant yet again...but i feel slightly better after reading, in a fair amount of detail, how much has to happen for pregnancy to occur. Tonight I learned that even if an egg is released, it still has to be "picked up" by the fallopian tube. I didn't realize that was a step in the process! Like i kind of just imagined it exploded straight into the tube, kwim? And then it sits for 30 hours before it moves further along in the tube, and that's when fertilization happens. So then it rockets into the uterus, and THEN it floats about,dividing and whatnot while drifting to an implantation spot. So according to this article on a medical site which i wish i could link, that whole thing about taking 6-ish days to reach the uterus is incorrect.

KNOWLEDGE. The more you know...

Anyway.

How tf do we ever conceive?! Such odds against us!

Hmm...

Well J, I too am sleep deprived. Can you tell by my ranting? I have no problem getting to sleep initially, my problem is waking up in the middle of the night...then i can't shut my brain off.

And wtf, your mom is off her rocker, dude. *raises glass* here's to the two of us having amazing prosperous businesses this year and great success at the markets!

 

[DobbyForever]

PL, congrats on the exciting news! Glad the house is coming together, and I missed a lot but you bought this person's house... The word entitled bothers me. Ducks can be soothing. Ish. hahaha

Gigs hugs hugs.

J also hugs hugs. Sorry mom is a poopy person again. I agree with trying to do something quiet, calm, dark, and soothing. Mindless tv is my go to, but I need like 9-11 hours of sleep a night so I'm pretty much out by the time I hit the sheets.

Everyone else, I have a huge headache so I haven't read past this page. Sorry! Sending positive vibes your ways though!