Have you ever thought how much you will wait to tell

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  1. calm

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    I sometimes find myself thinking about this.. how much I would wait to tell everybody. I suppose I think you should wait 3 months, but I don't think I could wait that long to tell my mother, , my mother in law etc...
     
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    venusrockstar ~Aspiring Photographer~

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    I will probably wait until it's safe enough to know I won't have a miscarriage...so probably a few months
     
  3. MoonMuffin

    MoonMuffin Mom of 2!

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    I'd tell my close family fairly soon, everyone else I'd wait until after 12 weeks.
     
  4. calm

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    I think I would do the same. My husband being the first to know obviously, afterwards I would have to ring my mum or I would burst. I would also tell my MIL and the rest of the people the wisest would be to wait 3 months and maybe until after the 3 month scan. I get excited just imagining it!
     
  5. Louise N

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    I'm going to tell our families as soon as we get a bfp. I know they'd want to know and if anything bad *god forbid* does happen, they'd be there for us. Friends will have to wait until after we've had the 12wk scan.
     
  6. Cinnamon

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    I wouldn't be able to take the looks and questions if I mc so even if it's hard I'll bite my tounge until after 3 months...
     
  7. Pinkgirl

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    HHHMMM good question,
    Obviously OH will know, think i will tell my mum arond 2 months maybe, i might have to tell someone at work so they are aware. But rather tell people at 3 months mark x
     
  8. calm

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    The problem is I think it might tell, at work for example

    If you don't feel that good, or just because I think I will be so excited I will be jumping and skipping instead of walking. This would be me : :yipee::wohoo:

    And they say your face changes, I did notice that in some pregnant women...

    And if someone asked me straight out, I couldn't say no... It would be like denying the poor darling...
     
  9. bigbloomerz

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    I'd tell my OH and maybe my 3 closests friends, and then tell the rest once the first 3 months is out the way. x
     
  10. kate.m.

    kate.m. Mummy to Travis

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    Id tell my hubby, my 2 best friends and our mums, id probably "let him" tell a couple of friends too!
     
  11. readynwilling

    readynwilling Jadyn & Tyler's Mom

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    i'd tell family right away. You need the support if anything should happen. I would also tell my boss right away (she is a good friend) but she would keep it quiet from the rest of my work until 12 weeks. Most of my friends i would wait 12 weeks as well.

    I never really understood the 3 month thing really. You don't tell people that you are pregnant until most of the chance of miscarrying is gone. I wouldn't be ashamed if i miscarried. I would be sad - but i would want my friends and family to comfort me.
     
  12. calm

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    I wouldn't tell my boss. I think for me it would be the fact that I wouldn't want everyone asking me about it should I miscarriage, my nearest and dearest yes of course, but not loads of people ringing and asking me about it and feeling sorry for me.
     
  13. Pingu

    Pingu Mummy to 2 xx

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    I'd tell my parents and OH's parents, we may tell a few close friends too then after our 12 week scan we will tell all x
     
  14. sleepinbeauty

    sleepinbeauty WTT#1 after marriage

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    I'd tell the immediate circle not too far after I told OH and we settled into the idea a little. Everyone else can wait until after 12 weeks.
     
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    sam#3 Lactivist & Intactivist

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    We would tell my sister as shes both of ours closest friend but thats it until we know everything is ok after the 12 week scan
     
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    I'd do the same as the others tbh. Tell OH, tell my close family, his close family and a select group of friends until I was at least 75% everything would be okay. M/C has happened to so many women in my family so I am so cautious it'll happen to me.
     

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