truly_blessed
Loving being a new mummy
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I think the previous poster said it best-- just because we see so many losses on this board, we can't view it as 'the norm'. Often, ladies are drawn to this board *because* they are having problems and need support-- so there's bound to be a much higher concentration of bad news.
Consider this: How many of your friends have gotten pregnant and delivered just fine (and how many times have they been pregnant)?
How many people do you know? That means their mother carried them with no problem.
How many friends do your little ones have, or classmates? That means their mother carried them no problem.
How many of THOSE people have siblings? That means their mothers carried THEM full term, too.....
See? When you look around, you realize, a normal pregnancy IS the norm -- not the crazy stuff that shows up on here.
Perhaps your heart was in the right place when you wrote this, but how freaking insensitive and uninformed are you? Just because someone is on this earth does not mean their mother had a "normal" pregnancy. As for "all the crazy stuff" you see posted here - they're called complications. They aren't crazy, and they have great chances of delivering healthy babies too. Complications aren't a death sentence. I sure hope you have a great and healthy pregnancy, otherwise the gravity of your thoughtlessness might keep you up at night.
For the OP, we just hope and pray, it's all you can do.
I think that's a bit harsh tbh. She was only trying to reassure people, as you can see from her profile, she has experienced loses herself. I didn't see anything she said as insensitive or uninformed and I've had MMC and chemicals to boot in the past. She certainly made me feel better anyway. We're supposed to be here to support each other not put them down for making a comment which maybe wasn't quite worded in the way you word like. I'll put this down to pregnancy hormones as I'm sure you meant no ill.