has any one with 2 had odd comments if second different gender

[cupcaker]

Yes I've had the whole well done and talk of how great it'll be to have one of each...I'd have been totally fine with another son! The great grandparents upon finding out our second is a girl, then turned to my sister-in- law and said "so just you for a boy next then" (as she has a girl) I'm glad nobody said such silly comments to me prior to finding out! I would feel people were dissapointed if baby had been a boy and that's not on really. x

 

[bellaboo]

Currently team yellow but terrified of the comments if this is another girl. I'm happy either way and would love a sister for my dd but just know my parents family's will be saying oh another girl, when will you get a boy etc! They have 3 granddaughters and my girl got it all when she was the third one born! So know that this one will be even worse! Comments have already been said oh hopefully this one is a boy! Just think people will not bother as much as they see it as a 4th girl, not a 2nd for me!

 

[sweetpea8]

We are constantly getting the 'aren't you clever having one of each' and 'your husband must be so excited it's a boy this time'. The second one particularly drives me nuts as mu husband (big macho, muscular ex forces guy) is completely smitten with our daughter. It is lovely having a boy this time but I would have been equally delighted if we were having another girl (esp as we could have reused the hundreds of boxes of clothes in the loft!). Maybe people are just trying to be nice and positive in their own way but it gets on my nerves.
We were only going to have 2 children whatever the genders but we are already being told this will be the perfect family and we can stop now. I was one of three girls and I thought that was pretty awesome!
There is something about pregnancy which makes people think they can say whatever they want.

 

[lauraemily17]

Yes I've had the whole well done and talk of how great it'll be to have one of each...I'd have been totally fine with another son! The great grandparents upon finding out our second is a girl, then turned to my sister-in- law and said "so just you for a boy next then" (as she has a girl) I'm glad nobody said such silly comments to me prior to finding out! I would feel people were dissapointed if baby had been a boy and that's not on really. x

On finding out that she was having a third grandson my mil response was "another boy, I'll have to rely on my daughter to give me a granddaughter" even before I knew for definite he was a boy I told her I thought it prob was and she said "perhaps you're wrong, we've got enough boys." Talk about hurtful. I'll be making a lot less effort in letting her get to know my second son who is apparently surplus to requirements. Part of me hopes she never gets a granddaughter after a comment like that.

Otherwise I have to say I've been surprised at the positive comments I've had about having 2 boys as people do seem to have this ideal about one of each gender.

 

[LeannieB]

Well I'm having another boy & I'm getting tired of people's comments
"Oh well, you can have a girl next time" or "Ahhhh, well don't worry, boys are great" My midwife Said to me "Well, better luck next time!!" How professional! Haha I'm not bothered I'm having 2 boys, but people's comments really upset me & made me feel bad for having another boy.

I got myself together though & have learnt to ignore comments. I'm looking forward to meeting my little man Xx

Oh my goodness I can't believe your midwife said that to you!! I'm having my 3rd little boy so I have had a few comments but it doesn't really bother me anymore I'm just excited to meet him xx

 

[Dogtanian]

so glad im not the only one getting these stupid ignorant comments.When we annnounced on facebook at 12 weeks someone for OH work put,i have everything crossed that this one is a girl (OH has a girl from previous relationship) when we announced the gender she put,at last a boy im so pleased for you.Both OH and I would have loved another girl,but what does that matter when other people have already formed their own opinion without even talking to us about it !
Then comes MIL who tells us that we can stop now as we have one of each!! and keeps using the irritating phrase,now you have a pigeon pair......f-off!
OH is so laid back and dosent care about these comments,but i have had enough

 

[Lau88]

I'm having a second girl and am ecstatic about it, not really told anyone yet but I'm dreading the comments. Fil made it clear they wanted a boy.

 

[pops23]

It's so frustrating isn't it? I'm trying so hard to get excited about having my second baby boy, but it's difficult when you hear fake enthusiasm or genuine pity all the time! X

 

[Laylagirl]

This is my fourth baby and i must say that im truly excited that after three girls, im having a boy.... My husband couldnt care less if it was a girl, but after having three girls, im ready for a whole new experience of little boy things.... And when people see my three girls, they are disappointed for me, but i live my three girls. No one knows about this pregnancy yet, so i dont know what comments ill get!

 

[heidi87814]

We're Team Yellow but we've had a lot of "Ohhh, this'll be your first proper baby. I bet you're excited to start a real family."

Proper baby? Real family?

This is in reference to the fact that DS is actually my stepson, and DD is biologically my niece (who I've raised since she was a toddler).

Apparently this makes my family less "real".

 

[Laylagirl]

We're Team Yellow but we've had a lot of "Ohhh, this'll be your first proper baby. I bet you're excited to start a real family."

Proper baby? Real family?

This is in reference to the fact that DS is actually my stepson, and DD is biologically my niece (who I've raised since she was a toddler).

Apparently this makes my family less "real".

Congrats on your family and the new addition! Regardless of how the family came togther! Love all around!

 

[Spiffynoodles]

One of the nice things about having one of each is that, when you have your third, there's nothing left for anyone to say about it.

 

[hannah berry]

yeah got told today we are expecting a little boy and got congratulated on it by the doctor. he also said now your finished and your jobs done. it pisses me off i would have loved a little girl just as much for our daughter but to say it to you like that would have been a horrible thing.

 

[Warby]

One of the nice things about having one of each is that, when you have your third, there's nothing left for anyone to say about it.

When we were having our third, after having a girl and a boy, people asked us why we were having another baby. In their minds, we already had one of each gender; what other possible reason could there be for having another baby?

 

[Spiffynoodles]

One of the nice things about having one of each is that, when you have your third, there's nothing left for anyone to say about it.

When we were having our third, after having a girl and a boy, people asked us why we were having another baby. In their minds, we already had one of each gender; what other possible reason could there be for having another baby?

That's so sad. Fortunately, where I live, big families are kind of the norm, because there's a high concentration of LDS people (Mormons) and people are surprised when couples stop at only two kids. So the fact that we'd have a third was almost a given.

 

[cantwaitforu]

I'm having my third boy and a lot of people didn't even congratulate me. They just said, are you gonna try again? As in, are you gonna try for a girl. Um, I'm still pregnant yet! I think the comments are worse when you have the same of one gender. I've also been told already that there is a special place in heaven for me because I'm the mother of three boys. There's no escaping the thoughtless comments no matter what you are having.

OMG that is horrible. I'm staying team yellow this time and you can imagine the comments I'm getting about 'we hope this is your girl!'

When we found out DS2 was a boy people asked me if I was happy and would say 'oh that's too bad.'

Honestly, yes, it would be nice to know what it is like to experience a son and a daughter, but I'm blessed with what I am blessed with and as a mom, I can't see how a gender can be loved more or less.

My cousin is pregnant at the same time as me (same due date) and all I hear about is how all she wants is a girl and she is convinced its a girl and everyone in the family thinks she is having a girl and I told her straight up I hope it's a boy so she can see how wonderful they are too.

People make me so MAD!!

 

[Maybe1daysoon]

I thought I was the only one!!! I get comments about having one of each EVERY TIME I say this LO is a girl. while I really really wanted a boy the first time I didn't care as much about gender this time. I thought two boys this close in age would have been lovely!!! I was the only one in my family nit praying for a girl. People can be very very rude. I almost feel like if LO turned out boy I would have disappointed my mom, mil, fil, aunts cousins etc. It's so weird.

 

[pinkribbon]

I have 2 boys and don't know the sex of this one. I had all the 'are you going to try again for a girl', 'maybe next time' , 'oh you'll have your hands full' etc comments when I had another boy so I can only imagine if I have a 3rd boy...

 

[jhughes0709]

people can say such odd things. Since this is my 3rd boy I get looks of sympathy or 'are you going to keep trying for a girl?!' I guess they just assume that we have been 'trying for a girl' this whole time. Just ignore the comments...people lack tact when speaking to pregnant women...

 

[JessdueJan]

We're team yellow and if I'm honest part of me wanted to be team yellow as I thought it would stop peoples opinionated comments on gender but nope, now we just get 'oh wouldn't it be lovely if it was a girl?' Or 'so your hoping for a girl then?'
Ahhh!! I would be just as happy with three boys, although tiring it would be just think of all the mischief and fun they will have when they get older! xx