Hi, I heard about this thread in another thread so I thought I would pop in. I tend to mostly vent at OH lately and as much as he really tries to understand he just doesn't REALLY get it. I am a woman of 37 with no kids yet, just 2 MC's in 8 months. He already has an older kid with some woman he never even loved.
A good friend of mine is pregnant again. I can't bear to go and see her. I was out on Friday at the beach, and after seeing 4 pregnant bumps, became so depressed I had to go home early. I can't bear to watch ads, tv shows with pregnancy/babies in. OH does not get this.
When I hear on the news about people killing, torturing and abusing children and babies, I wonder how come they got to have children when that's what they did with them? How come alcoholics, druggies and completely awful people get to have kids only to hurt them. I have spent my whole life working with and looking after other people's kids as a teacher. When will I actually get to have even ONE child of my own?
Long term TTC, and miscarriage are both different kinds of infertility, but its such a hidden thing, people don't want you to talk about it. They don't want to hear it.
To the girl who said (sorry read a few pages back) her friend had a go and said 'when your baby is waking you up all night...' she is obviously one of the majority of women who gets preg easy and carries to term first try, she can't even imagine or find any empathy, sorry you had to have that said to you ......people keep saying to me 'oohh make the most of having a quiet life now...' I would give anything to be woken up at night by a baby! I am so scared it will never happen for me. If I miscarry again I don't know what I will do, I suppose at least I will be entitled to see a specialist.
Wow I didn't know it would be such a long vent.....sorry girls.....sometimes we keep all this stuff in to appear strong to the world, I am fed up with having to do that. There I better stop. Glowing Jo, I do that too, but I guess I will post this one.