I really don't know where to start... Before you all start judging I know it was wrong to snoop in the first place so I prob deserve this all but I don't want people telling me it's my fault... So anyone that may have something rude to say, please don't bother. So basically, and I know this isn't right by any means but I just had an incling and it wouldn't budge... My OH has took Liam to his parents this morning and his laptop was just sitting there. I don't know why but I had a bad feeling (I am quite insecure anyways) and lets just say we have had problems with trust before, so anyways I opened it up and looked at his internet history. I know I shouldn't have but he always makes out he has nothing to hide and in the past when I found out he was up to stuff (on numerouse occasions) behind my back he said I could look whenever I want to prove he isn't lying to me. So I looked. There were a few things that pissed me off quite badly. Firstly going through TONS of girls photos on Facebook (one is my friend and another is his best mates girlfriend who I know he fancies - she is a glamour model, the rest are people I don't know). This annoyed me but it was something I could get over as I'm sure I've looked at other guys pics enough times. Then as I scrolled down I saw her name. Her being a girl who he has history with and nearly broke us up last time, she was pretty much his best friend but he told me when he split up with me last time he found her attractive and would sleep with her if he had the chance. I later found out he sent her a valentine's card behind my back last year (when I was 6 months pregnant and supposedly with him). He said that it was as a friend... Yeah right... So, I had no choice but to give him an ultimatum. He kept saying he wouldn't chose but after Liam was born he promised to cut her off. I later found out he was texting her non stop but he said that was just an argument between them because he didn't want anything to do with her... Since then I've assumed they have not spoken to each other and he has promised me this. So back to today. It showed up he had been looking at her profile and had sent her a message. But when I clicked the message it had unsuprisingly been deleted. I don't know what to think, what could he have possibly being saying to her? (We don't live together either so I have no idea if he has been in contact with her all the time or whether he just felt the need to talk to her this week, I don't check his phone. I've checked his computer before but very rarely (needless to say everytime I do there is something he is hiding - last time he was paying for porn... Which I forgave). He has also put a lock thing on his facebook (where you have to put a computer name in before you can log in), no idea when he did this but I would imagine it was recently as I used to have one on mine and he said to me he didn't see the need for one on his. This worries me as I know his password (he knows mine too) and he says I can look whenever I want as he has nothing to hide. I never do anyways but now he has put a security setting on it it seems a bit strange doesn't it? Talking of porn, he had LOADS on another browser (he was obviously hiding this to look at it all on a browser he doesn't normally use.) Don't get me wrong I would not be bothered if it was a bit but there was tons of pages. Some from the website he used to pay for, which makes me think he might be paying again? That upsets me the , but it's mainly this message (or messages) to this girl that have upset me. I'm devestated. What is going on? Did he cheat, is he cheating, why is he in contact with her when he swore he wasn't? He will home at about 2 and I've no idea what to do. I don't want an arguement in front of Liam... I'm 9 weeks pregnant. He is the one who wanted to try, he seems really excited about it, he has been begging to move in with me so I don't know what to think. The amount of stress I had last time I was pregnant because of him was unbelievable and I thought we had sorted everything out but its like history is repeating itself. And last night we had an argument as he accused me of cheating on him and talking to people behind his back!! The cheek. I'm devestated and don't wanna be with him if I can't trust him because no matter how he tries to justify this I am never gonna believe him am I.... I feel sick right now, what have I done to deserve this? Or am I overeacting? I just wish I knew what he said to her and why... So sorry for going on I just needed to get this all out and any advice (if anyone has been thorugh anything similar) would be extremely helpful. Thanks.