How do you feel about epidurals/natural birth?

[Blah11]

Why do you keep getting all personal and swearing at people Dumbs down whatever point you're trying to get across and makes you sound very rude.

 

[AppleBlossom]

I wanted an epidural. I didn't get one because I was too far along once I'd got to hospital and only had 2cm to go until I was fully dilated so I only had gas and air. And if I was to give birth again, I would do it "naturally" (well with some G&A) and I would always encourage others to do the same. That said though, I have quite a high pain threshold and I was never scared about giving birth. Women with low pain thresholds or who have anxiety about labour and birth will probably require some strong pain relief, obviously if the woman is distressed it can make the baby distressed and make things worse. I don't think there is a right or wrong way to give birth. Some people stay at home, give birth in a pool with no pain relief at all. Others go to hospital and have all the pain relief they can get their hands on. It's just what you're comfortable with.

 

[cherryglitter]

I would love to have a natural birth when the time comes but I will just have to wait and see! Sometimes the odds are stacked against you.

Ideally I won't go 14 days overdue next time and be induced! I kind of wish I was allowed to wait and see if I could go in naturally!

 

[Blah11]

I dunno what I'll do if I go overdue. I'll probably try and hold off until I HAVE to be induced cos obv i want my homebirth

 

[cherryglitter]

Hopefully you won't! I doubt it.
I was so bloomin' unlucky to go 14 days over.

Everyday I would wake up like... today IS THE DAY!

It never was

 

[Nic1107]

Does it matter what language I use, really? People will hear what they want, considering how seriously my input was misconstrued. Responding to specific posts isn't getting personal, it's a response. You're apparently not allowed to have a preference, people who disagree aren't allowed an opinion, no one is allowed to have feelings. And so on and so on. No one listens to each other anyway. Why would it be such a radical idea here for someone to enter a conversation, instead of shooting down my long, carefully thought out posts with one sentence and a shrug?

 

[Blah11]

Does it matter what language I use, really? People will hear what they want, considering how seriously my input was misconstrued. Responding to specific posts isn't getting personal, it's a response. You're apparently not allowed to have a preference, people who disagree aren't allowed an opinion, no one is allowed to have feelings. And so on and so on. No one listens to each other anyway. Why would it be such a radical idea here for someone to enter a conversation, instead of shooting down my long, carefully thought out posts with one sentence and a shrug?

IMO, yes. It makes your post seem very agressive. If I respond to you with 1 line and a shrug it's because I don't have anything else to say. Do you want me to babble on and make 3 paragraphs of rubbish up just so you have something to read?

 

[Laura2919]

My sister was 12 days overdue, they booked her in for an induction for 26th July and Morgan arrived on 25th lol.

I had girls 10 weeks early so I cant comment lol

 

[cherryglitter]

Jake was due on the 6th of July which was the day after my birthday. I moaned about it!
So I think it was his way of punishing me to be honest ahaha. Bless him!

 

[Blah11]

id like a week or 2 before edd again. the more overdue, the closer to christmas

 

[cherryglitter]

Just to be really random - Blah are you going to tandem breastfeed? I imagine that to be so sore on the old nipples!

 

[Nibblenic]

See I feel sorry for one of my friends who had a natural birth. She ended up with a 4th degree tear She had no intervention at all in terms of assistance or drugs. However I think I would take a section over risking incotiance anyday. However that wasnt how she felt and went on to have another birth although the second time she had a epi.

I think any birth which has long term consoquenses for the mother be it physiclaly or metally is something to be a little sad about. But us women get on with it in the main dont we!

 

[marley2580]

You know that you don't HAVE to be induced for going over. You can opt for monitoring instead (that's what I did)

 

[Blah11]

Just to be really random - Blah are you going to tandem breastfeed? I imagine that to be so sore on the old nipples!

yes no idea but since my nipples are used to bf i dont think itll be as uncomfortable?

 

[cherryglitter]

You know that you don't HAVE to be induced for going over. You can opt for monitoring instead (that's what I did)

Really?! My midwife never offered this to me.
I think she saw me as desperate to get him out but I would've loved to have gone into labour naturally.

In all honesty, I don't think my dates were correct.

 

[Blah11]

You know that you don't HAVE to be induced for going over. You can opt for monitoring instead (that's what I did)

how long did you go over?

 

[Nic1107]

You're missing the point, but what could be conveyed in two seconds face-to-face will never happen on a forum. And the aggressive emotion wasn't actually directed toward you, it was in response to a response that tied in with a previous statement. These things get hard to keep track of. But it gets very frustrating when you start out being as nice as possible, explain your view as clearly as possible, and your opinion- god forbid feelings- are ignored. And, after all the calm, ignored posts, I get called rude and dumb. Figures!

 

[cherryglitter]

Just to be really random - Blah are you going to tandem breastfeed? I imagine that to be so sore on the old nipples!

yes no idea but since my nipples are used to bf i dont think itll be as uncomfortable?

Yeah that's true. I've just realised it looks like i've said you have old nipples Not that I know!

I can't wait to breastfeed, something I majorly regret it not trying it with Jake.

 

[Blah11]

See I feel sorry for one of my friends who had a natural birth. She ended up with a 4th degree tear She had no intervention at all in terms of assistance or drugs. However I think I would take a section over risking incotiance anyday. However that wasnt how she felt and went on to have another birth although the second time she had a epi.

I think any birth which has long term consoquenses for the mother be it physiclaly or metally is something to be a little sad about. But us women get on with it in the main dont we!

your poor friend. thankfully 4th degree tears are very rare. did she give birth very quickly?

 

[Blah11]

You're missing the point, but what could be conveyed in two seconds face-to-face will never happen on a forum. And the aggressive emotion wasn't actually directed toward you, it was in response to a response that tied in with a previous statement. These things get hard to keep track of. But it gets very frustrating when you start out being as nice as possible, explain your view as clearly as possible, and your opinion- god forbid feelings- are ignored. And, after all the calm, ignored posts, I get called rude and dumb. Figures!

i didnt call you dumb. i said swearing dumbs down your post.