Gift for premature baby?

[TrixieLox]

Hiya, I hope you don't mind me posting here. My friend just gave birth at 32 weeks and I'd very much like to send her beautiful baby a gift. We're both at similar phases of our pregnancy and have supported each other the past few months (especially as we both had IVF). She lives a few hours away so no chance of visiting yet.

I was wondering: would it be annoying, in the midst of her going back and forth between home and hospital etc, to get home to a delivery card asking her to pick up the gift from the local post office (as most gifts can't fit through a letterbox so if she's not at home, she'll get a delivery card)?

Or should I wait until she returns home with the baby to send a gift? So might it be better to send a card now, with a 'gift to follow once you're home with your baby so you don't need to go to post office to pick up!' message?

Or maybe you can recommend gifts that can fit through a letterbox!

Advice appreciated! Many thanks.xx

 

[katy1310]

Aww, you're so thoughtful It's quite hard to know what's best - we found it lovely getting gifts while Sophie was still in, because it made us remember that we had just had a baby, and it was nice to have that "normal" side to it as well, but on the other hand, it was really hard having a house full of baby clothes and gifts and no baby at home till 3 months later! You're probably right about the delivery card thing - it is hard to fit everything in when you're spending most of your time at the hospital.

I think maybe your idea of sending a card, with a note saying a gift will follow when she is home with the baby, is the best idea

Hope your friend and her LO are both doing well. xxxx

 

[Ice Cold Cube]

How about sending a card with a few prem baby hats? There are loads of lovely hand knitted ones on ebay. A blanket for cuddles would also be a great gift x

 

[AP]

I would refrain from the post office idea

 

[AmyB1978]

Could you somehow arrange for food to be delivered to her when you know she is home? Or could you maybe send a gift card for someplace that she could pick up some food, or have it delivered when it is convenient for her? Then send a baby gift once they are all home?

I don't know how my DH and I ate when lo was n the NICU but I do know that the few times food magically appeared for us it was a God send. We were so exhausted, worried, and stressed tat nit having to decide what to eat (and I am talking frozen dinners, nothing fancy) was sooo nice.

As for gifts right now, if she has to go get it I say wait, the last thing they need is having to worry about getting over to pick it up. Baby gifts with a preemie is tough anyhow cause it so much depends o. How her lo is doing and on the person. For me it was a mixture of missing the normalcy of the gift but also baby things were a horrible painful reminder that my beautiful daughter was in the NICU fighting for her life and not home and healthy with me.

You are a great and supportive friend in wanting to do the right thing and coming on to ask... She's lucky to have you.