How did your teens react to preg?

[toothfairy29]

Hi ladies

I am 9 weeks pregnant. I have a 15 and a 13 year old and my husband has a 17 year old. Our children know nothing about our plans to have a new baby.

We are having NT scan and plan to tell the kids after this if all is well. The problem is, I am expecting a negative result from my 2 children. I think his daughter will be ok as she has her own bust life and only stays with us once in a while now. I think my 2 will take it badly even though they spend part of the week with their dad and also are starting to have bust social lives that does not include mum!

I think that in time they will come round and won't be able to help bonding with the little one when it comes but I think there will be big drama along the line of me ruining their lives at the start?!!!

Any tips????????

 

[try4girl]

My husband and I also have a his mine and our family and his kids were 19(m) 16(f) and 14(f) and my son was 7 when we had are first one the oldest two were cool with it and love him very much the 14 year old was really mad till she found out we were having a boy then she was indifferent she doesn't really want mush to do with him unless daddy is watching but it is getting better as he gets older I am expecting our second and last one together and the oldest still could care less the two girls are mad and both say it needs to be a boy because they are daddies little girls. But we are hoping for a girl we are team yellow due to the drama. My best advice is to try and give them space they will come to terms with it in their own time and just be careful after the baby is born when it comes to asking them to help with the baby. I hope this helps

 

[crystal443]

I'm 10 weeks and I have a 15 almost 16 year old daughter and a 14year old son, we've been trying for this one for soooooo long that the kids have known we were having problems and we also let them know we were trying IVF which didn't work. They were too old to keep it from them with all the meds in the fridge

They've taken the news great and are really excited Teenagers are finicky creatures that's for sure

 

[InVivoVeritas]

My girls are 11 and 13, and they've been great. 11yo is a real little momma and always wants to feel my bump, check I've taken my vitamins, makes plans to be hands-on when the baby's here.

My 13yo had a lot more pointed questions about how this would change her life, whether the baby would cry at night, would her social plans be curtailed. She's excited too, but she also has plenty in her own life to be excited about.

I'd suggest you just give them time, be prepared for a negative reaction to start with, and answer all their questions honestly.

 

[chattyB]

I have 3 children, 17 (g), 12 (b), 9 (g). I had my oldest when I was just 18 and we are very close .... She has known since the start that hubby (her stepdad) and I were trying and was there when I got my BFP. We were both jumping about, hugging and crying when the test turned positive. Hubby was working abroad that week and it was great to have her support. My two younger children were very pleased - they also knew that a new baby was a possibility and often asked if i was pregnant yet. My youngest daughter had a bit of a "wobble", she's always been the baby of the family, very sensitive, a people pleaser and very loving .... Her first concern was that I'd love the new baby more. We had a long talk and she understands that I'll love them all the same .

My step-kids 20(b) and 17(g) are both really happy for us, incidentally, the oldest informed us 10 minutes after that his girlfriends baby is due the week before ours ... My hubby will be a new dad and grandad within days! (it made for an interesting day!!). My younger step-son has aspergers and often finds it difficult to deal with some situations - we've decided to wait until the 12 week scan to tell him.

Overall, a really positive reaction to news of a new sibling - very happy with the way it's happened so far.

 

[toothfairy29]

My 13 year old also has aspergers and will find change difficult! Partly why I'm worried! I have NT scan on Tuesday at 13 wks and bloods. If alls well we will tell them!!

 

[TicToc]

I had some issues with my older kids and how they reacted but after some time it all worked out.