Going it alone.....single mums support thread.

[kell]

Hey ladies

Haven't seen any similar threads so thought I would start one myself.

My partner walked out on us a month ago and left me planning our wedding and 10 weeks pregnant. Obviously I was in bits and questioned whether I can do this on my own again after pretty much raising my youngest on my own. Four weeks later and I'm feeling stronger, I can do this! I know it will be hard but no matter what has happened, this child needs me.

I can't be the only single mummy on here? I would love to hear from others in the same boat

 

[siobhankerry]

sorry no experience on this .. But you sound like your handling it as best you can! You go girl! all the best to you & your little family xxx

 

[kell]

Thank you

All the best to you and yours too honey xxx

 

[PeaceLoveBaby]

I was a single, teen mom with my first baby for the first 6 years of her life. It IS so very hard..but it's so very amazing for the bond between you and your child. We are unbelievably close. There's a weird psychic connection between us, no lie. We are one person. It's amazing You are doing a great job. Just take it one day at a time, and I look forward to seeing you grow on your journey!

 

[kell]

I was a single, teen mom with my first baby for the first 6 years of her life. It IS so very hard..but it's so very amazing for the bond between you and your child. We are unbelievably close. There's a weird psychic connection between us, no lie. We are one person. It's amazing You are doing a great job. Just take it one day at a time, and I look forward to seeing you grow on your journey!

Thank you It's really nice to hear from someone who has been there too. I am very close to my youngest as most of the time I brought him up on my own.
This baby will likely only have me so I have to be strong and be both parents to him or her. I'm excited and scared but I know I can do it x

 

[sashadoll]

I too was a single Mom after my divorce. My son's father was abusive and I finally left when my son turned 2. It was one of the hardest things I'd ever had to do never thought I'd be doing it alone. But my family supported me and I was able to do what I needed too.

 

[MamaLa]

My OH has been gone for 5 weeks due to work, and definitely feeling like a single mother. Feeling like he skipped town on me and feeling no support from him what's so ever. I'm honestly preparing myself for this. Signed up for daycare assistance, Glad to know my mom will be there when I give birth.

 

[modified]

My husband left last month (or the month before? I forget!) whilst I was fairly pregnant, meant to be moving to a new flat just days later so was now homeless and days after learning my mum is terminal.

Now, I'm happy to be rid of him and single - it's just me and baby and caring for my mum now

 

[Mummy to be x]

Hi kel, so sorry to hear your going through this. What a dick head!! you can do it by yourself you certainly don't need someone like that in your life.

I was on my own with my little Madeleine from when she was three months old for two and a bit years and it was amazing, I wouldn't of wished it any other way, we are so close and like best friends. Huge hugs Hun you can do this, and good on you for been so positive xxx

 

[MamaLa]

I love hearing about the bond with the LO's! It's great!

 

[kell]

Thanks for the replies ladies

It's really helpful to hear from people who have been there or and there now, strong women inspire me to go on

It is so hard but so rewarding! I hope this thread will be of use to anyone who needs it, I don't want it to get lost in the forum.

Amy I thought of you after he left, I remember you were on your own with little lady, always admired you for it

I have another scan soon, hoping to find out sex. Won't be letting him know as he clearly isn't interested, he will no doubt find out through the grapevine though!

Xx

 

[NatalieFar07]

Sorry to hear you are going through this alone. You seem a strong woman so for that I admire you!

 

[modified]

Good luck with your scan! I know I'm not 2nd tri but I hope it's okay I posted - I'm being induced on Thursday and very nervous! He'll get a text when she's born and that's it. He hasn't bothered when I told him all the problems our baby is having so I doubt he'll be bothered that she's born but at least he can't say I ever kept anything from him!

 

[kell]

Thank you Natalie that's lovely of you to say xx

Thanks Modified Wow, good luck with your induction! You will be fine x I hope your little girl isn't having any serious problems you are so strong! Exactly, you can only let him know and the rest is up to him. He sounds awful tbh, I can sympathise as my ex isn't at all bothered either. We have to be strong for our babies x

 

[MamaLa]

Good luck with your scan! I know I'm not 2nd tri but I hope it's okay I posted - I'm being induced on Thursday and very nervous! He'll get a text when she's born and that's it. He hasn't bothered when I told him all the problems our baby is having so I doubt he'll be bothered that she's born but at least he can't say I ever kept anything from him!

Good luck with the induction! I know you can't wait to get that little girl in your arms!

 

[Mummy to be x]

Thanks for the replies ladies

It's really helpful to hear from people who have been there or and there now, strong women inspire me to go on

It is so hard but so rewarding! I hope this thread will be of use to anyone who needs it, I don't want it to get lost in the forum.

Amy I thought of you after he left, I remember you were on your own with little lady, always admired you for it

I have another scan soon, hoping to find out sex. Won't be letting him know as he clearly isn't interested, he will no doubt find out through the grapevine though!

Xx

Aw thanks kel. You can do it and one day you'll meet someone who deserves you and your children xx

 

[kell]

Aww thankyou babe xx

 

[Mummy to be x]

When is your scan? we had one a few weeks ago and found out we are having a baby boy! Xx

 

[PeaceLoveBaby]

Was thinking of you xx Hope you're hangin in there.

 

[pinkribbon]

I am no longer a single mum (I found someone else) but my youngest's dad pretty much left when he was 2 weeks old and I'd just had a csection. We tried to make it work a couple of times after that but it was short lived and he completely left at 8 months. You can totally do this