Little update from me if thats ok!!
We went to Leeds Hombirth Support Group yesterday and I found it very helpful. It was good to hear all sorts of stories - ones that went perfectly, and ones not so - and the opportunity to ask questions of the lady who run the group (who I think is a doula) and there was also a midwife there too.
My husband didn't find it too great tbh, there was a few things that were said that he didn't agree with and I think it got his back up a bit. A lot of people were VERY anti hospital, and he seems to think I've been brain washed by it & homebirth ladies on here
which I explained is clearly not the case!!
I think it's very different for me to a lot of people - having a good hospital birth has given me the confidence to do this in my own home. I didn't have a horrible birth in hospital, Im not traumatised and if I need to go to hospital then I will, but I'd RATHER give birth at home for various reasons.
He keeps saying that all the information I keep giving him is all pro home birth and never negative homebirth, but to be honest I've not read a lot. Even women who's labours haven't gone to plan have on the whole said that it wasn't due to the baby being born at home. We had a bit of a 'conversation' about it and I said that if he was worried about the information I was giving him being biased then why doesn't he do it himself? All he's basing his opinion on is what he thinks, not knowledge. Slightly heated conversation!!
But on the plus side he has started reading more and is starting to sound more positive about it.
I just don't feel like he's veer going to be 100% happy about it and while it is my birth and he's told me it's my decision and he will go along with whatever, I want him to be happy about it? He's my focus and probably the most important person to me who will be there, he's the only one who can comfort me and I NEED to know that he is ok and not worried or thinking about something going wrong.
I don't know. I hope we get the answers he's looking for because I do want this. All I can say is Im so pleased we started thinking about this already
30 weeks still to make a decision!!
xxx