General chatter while we wait (and commentary on the "pull out method")

[campn]

Greenie and gigs- Thank you ladies for being comforting and reassuring. I can't help but think of the worst and googling things sometimes is the worst thing to do. I'm just trying to make it until the betas come back.

Jlm- I'm glad you stood your ground and refused to take him. He's gotta know that this kind of behavior will change your relationship and he can't just get whatever he wants from you cause he needs it.
Hope you find another (better) donor. I know you'll figure out something! 14 months of trying is a long time but remember that you don't have a "live in" penis so it's probably why it's taking long.

 

[gigglebox]

Ahhh J i know, i'm sorry...and i don't feel the least bit sorry for your mother getting used by your son. I wish ttc wasn't taking so long i know you seem pretty sure it's an egg quality issue...if that's the case, it's only a matter of time and the longer it takes, the closer you're getting. Hope it isn't long now!

 

[JLM73]

Not sure how many of you remember Lost7 ( now Lost9)
But she finally got her BFP 2 days ago after both she and Fiance were diagnosed with fertility issues.
Just thought I would share...

 

[campn]

Not sure how many of you remember Lost7 ( now Lost9)
But she finally got her BFP 2 days ago after both she and Fiance were diagnosed with fertility issues.
Just thought I would share...

I saw that. I was truly happy for her. She seemed like she was really struggling emotionally badly with it all so I'm glad her wait is finally over. Just goes to show, it will most of the time end with a BFP!

 

[DobbyForever]

Campn, try to not worry. Like everyone said, you are measuring right on track to the day! Remember, that early on a day can make or break what you see. Heck, they couldn't find my blob at my early scan and thankfully I can't it as she was pulling out and was like MY BABY IS RIGHT THERE YOU MORON! Except I didn't say it like that. I am also the one who pointed out the second sac. So sometimes they miss things, too. Do you know when you get your betas back? Hopefully, that will ease your mind a bit.

J, I'm glad you stood your ground. It sucks that it was something so important, but maybe that will help the lesson sink in. I really hope you can get the situation sorted because your mom does sound bat shit, and I had bat shit grandparents and I HATED being around them as a kid. Once I hit adulthood, I cut them out of my life almost entirely. Sorry your son is abusing his relationship with your mom to get what he wants. Can't say I blame him though ahhaha does she want to send me 2k for christmas? but not laughing

PL, so glad you can move in! Stinky that the weather won't allow for it/ will make it a challenge if you go this weekend.

Gigs, how are things on your end? I feel like you do a lot of responding to us and not enough divulging the secrets of you.

To anybody i missed, I'm sorry

AFM, cramping like AF is coming. I forgot to eat lunch today because I worked through lunch so I was starving and couldn't be bothered to wait to get home so I killed two McChickens and a McDouble (curse you McPick 2 for $2!)... After the first two sandwiches, I wanted to puke. Almost did. But I was so hungry that I ate another. And now I want to eat another. UGH I need to remember to eat lunch.

Afternoon tests were bfn as much as I wish I saw something. I thought I might have seen something, but once they were completely dry it was clear there wasn't anything there. Oh well. Yeah. Idk. The dilemma. A surprise bfp would be fine eventually, but I don't want to ttc without him knowing. My cousins always use babies/ getting pregnant to "fix" their relationships or trap their men and I don't want to be that person. Especially not to him. I have all of AF to think about it though.

Damn... that was a long post. That's what happens when I post from my computer and not phone haha.

Oh and congrats to Lost9!!!

 

[campn]

Dobby- Thank you hun! I can't believe your tech totally missed an entire gestational sac! Sometimes they're in such a rush they don't really look throughly. My scan lasted 4-5 minutes!

Whenever I skip lunch or breakfast I feel like eating an entire village after! I don't do good with skipping meals at all. I turn into this mean ugly monster. I'm sorry SO is being hard to read, I wouldn't say you would be trapping him, but I get what you're saying. Sorry about the BFNs hun, but like you said it'll at least give you time to think about it and talk to your SO about what you want. You also deserve to get what you want in life especially that you're the girl and the one doing all the work!
Too bad his folks just want him to settle for a church girl. Going to church isn't gonna make her "a dream perfect girl!" Does he even go to church?

I'm not sure how long betas take to come back?? I think I'll find out relatively soon. I've been a little down today about it all just thinking of what if and what if. It took us a longish time to conceive and if this pregnancy doesn't continue I've no idea how I'll get the motivation and heart to try again for who knows how long. Just jumping to conclusions here really. Hopefully it's just a baby who is good at hide and seek!

 

[DobbyForever]

No, he does not go to church lol. He runs around saying "Hail Satan" jokingly r_r He's something something pageanistic (sp?) which is just code for not religious. He's an atheist who makes fun of religion. I'm over them/ it. I'll play nicey nice if they ever grow up, but I'm not stressing over it.

What insurance do you have if you don't mind me asking? I have Kaiser and they get your results by late evening. I would go in at 3-4 and get my results either when I went to bed (9-10pm) or when I wake up in the morning (5am) BUT I called in. My gyn always emailed but that takes longer.

Reeeeellllaaaaxxxx

 

[DobbyForever]

My afternoon bfn for your viewing pleasure

 

[gigglebox]

Lol Dobs...i don't have a whole lot going on currently. I'm an open book, ask away if you're itching to ask something!

Hmmm...well I totally feel gloat-y and like a bad ass today because i cut my own hair and i actually like it. So there's that. It was a decision made out of frugality and impatience...my hair felt horrible and damaged, but i didn't want to pay an arm and a leg for a cut, plus I'm snowed in...so i was like SCREW IT i'll cut it myself! Really thought i'd butcher it and end up having to pay someone to fix it, but i figured, hey, it's just hair, and it's blue and stupid anyway so why not?

I don't remember Lost7, but I do have bad memory. Was she on this thread?

Funny story of my FIL...he's definitely a church goer...found God a year or two ago. He has two divorces under his belt...but he found a new lady friend at church...and the kicker? She's married. Definitely dragging him along, i'm afraid, as he believes she's going to leave her husband any time now. Poor guy (both of them).

Gotta love irony.

 

[DobbyForever]

Awwww your poor FIL! That sucks. Nothing to ask, was just curious how your life is going. Your hair is blue?! WHAT?!

 

[gigglebox]

Yeah....it's blue. I get bored easily, and i don't have a boss. Maybe i'll take a selfie when i have some make up on.

 

[campn]

I have Aetna, def don't mind you asking! I think we are over this now
Hahaha yeah I really doubt his personality will mesh with church girls. I'm a Christian and my personality never matched some of them church boys.

I just threw up my dinner. I've felt pretty awful all day. Funny thing is it was chickfila, I threw up chickfila with DS too. What are the chances huh!? Chickfila what is it with you!?

Gigs- you're so awesome and badass! I've done that but it was a disaster. I'm not trusted with cutting anything. I even butcher my nails when I cut them! You should post a pic!

Your poor FIL; I really don't get why people do that sometimes, just lead you on then leave you. I remember that happening to be during my single days. My DH can be so annoying some days but I'm happy I'm done with dating!

 

[campn]

I just realized you said to had BLUE hair!!?? Lady you just won coolest mom of the year award!

 

[DobbyForever]

I can't stop reading Chick-fil-a as chick-fill-uh lol. I'm sorry you threw it up though! My mom's thing was strawberry milkshakes from McDonald's. Every pregnancy never failed to make her gag. Even if she wasn't drinking it. Just thinking about them.

Gigs, I love it. My friends dye their hair all sorts of awesome. My hair is too curly/ too broke/ grows too fast

 

[TexasRider]

Seriously feeling down at the moment... Hubs and I have decent paying jobs we make around $60,000 a year which in this area isn't bad. However our house needs some renovation and foundation work and he needs a newer truck. His truck is 20 years old. I'm just worried that if we do those things and then get pregnant we won't be able to afford another baby. Daycare and whatnot is expensive. My husband tells me not to worry till we have to. He says this with a smile on his face so I know he wants more babies it's just really hard for me to let it go... I know it's silly to worry about problems before it happens but I can't help it...

 

[DobbyForever]

Hugs. It's ok. I had to shut a thread down once because everybody jumped down my throat for having a panic attack over affording daycare as a single mom in the bay area back in the day.

All I can say is, no matter how much you make there will always be something. Unless you're my freaking stepbrother and his wife who pull in like 300k a year combined. I hate them lol. They're pretty and their kids are pretty and their house is pretty. ANYWAY I digress. Point is, if my cousin and her boyfriend can find a way to keep their combined brady brunch level family (7 kids) fed and clothes with their not much more than min wage jobs then anybody can do it. Heck, my cousin keeps her baby fed and happy and she doesn't work and her bf is a driver for Red Bull before that he worked stocking at Whole Foods. People make it work somehow. So I agree, take care of what needs to be taken care of and you'll find a way to make things work when you fall. Promise.

 

[campn]

Texas- Finances is something that makes everyone pull their hair out, and we all struggle with it from time to time, especially when you throw a pregnancy or a baby into it. (I know cause I just paid $350 for today's appointment and scan)

You'll manage and you'll find a way to make it work. Maybe try to cut back on some things? We want to cut cable for example and things like that.

 

[DobbyForever]

Can I be a whiney baby and complain? My uterus is on fire tell tale sign AF is gearing up. I don't want my period! Ready to throw a full on tantrum

 

[gigglebox]

Awww Dobs, boo!!! Sorry you have to have "the talk" now hope it goes swimmingly (get it? Swimmers? Sperm? Eh, never mind.)

Campn, sorry about the illness. Any feelings on boy or girl yet?

Tex, just echoing what everyone is saying, you'll find a way to make it work

My hair feels lovely and smooth. I can't stop touching it.

 

[DobbyForever]

Gigs, pics or it didn't happen

Thanks. Sigh. Yeah. Idk. Now that we set a concrete date, I don't know. If this cycle isn't it then I want to wait. I don't want to be pregnant during my commitment ceremony/ honeymoon and I don't want to leave a young baby behind for 1-2 weeks while I'm off having a good time. I don't even think you can! Omg. He'd be on formula and I'd be pumping for nothing. Or I could sell my breast milk for two weeks... r_r idk. The pms is real. I feel like I'm out of control of my emotions/ brain right now