General chatter while we wait (and commentary on the "pull out method")

[gigglebox]

Ohh happy birthday Dobby!! What a place to spend it! Yummm red velvet with cream cheese frosting mmmmmm

And lol just eating better so far. Although I’ve started to walking a bit in my treadmill too

 

[DobbyForever]

Thank you! It was a nice trip. Happy to be home. I'm exhausted, and A is still zooming about haha. I don't even want to look at my credit card bill. The only upside is I had to pay off the hotel/ tickets/ transportation back in May so the only current hit is whatever we spent there. But I will say while their hotels and tickets were cheaper than Disney, everything else was so much more expensive! Definitely gonna byob next time haha.

Nice! That's really awesome that you've seen improvement with a few small changes. I hate that plateau though.

 

[DobbyForever]

I’m gonna marry him and pop out at least one of his babies or he’s going to destroy what little faith in humanity I have left. No in between lol

 

[autumnal]

Happy birthday!! I hope things go well with the new guy!

 

[DobbyForever]

We had the perfect overnight. He took such great care of me in every way possible. I’m one smitten kitten haha

 

[autumnal]

He looks like he's a sweetheart. You look so happy!

 

[JuniBjones]

Aww you guys look so in love ! I love that for you guys

 

[DobbyForever]

Thank you! He asked me to be his girlfriend yesterday. Gave a whole little speech and a bouquet of roses.

 

[shaescott]

Awwww Dobs I love this for you

Sorry guys life has been crazy and this new job is working me to the bone a lot of days. DH and I have been struggling a bit with the transition (just feels like we’re roommates some days and we’ve been arguing), but we’ve recognized it and are working on it, and we planned a date day for tomorrow to try to get some good connection time.

In other news my mom told me last night that she’s worried about us having infertility because we’ve been using withdrawal for 4 years and haven’t ended up pregnant, thanks mom for stressing me out at 11 PM. So now I’m gonna make an appointment to look into my luteal phase spotting issue that’s been going on for over a year now (this cycle it literally started the same day as my positive OPK, like wtf), and if I can convince DH, I’d like to do a sperm analysis too.

 

[autumnal]

Sorry to hear you've been having a rough time.
I don't think you should worry about that. There's a poster in my doctor's office about different birth control methods and "when done perfectly" the withdrawal method is actually surprisingly good

 

[DobbyForever]

Ugh sorry for the stress! I have to agree. I know you two have had some long shot slips but I think this thread is a testament to how effective p/o can be. It’s hard not to stress. That being said, nothing wrong checking under the hood to make sure the cars are running solid. Plus hey if there’s an explanation and solution for the sporting/bleeding, good deal.

I’m really glad you two paused and are gonna do a reset. Social media culture really has us out here thinking happy couples never argue or need to be intentional. I’ve been getting a lot of Michelle Obama talking about her marriage in my reels lately and I love that she speaks so openly about how they’ve had to work at it and go the therapy and have hard conversations and resets. What fun stuff are you gonna get up to for date night?

Thank you ladies! I gained 10lbs in like 3 weeks and he’s been so different from my past bfs. It’s so refreshing. Very I fell for you not your body. You’re beautiful as is regardless of what the scale or one bad day/angle makes me think. Just absolutely such a nice change.

That being said I gained 10lbs in 3 weeks lol. I love to eat and have been on trip after trip or social events with food so once I get back from my SoCal trip it’s on

Also it sounds like I might be able to get the regional center to reimburse for A’s horseback riding! Which would be such a game changer. It’s $95/lesson once a week.