Having doubts.

[r a i n _x]

I feel like such a bad person for saying this, so i hope to god i'm not the only one that has felt it.

I really really suddenly regret, infact, HATE that i'm pregnant. And i'm not even sure why. Sure, the niggling comments and stares probably DO play a part in it, but suddenly i really DON'T want this baby

A lot of the fear - yes this is selfish- also stems from the fact that i'm getting fatter . I was looking at myself in my summer dresses the other day and I was thinking, boy, these are getting tight now. Will i ever get to wear them again and look the same as before?

I would NOT get an abortion. I was against that from the word 'go' even though i didn't exactly want to be pregnant.
And even putting my baby up for adoption seems silly to me. It is after all, MY baby. So surely I must want it, really, if i think that.

I'm SOO confused. I was OVERJOYED.. and now, from, say, this MORNING, I'm completely miserable.

This thread is kind of pointless but I just want some reassurance that i'm not completely mad.. And that hopefully my pessimistic view is going to sod right off!

Thanks in advance.x

 

[leeanne]

I'm sure being young, being judged, etc. plays a part in how you are feeling right now. Hormones too! Don't let people wreck your happiness for having a little one on the way.

As far as the weight gain, hon, I think we all go through that. It's been one of the toughest things for me throughout my pregnancies.

One thing that helps is looking at other's posts and even the bump sections and see how others are so proud of their bumps, etc.

And I am quite sure that you will get your body back after you have your little one. Especially being so young, you will bounce back in no time flat. One word of advice, try to eat healthy and stay away from junk foods as much as you can.

 

[Serene123]

Hormones. You'll be fine. Also, if you don't over-eat, try to still do some exercise, and don't get lazy, you will get your body back after! It won't be exactly the same, but it won't be as bad as you think it will be!

 

[Uvlollypop]

things might look better 2morrow hun hormones make you have crappy days all the time

 

[jobee2222]

Hormones hormones hormones... They will rule you from now on

 

[Rachiebaby24]

I think alot of women go through feeling this for many reasons (their body changes, thinking they cant cope, maybe thinking they wont be a good mum) so its normal you feeling like this....i recently found out I'm having a girl and as i really didnt want a girl the same thought crossed my mind and i feel as though im not as excited now.....but im getting used to the idea now and you will find you will feel better soon. Its a major change physically and emotionally but when you have your little one it will all be worth it.

Dont feel guilty as that will make you feel worse (as i know)....lots of women doubt their pregnancies....i know that even though I really wanted to have a baby, when i was around the 16 week mark i suddenly felt really trapped for a few weeks as there was no going back!

You'll be fine hun x

 

[Whisper]

Yup like the other ladies have said its all hormones! I remember being about 23wks pregnant and i suddenly felt disgusted with myself i couldn't bear to look in any mirror and see my stomach (i actually went around and covered up all the mirrors in my house) i couldn't stop crying for a couple of days and just wanted to get rid of my bump. I felt terrible for not wanting her anymore and didn't know what to do with myself, luckily those feelings did pass, (i think maybe its finally just when it all sinks in) and now i can't wait to meet her i couldn't be happier.....your body does change alot pretty quickly, but it won't be like that forever.
You will start to feel better soon hun, i think a lot of women go through these feelings.

xxx

 

[xarlenex]

I got like this at one point when I was expecting too, luckily it passed and im sure it will for you too. As for your body, like toria said, dont over do it. Some women put on so much weight cause they take the "eating for 2 thing" as gospel and over induldge. Also try to eat more or the good healthy things. Im sure you'll be feelin great again in no time x

 

[Danielle]

hey i have felt like this, when i found out i was pregnant i was over the moon and then suddenly found myself in tears because i didnt no if i wanted to keep the baby, maybe not for the same reasons as you but i have felt it. now im 25 weeks i cant wait, if you have any fears at all no matter what they are find out information, there should be some kind of drop in centre near you where you can meet other teen moms and a midwife on hand to talk to about anything, they are really helpful and it might settle the fears, hope this helps

 

[leedsforever]

i def felt like this a bit at the start (ashamed to admit )!!! But I would go from being so happy to looking at my life and think..... SHIT!!?? What am i doing?? I have a degree yet I work in a restaurant.... I was meant to be continuing studies in september... my body was completely changing! And arrrrggggh all my friends were still going out !! Luckily I had a friend who was about 4 months preg when I found out so Ive had her to turn to!!

Hormones play havoc when your pregnant hun!!

 

[Sarahkka]

I think it is totally normal and understandable to feel disgust, revulsion, and even panic about pregnancy. It's incredibly invasive - this little being is taking over your body in the most parasitic way imaginable!
How dare it make us feel sick and fat and grumpy and miserable? And keep that up for 9 months?

And yup, you're right. Life will never be the same again for any of us. Why shouldn't that freak us out?
You'd have to be a saint not to have such a thought make you feel angry and miserable.
I'm 32 and this is a planned pregnancy with my partner of 10 years. It doesn't get much more stable than that, and I have plenty of times where all I can think is what the hell are we doing? This was a terrible idea!
The nice thing about hormones, though, is that they swing back the opposite direction before very long, and then you get the bliss and excitement.
I'd be way more worried about you if you never did feel uncertain or question your current state. That would not be normal!

 

[maybebaby]

You aren't completely mad, your hormones are going crazy at this point. Just take a deep breath and you will get through it!!

 

[r a i n _x]

Thanks everyone
Yup, as predicted, I'm in tip top emotional shape today
i'm not quite sure i'll be on speaking terms with LO after 9 months of this!

 

[leedsforever]

thats what I keep thinking lol...
my LO will have alot to answer for when shes here

 

[Irishmum]

Yeah from about 20 weeks in I reached what I just love to call the bi-polar phase. One minute your almost crying with joy at the thoughts of seeing LO for the first time 2 hours later your sitting in the middle of the kitchen floor surrounded by crumbs and tears cos 'im soooooo fat'

Gotta say though- this forum and all the ladies on it are brilliant!! It always makes me feel better to rant it out! And glad to hear your feelin better today x