General chatter while we wait (and commentary on the "pull out method")

[RedRose19]

this is the first time ive used this thread for its intended purposes but dh and i have decided to try the pull out method even though we know its super risky .. but dh doesnt seem great at his timing and now im like well crap.. im 6 weeks pp now and heard you can be super fertile around that time. i took a opk just incase and it as not positive but was dark so who knows. last pregnancy i got pregnant first cycle we tried. overall im undecided if i deffo want another, before willow i would of said no i was content.. but i think my hormones are super messed up after being separated for 3 weeks. and i feel i was robbed from what should of been the perfect last pregnancy and baby. but i know having more isnt the answer for that specifically.
i guess if it happens i wouldnt be upset , but id question everything because i still dont know how willow got the brain injury. i worry its my fault or my bodys fault. the idea of another baby/child tho doesnt upset me. i just think i should get healthier and fitter first. with pcos though its unpredictable
willow is doing well though, so far shes acting like a normal baby so time will tell

 

[autumnal]

@RedRose19 I'm sure that you did nothing that caused Willow's issues, how could it possibly be your fault! It's just one of those things.. can definitely relate to your feelings, my 3rd was going to be our last but then I had to have a c section with him and could only breastfeed him for a month because he had extreme protein intolerance.. it felt like it wasn't a good way to end things. If you go ahead make sure you're taking vitamins because you probably haven't recovered your minerals yet though!

 

[gigglebox]

this is the first time ive used this thread for its intended purposes but dh and i have decided to try the pull out method even though we know its super risky .. but dh doesnt seem great at his timing and now im like well crap.. im 6 weeks pp now and heard you can be super fertile around that time. i took a opk just incase and it as not positive but was dark so who knows. last pregnancy i got pregnant first cycle we tried. overall im undecided if i deffo want another, before willow i would of said no i was content.. but i think my hormones are super messed up after being separated for 3 weeks. and i feel i was robbed from what should of been the perfect last pregnancy and baby. but i know having more isnt the answer for that specifically.
i guess if it happens i wouldnt be upset , but id question everything because i still dont know how willow got the brain injury. i worry its my fault or my bodys fault. the idea of another baby/child tho doesnt upset me. i just think i should get healthier and fitter first. with pcos though its unpredictable
willow is doing well though, so far shes acting like a normal baby so time will tell

We’ll see if the decision is made for you definitely don’t blame yourself for the trauma oh my goodness!! Sometimes we just simply can’t control what happens. I briefly walked down that same thought process about my overactive uterus before I slapped some sense into myself. We can hold our breath, and close our eyes, and move our limbs. The whole uterus thing and all that goes on in there? Total not ours to decide.

Ok I’ll get off my soapbox now ^_^

We’re still in NICU, no closer to knowing what IS happening, but we know some things that are NOT happening…good news is no brain issues, and no structural issues of his nose or throat. The care team should be meeting tomorrow and then we’ll hopefully have a game plan.

 

[shaescott]

Gigs I’m glad there’s no brain or structural issues. Hopefully either they’ll figure something out that is very treatable, or he’ll just get better on his own.

 

[RedRose19]

@RedRose19 I'm sure that you did nothing that caused Willow's issues, how could it possibly be your fault! It's just one of those things.. can definitely relate to your feelings, my 3rd was going to be our last but then I had to have a c section with him and could only breastfeed him for a month because he had extreme protein intolerance.. it felt like it wasn't a good way to end things. If you go ahead make sure you're taking vitamins because you probably haven't recovered your minerals yet though!

i just have so many what if moments, if i had gotten on the be sooner maybe the waters wouldnt of gone so violently , if i hadnt pushed for the induction 2 days sooner and just left it go until the friday so many thhings. i also keep thinking if i was to have one more should i opt for a c section after the birth. it was abit traumatic. i know its weird thinking these things when i just had a baby but its like ptsd or something making me run through all scenarios for the future