General chatter while we wait (and commentary on the "pull out method")

[gigglebox]

I don't know, man...if you have someone you really trust, a break from baby could be absolute bliss...i know i needed it in those first months (went to vegas when he was 8 months for a couple days).

That said...being pregnant during your ceremony would suck because booze.

 

[DobbyForever]

My mom would watch, and I trust her with my life. She loves babies so other than the night waking, but she's a teacher as well so she will be on vacation. Plus, my stepdad is semiretired and the boys will be on summer vacation before college so sleepless nights would be ok. Idk. Jumping ahead of myself.

 

[gigglebox]

I don't know. I still think it might be worthwhile to have the ntnp conversation then. If he agrees, yay! And you clearly have a plan for baby. If not, then no difference in what's already planned, right? Unless you think he's gonna lose his shit...

 

[DobbyForever]

He'll lose his shit. Lol. He's so overwhelmed with work right now. Mostly because he has been ignoring his obligations because we were having such a hard time with TTC/ the loss/me losing my mind. We finally just got to a good place this last weekend minus my meltdown. He's started moving his stuff in and finally getting his work done. He needs like zero stress right now. He was pretty clear he did not want to try any time soon after our loss, and nothing has changed for him to change his mind logically.

 

[gigglebox]

Ok. Fair enough. Are you going back on bcp?

 

[DobbyForever]

I don't want to. I forgot how much I hate the hormones. But I guess I wouldn't have much other choice

 

[gigglebox]

What if you told him you don't like it and bc is up to him going forward?

 

[TexasRider]

Thanks everyone I know we could figure out a way to make it work when we need to. Step 1 is fix the house and then see how much truck we can afford and go from there.... If I get pregnant we will deal with it then. No point in borrowing trouble.

Dobby I agree with the not wanting to be pregnant on your wedding day. I was pregnant on mine with this husband and while I was thrilled to be pregnant it would have been nice to drink and have a honeymoon. We didn't have one to save money and we got married at the courthouse. But both of us had been married before so neither one of us wanted a big wedding.

 

[campn]

Gigs- I think girl? But I think I've said it before, I've pretty awful maternal instincts when it comes to that! Yes yes pic please!!!

Dobby- oh that fire AF feeling is spot on! I've had cycles that were so bad I couldn't sleep all night. Also yeah you wouldn't want to leave a newborn with anyone! I remember at the hospital when they took my DS after he was born to check him I just wanted him back ASAP. I hated when visitors came and took him from me and I had to be okay and polite about it!? GIVE ME MY BABY NOW! Pumping sucks too (no pun). I did it for 6 miserable weeks cause someone wouldn't latch!
I remember thinking the pump was starting to talk to me at 3 am.

Plz don't go back on birth control if it didn't agree with you. We didn't want kids after DS for a while but the pill never crossed my mind. Like do I need even more side effects? Being a woman is a huge side effect as it is!

 

[DobbyForever]

I loved the pill until I hit 25. Idk my body decided to freak the eff out at 25. If I tell him it is up to him then he will freeze sperm and get a vasectomy. I'm not kidding. It's been discussed.

Campn, hoping you get your little girl! I know you'll be happy either way, but sending girly vibes your way.

Tex, hoping you can get the house fixed and new truck soon and without breaking the bank.

Idk I'm having a pity party. My boss is annoying me and I am stuck with her all morning tomorrow. Not looking forward to that. Been avoiding her all ... This academic year lol. I almost cried in a meeting with her today.

 

[gigglebox]

Hormones are the worst. Hope she doesn't bust your balls today.

Campn, i just wanted sleep lol...anyone who would take the baby so i could sleep more was fine by me. That has still not changed hahaha

I'm losing track of everyone's cycles here. Where are we all at? I. Miscalculated, thought i was 11dpo two days ago...i'm actually only 12dpo today.

I'm finding, i guess because i was so set on no more kids before, and because some days i'm like, "should we....?", baby making sex gives me a bit of anxiety...i don't like that. I'm thinking of just having sex for sex's sake this cycle, but damn, it's, like, impossible to ignore the fertility signs and just try to get on with things and put baby making out of my mind...which makes the inevitable negative all that much harder. It's all fine until the damn tww.

Arrrgggghhhh.

 

[DobbyForever]

Oh Gigs, I am so sorry sex has turned stressful. I wish I could say throw the opks away and just have fun, but I know once you ttc and know your body you are hypersensitive to your signs. Hugs

I'm 11dpo still in bed so have not tested. Woke up at 4:45 and been temping since so I get an accurate but within time frame temp. 5/7 non bfp charts were this high 11dpo, some with a rise like today's. So not particularly optimistic.

 

[claireybell]

Hello my pretties

& omg Gigs you have blue hair?? Awesome!! Pics needed please hehee!!

If bc pills dont agree with you Dobs just avoid the 'hot' days of your cycle to avoid pg hun, i was always fine on bc up until i had a loss in 2013, i really struggled to start taking it again as it made me realise i did kinda want another but not straight away, i wouldve quite happily stayed off it .. Hopefully you & SO can come to a baby making agreement in the long run its great that you've both set an official date though

Campn i wouldnt worry about what was seen on the scan hun, when i had my 7+1 scan i measured much less but thinkmof 12wk scans & dates get put back/forward, every baby grows at a diff rate so in just a matter of days that lil bubba will appear in there uk never scans any earlier than 7 wks as usually nothing can be seen, try & relax hun is your next scan next Monday?

 

[claireybell]

Feeling your stress with ttc Gigs, i had it with Riley & sex becsme a chore, SO & i starting bitching it was rubbish! Do you have a Thermometre to temp? I know the cycle i wanted to see if i def was ovulating after 5/6 months trying & nothing, so it was an experiment for me & the stress went that cycle because i was focused on something else not direct bd'ing & if we had sex that was fine, along with opks that cycle, my ovulation was a good 3 days or so after positive opks, we kept missing our window & i happened to fall that cycle maybe a worth a go?

 

[pacificlove]

Gigs, can you just try and forget where you are in your cycle? If it gives you anxiety try and not pay attention. Play with hubby, a d forget about why you are having sex ( beside pleasure). Seems like a big majority of people get pregnant when not trying....

Dobs:. The first BC I was as on worked wonderfully for me. Then the prescription ran out and I had a new doctor and he put me on something else. The moods were terrible, I still feel horrible for hubby. After a few nights of attempted conversation with hubby we agreed that I should go off it. So that was 2 years ago. then we went back to condoms or no sex around the fertile days and it has worked. We pulled the last goalie last fall.
What I am saying, if the birth control pill isn't working, change it or stop it. That is what has worked for me.

Sorry, on my phone so I am a bit short hope it all makes sense

 

[mrs.green2015]

Sorry you're feeling stressed gigs. I think we've all been there.

 

[gigglebox]

Omg so many selfies on my phone now lol

Pl, i'd love to just not pay attention but my mittleschmerz (is that spelling right?) makes it impossible.

 

[gigglebox]

P.s. That's my bummin' around shirt. I don't actually choose to wear orange in public. It's not cute.

 

[campn]

Gigs- I did too! I remember first time I had 15 minutes to shower, I remember feeling SOA HAPPY I'm getting to shower. Then half way I hear DS crying and I was like oh come on!
Sorry sex is starting to feel stressful hun, honestly most of our BD was purely business and wasn't all that romantic.

Maybe just stop the OPKS and just go by secondary signs? Like cm and all that? You'll just wing sex and do it when you feel like it.

Claire- I think I just make smaller babies, but I thought this early all babies grow the same rate? I remember with DS at 15 weeks the tech told me I must be earlier than 15 weeks but I wasn't. I hope that's the case. I took an IC this morning and the line is still so dark so I'm hopeful I'm just too early still.

 

[mrs.green2015]

Love the hair gig! Our sex was getting to be all business which is partly why we're ntnp