has any one with 2 had odd comments if second different gender

[Bex84]

I was just talking to neighbour and mentioned we are having boy this time and got told well done you, mil said same as if it was a personal achievement. After 4d scan today the girl at reception asked and said well done difficult one first. My little girl has never been any trouble lol. I would have been just as happy with another girl lol. I just really can not understand saying well done haha

 

[pinklizzy]

We've had comments like 'how clever to have had one of each' and 'oh you won't need to have any more now' which I've found odd! I too would've loved two little girls although of course I'm in love with my little man

 

[Bex84]

That's same as us. I already love our little man but my love isn't based on gender lol. I think people assume we are done which we probably are as we always said 2/3 but that wasent based on gender lol

 

[Unexpected212]

Yes!

Lots of 'Oh now you have the perfect family' 'Your so lucky to get one of each' 'You don't need to have anymore now'

 

[friskyfish]

Well I'm having another boy & I'm getting tired of people's comments
"Oh well, you can have a girl next time" or "Ahhhh, well don't worry, boys are great" My midwife Said to me "Well, better luck next time!!" How professional! Haha I'm not bothered I'm having 2 boys, but people's comments really upset me & made me feel bad for having another boy.

I got myself together though & have learnt to ignore comments. I'm looking forward to meeting my little man Xx

 

[Yo_Yo]

Not personally, but it would annoy me I think!

 

[Bex84]

I have also had comments that dd and ds will hate each other as different genders ignoring fact lo has more male friends lol

 

[SonAmyMom]

Well I'm having another boy & I'm getting tired of people's comments
"Oh well, you can have a girl next time" or "Ahhhh, well don't worry, boys are great" My midwife Said to me "Well, better luck next time!!" How professional! Haha I'm not bothered I'm having 2 boys, but people's comments really upset me & made me feel bad for having another boy.

I got myself together though & have learnt to ignore comments. I'm looking forward to meeting my little man Xx

This is our 5th, we currently have 1 girl and 3 boys, and we're having another boy. We've gotten a LOT of "I bet [daughter] is hoping for a girl" (before we found out) and "I bet [daughter] is disappointed it's not a girl" since. Even a few sympathy-type comments. Yes, we were hoping for a girl, but we are thrilled to be having a boy anyway.

 

[moter98]

I'm having my third boy and a lot of people didn't even congratulate me. They just said, are you gonna try again? As in, are you gonna try for a girl. Um, I'm still pregnant yet! I think the comments are worse when you have the same of one gender. I've also been told already that there is a special place in heaven for me because I'm the mother of three boys. There's no escaping the thoughtless comments no matter what you are having.

 

[Bex84]

Why do people gender stereotype from womb. You love your children whatever gender as surely you love them as a person

 

[Yo_Yo]

Totally agree! They all have their own personalities and are a joy to parent

 

[pops23]

Love this post! I pregnant with my second baby boy and I have heard no end of thoughtless comments

- poor you
- better luck next time
- hopefully a girl next
- oh lovely (with pained face)
- good luck
- what did you do wrong? Ha ha (this said to me 4 weeks ago on the day of my mums funeral)

I was desperate for a girl, I lost my mum in April which made finding out it was another boy more difficult. Don't get my wrong I am thrilled to give Flynn a brother and know I'm bless to be having another healthy baby, but the thoughtless comments make it all more difficult

Xx

 

[xxxLeoxxx]

What terrible comments some people have had. All children are completely individual regardless of their sex - surely people know this, especially people who already have more than one child. I would be offended on many levels!

 

[Warby]

I had a girl first, then a boy. After my (oldest) son was born, some people suggested that I know had the "million dollar family". I have no idea what that means, but I am still waiting for my cheque, almost 8 years later! A million dollars would sure come in handy.

 

[Buttercup84]

We're having our second girl and have been asked a few times if we were hoping for a boy or will be trying for one next time which I find a bit odd, I guess the 'novelty' isn't there for others when its the same gender. I'm really happy to be having another girl but I imagine if someone was hoping for a particular gender that thoughtless comments from others could be quite hurtful.

 

[baby_maybe]

I was only talking about this on fb the other day. We have 3 girls and 1 boy and before we had ds we were always getting asked if we were going to keep going until we got a boy. We were going to stop at three and then the broody bug got the better of me. As soon as we told we got all the 'I bet you're hoping for a boy this time' or 'if its another girl you'll have to try again'! It wasn't about the gender, it was about having another child. As it happens we did have a boy and don't get me wrong, we were both thrilled (especially DH, who really did want a boy), but I would have been equally as happy with a girl. Of course since we now get 'you must be finished having babies now you've got your boy then', I mean wtf it's no one elses business how many children you want, but pregnancy it seems, is public property or so nosey people appear to believe anyway!

Oops, turned into a bit of a rant there!

 

[squirrel.]

I'm really sorry some of you have received such hurtful comments! I know people generally mean well, but many people really need to think before they speak sometimes. What is it about pregnancy that makes people think it's okay to say the most personal things?

We're having a little girl after a boy and I've had loads of comments about how wonderful it will be to have one of each, how lucky we are, the well done comments and that surely we're done now. Everyone sounds surprised when I say that we're having another after this. I am very happy to be having a little girl, as I did always want at least one of each (would've been happy with having another boy and then a girl, as long as I get to experience both, I really don't mind what order they come in or how many of each I get), but I do feel people are wrong to assume everyone wants one of each!

 

[kimmy04]

I have!! Someone actually said to me "thank goodness it's a girl.." A close friend!! As if my son is no good. I had another person say "oh now you have the million dollar family" what if my second had been a boy too?

 

[Gnomer]

I haven't had my 20 week scan yet, but god, I am sick to the back teeth of people saying 'oh hopefully it's a girl!' As if another boy would be a bad thing. I couldn't give a toss of the gender, I'm having a baby that is going to absolutely consume my heart, what more could I want?

 

[Bex84]

Surely the most important thing is a healthy baby, not what they have between their legs