WalkerBaby
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Hi everyone, I'm new to this so sorry if I ask lots of questions.
I'm currently sat at home having a blub and wanted to know if anyone else had experienced what I experienced.
When I went for my booking in/dating scan and hospital, I had a horrible experience and now dread going to see the midwife there.
Before the scan, I got myself into a right mess, all upset and convinced myself that something would be wrong with either me or the baby. I work in the healthcare sector and read quite a lot about things that could wrong, stupid I know........Anyway, everything was fine and they confirmed I was 12 weeks + 2. After the scan, I had my appointment with the midwife. She called me in and before she even said hello started pitching about the community midwife. She started to do my notes and weighed me. I'm quite tall so she said "your bmi might not be as bad as I think" It turned out it was 39, which I know is high. She then basically called me fat and read a list of everything that could happen to me finishing it with "including death" Now as I said, and she knows this, I work as a media on the ambulances, I'm aware of the risks, but she didn't seem to care that I have feelings.
She then did my BP which is normally quite low and not surprisingly after being told I'm fat and I would die, it was slightly high. She said she'd let me relax and do it again in 20 mins. In this time that Iwas meant to be relaxing, they tried for 15 minutes to get blood out of me, 3 people tried and a doctor had to come in the end to do it. My BPS had surprisingly come down habit, but she still wanted me to go to my .GP for a check (I did this a week later, stress free and it was fine, if anything abit low)
The midwife then went on saying because I'm fat I need to go see a dictation, an antheatistest (sp?) and the consultant as well as have extra scans.
I'm now 16 weeks today and lost over 2 stone, not by dieting, just healthy saying and swimming but I still feel really fat and horrible with myself
I'm at the community midwife tomorrow who is lovely but I can't stand them at the hospital and now I got all these extra appointments.
My husband has been fantastic and constantly tells me he loves me and I'm being silly about feeling goat, but I can't help it
I know they have a lot of patients n new mummy to see, but that midwife has really affected me
I'm currently sat at home having a blub and wanted to know if anyone else had experienced what I experienced.
When I went for my booking in/dating scan and hospital, I had a horrible experience and now dread going to see the midwife there.
Before the scan, I got myself into a right mess, all upset and convinced myself that something would be wrong with either me or the baby. I work in the healthcare sector and read quite a lot about things that could wrong, stupid I know........Anyway, everything was fine and they confirmed I was 12 weeks + 2. After the scan, I had my appointment with the midwife. She called me in and before she even said hello started pitching about the community midwife. She started to do my notes and weighed me. I'm quite tall so she said "your bmi might not be as bad as I think" It turned out it was 39, which I know is high. She then basically called me fat and read a list of everything that could happen to me finishing it with "including death" Now as I said, and she knows this, I work as a media on the ambulances, I'm aware of the risks, but she didn't seem to care that I have feelings.
She then did my BP which is normally quite low and not surprisingly after being told I'm fat and I would die, it was slightly high. She said she'd let me relax and do it again in 20 mins. In this time that Iwas meant to be relaxing, they tried for 15 minutes to get blood out of me, 3 people tried and a doctor had to come in the end to do it. My BPS had surprisingly come down habit, but she still wanted me to go to my .GP for a check (I did this a week later, stress free and it was fine, if anything abit low)
The midwife then went on saying because I'm fat I need to go see a dictation, an antheatistest (sp?) and the consultant as well as have extra scans.
I'm now 16 weeks today and lost over 2 stone, not by dieting, just healthy saying and swimming but I still feel really fat and horrible with myself
I'm at the community midwife tomorrow who is lovely but I can't stand them at the hospital and now I got all these extra appointments.
My husband has been fantastic and constantly tells me he loves me and I'm being silly about feeling goat, but I can't help it
I know they have a lot of patients n new mummy to see, but that midwife has really affected me