General chatter while we wait (and commentary on the "pull out method")

[mommyhopeful2]

I can't remember the last time I got bit by a mosquito lol and I have super sweet blood so when I go to Thailand I step off of the plane and have 5 bites by the time I have walked to the gate hahaha.

We don't have a safe word. Well, we follow the traditional code: green means we're all good, yellow means it hurts but I can take it, and red means you have to stop. We actually never end up needing words. He just reads my body language and my tone and can immediately tell. He also knows what actually hurts me versus I act like it hurts. We have never had to stop-stop, just take a three second catch my breath deal.

I cried like 5x at work today setting up my coworkers baby shower. I have two baby showers this month. r_r

MH2, I'm a sub as well. You may have to take the first step. The first time SO and I had sex (lol aka the first night we met HAHAHAHAHAHA such a slore) he was playing the romantic card. We had wine and were cuddling. I was like F* THAT! Your muscles are hot choke me! Once that barrier was crossed, his Dom came out and I got to go back to being a sub.

Greenie, good luck with the wondfo opks!

A girl can hope lol

 

[DobbyForever]

You might even just have to do some nonverbal guidance. Rather than asking him to be physical, just guide his hands to do it.

 

[DobbyForever]

Finally getting around to watching Grease Live... I'm kind of disappointed. I just feel like the cast isn't coming off as dynamic as the movie cast, and the changes the made to the songs made them less catchy. I do appreciate the African American inclusion, but I don't know. I'm just not in love the way I loved "The Wiz" live minus Dorothy.

 

[campn]

Dobby- Awww hun, can someone else set the showers up?? I'm all for being happy for others and celebrating them but obviously your emotional needs should come first. You come first.

And that snack sounds delish! I love those flaming hot Cheetos so much.

 

[DobbyForever]

The problem is, I did that. When I first lost my babies, I passed the responsibility off. Then, I came back from winter break to find out nobody had set up a date/ talked to her about it. Nobody arranged the extended lunch supervision. Nobody had time to make a diaper cake or get decor. Money hadn't even been collected until today! So I'm shopping tomorrow. We also offer that people can bring a personal gift, the social committee makes a diaper cake on behalf of the staff, or you can donate money and I'll go buy stuff for them. But this year is extra stressful and they have families so if I don't do it then it won't get done.

 

[gigglebox]

Oh i forgot to comment on the wondfos--i like them, however i have no idea how they work since mine have always been (accurately) negative. They have pretty favorable reviews though. Seems the gen con is they're great for early detection, but not progression.

Ya know, i don't even bother with remakes of anything anymore. They just can't hold a flame to the original. I tried with sound of music live but....it's just not the same. And you can't help but compare! It's the same dang story!

Again, dobs, love how wholesome you look but naughty you are lol. Hope, let us know if you make any progress with him! I have a friend who was in a similar state. Her guy was super timid with sex, even though they'd been together for YEARS. I think they had the stereotypical fight followed by angry sex, and it was like a "f me like you want to or i'm leaving for someone who will" kind of set up...and he just let go. She said it was the hottest sex she'd ever had.

Not that i'm encouraging a fight. My point is sometimes they need a little push in the right direction.

That said, we're pretty vanilla in the sex realm, too. Well...kind of. What can i say, i still love a good toy used on me now and again. Call it leftovers from my lesbian days

 

[gigglebox]

Ahh dobs, i hate when teammates/coworkers drop the ball. Wtf. Is there anyone (a friend there?) that you can personally pass things off to? Sometimes when you directly appoint a person, they man up.

 

[campn]

Awww Dobby bless your heart, it's so sweet of you. Maybe you can find w colleague to help you a bit so it's not just you with your own mind thinking about it all, you know? Having someone else there might help you with that. Hopefully when it's YOUR turn someone awesome like you will throw you a wonderful shower

Do you guys watch Teen Mom? I just started watching it again and saw Catelynn who gave up her daughter for adoption still crying over it like 6 years after. It broke my heart! She still sees her as it's an open adoption but that has got to be even harder.

 

[campn]

Gigs- You were a lesbian!? This thread just gets better and better!

 

[gigglebox]

Lol!!! Yup, i guess you could label me as bi. Hubs was my first "real" boyfriend. I dated a few ladies before him. I'm definitely more attracted to women than i am to men, i think...but really i think i'm technically pansexual. I'm more attracted to people i "click" with and could date a man, a woman, butch dyke, lady boys....whatever. Hubs and i just happened to click incredibly well. I wasn't at all "into" him until we started talking and had hung out a few times.

 

[campn]

I love this thread! I always see lurkers on here who never post cause I think everyone loves to read the things we say! Of course I'm the most boring one and so you all get all the credit.

I was a virgin until I met DH!

 

[DobbyForever]

Oh man I remember when Gigs first dropped that bombshell and we were all floored lol. Loved it.

One person on social com with me knows what happened and earnestly wants to help, but he is overwhelmed. He has two very small kids and is in the same boat as me: second year in a new grade level with all this crazy hitting the fan. Another teacher knows and offered to help. I would be fine, but the problem is everybody wants to talk to me about it. I just want to put the decor up and walk away. I don't want to talk about how good I am about celebrating babies or picking out baby stuff or who is going to throw my shower one day. And it's not their fault. They don't know. But i just want to tell them to stfu and let me decorate in silence.

 

[DobbyForever]

Omg right Campn?! There are so many lurkers and I'm always wondering did we scare them off or are we just really entertaining haha.

Um... my number was like 6 (all serious boyfriends) up until 2013? Yes. After that loss/ that breakup I went on a major trashy sleep with everything that moves phase. That rebound phase doubled my number in like 3 months and triple it within the year. SO is number 21.

OMG one time, I slept with every guy I worked with. It was so awkward because one day I walked in and they were all in the same room and said hi to me at the same time and then looked at each other... My friend was dying of laughter.

 

[gigglebox]

Hmm, maybe just make something up? Like you have a migraine and you mean no offense but would like to work in silence right now, kthanksbye.

Campn, you're not that innocent! I seem to recall a drawer full of naughty lingerie....?

Y'all just reminded me, i wanted to see if there's a sex toy shop near here. I'm guessing not, but you never know...

 

[gigglebox]

LOL dobs you sound like one of my besties. She has slept with a bunch of the guys in our circle of friends...i'm always thinking of how many men int he room she'd been with when we had group gatherings lol.

My number is low, i think. 3 ladies (if you count oral, only 1 if you count f'ing with a toy), and 1.25 men. The first, i was waaayyyy too young to be having sex, and he was nervous and couldn't get it up and he barely got it in, then i just felt like i had to pee so i excused myself then left lol. It was sooooo awkward...i bet he tells the story differently though lol

 

[campn]

Dobby- Honestly lead them on at first and if they seem like they want to talk politely say you don't feel like talking about it. I had a super nosy 60 year old neighbor next door who constantly asked me super personal questions and I'm not the type that like confrontation or being put on the spot like that, so one time I just blurted out "I'm sorry but I don't want to talk about that, hope you understand" she shut up.

I understand people generally mean well, but if they're not close to you I doubt talking about it to strangers helps. Sometimes they're just curious too so that's selfish.


Gigs- Teeeheeeee oh yes! And I've had a few vibeators over the years too! When DH is out of town we exchange very kinky pictures, it ends there though since we're usually so tired so we send pics then fall asleep and snore all night.

Oh and Dobs, maybe we're like sex and the city to some of the lurkers!

 

[TexasRider]

Oh lord.. My number was low at first... I had only been with 2 people before married and 1 was my then husband. I lost my V card to a man who was 25 and I was 17... Long story short he wouldn't commit when I moved out of my moms house so we could be together and that's when I met ex hubs. We got married after 6 months and then we're married for 7 years... I kinda cheated on him with the guy who took my V card and I left ex Hubs and moved in with the guy. 6 months later I was divorced and cheating on that guy too... With a guy who had several... Ahem... Piercings.... Including a very large one on his dick.. Pretty hot actually.. Especially with the sex... Haha anyway after I left the boyfriend my number jumped from 3 to like 10 in 2 months... And then I met my now husband and I stopped whoring around and settled down like a good little lady..Lol

 

[campn]

Haha Texas!! You ladies are awesome and I'm loving all these stories. I fooled around with one guy when I was 17 and he was from Norway and very odd and geeky (foreskin weirded me out) We made out but I don't think I liked him that much so the making out was so weird to me. We are Facebook friends now and talk like once a year but I don't think he's ever got over me dumping him.

I never really dated after, I would just go on many "first dates" but never see them again. I had a very big issue with committing to someone or developing any kind of "romantic feelings"

DH pursed me HARD and that made me develop a sweet spot for him cause he was committed to me since day 1.

 

[Flueky88]

I'm a guilty long time lurker. I love this thread, so interesting. It makes me smile when I'm having a rough day. I'm not sure I could keep up responses to people so I tend to lurk more.

 

[DobbyForever]

Awww Tex! You little minx you! Love it! I would be TERRIFIED if a guy tried to do the dirty with me and had a piercing. Like what if it gets stuck inside of you? Or it hooks into you? Lol. Idk I'm weird.

Campn, you are adorable. Foreskin weirds most people out. I didn't know it was a thing for a while. Talk about naive. Feel bad for the guy I first saw it with. I was tipsy so I couldn't exactly hide my intrigue/displeasure/confusion. Whoops.

Ughhhh so I peed on my last dollar tree just to be 100% sure this wonky period is just a period, but looking back at last month's I had a similar heavy bleed for one day then spotted two days then moved on. Maybe that's just my period now. Shrugs.