We are done. I have a 5year old ds and a dd Who will be 2 next month. We always wanted two. Ideally a boy and a girl, in that order and that's what we got. We even got the age gap we wanted. So for us this is it. People don't believe me when I say I'm done. But we realy are. We have even started giving away all the baby things we have had since we had ds, stuff like the cot and bouncer that we saved for dd. My pregnancy with dd was way easier than with DS. I felt much better and wasn't half as poorly as I was with DS. It does make me a bit sad when I think, I will never have a baby again. I will never have a delicious smelling newborn, or the excitement of when will baby come. But I'm happy that I have my 2 wonderful , slightly nutty, kiddos. Besides, I have issues with the number 3, so I'd spend the whole pregnancy in a panic. And then would need to have a 4th. That isn't happening.
How do you feel about your family being complete?
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I'm so so sooooooooooooooo happy to be done! 3 was always our magic number and before I always had the thought of just one more but now that we had our third I just know this is it. This last pregnancy was hell high risk, bedrest etc. My girls are 5,3 and 2 weeks old and after being pregnant for the past 4.5 years I'm ready to enjoy my life and my kids. We want to travel, party etc. Every time I got back into my groove I got pregnant again. This time DH is going for vasectomy and that's it for us! But I have to say I'm quite happy and content in our family being complete 
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I am well and truly done. My kids are nearly 12 and 5 1/2. I'm looking forward to them moving out now 
My husband has had a vasectomy and we have never regretted the decision, babies do not interest me anymore. I have no desire to hold them or be pregnant or anything. I think you just know when you are 'done'.
My husband has had a vasectomy and we have never regretted the decision, babies do not interest me anymore. I have no desire to hold them or be pregnant or anything. I think you just know when you are 'done'.
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We always wanted two and we have two a boy and a girl and they are perfect and I don't want another BUT this last week I have been almost grieving the fact that I won't ever have a newborn again or be pregnant etc and I know this has all come around as our friends are trying for #2
I guess I feel jealous but not sure why as I have 2
It is an odd feeling being happy and complete but also a little jealous
I guess I feel jealous but not sure why as I have 2
It is an odd feeling being happy and complete but also a little jealous
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We always wanted two and we have two a boy and a girl and they are perfect and I don't want another BUT this last week I have been almost grieving the fact that I won't ever have a newborn again or be pregnant etc and I know this has all come around as our friends are trying for #2
I guess I feel jealous but not sure why as I have 2
It is an odd feeling being happy and complete but also a little jealous
I have felt like this since my second was born 2 1/2 years ago. We would love more but due to space, money and time we cant and its horrible knowing I wont have a newborn to depend on me ever again and I miss the night feeds etc
I am grateful for my two beautiful babies though. xxlusterleaf
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I am a little sad to be done. My daughter is starting to outgrow her infant stuff and it's making me sad that I will never use them again for another child. But I know we have to stop at 2 because my son is special needs and financially we wouldn't be able to afford more than 2 (daycare costs are a killer). So I just have to force myself to accept it I guess.
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I'm content to be done. We have a 6 year old and a 4 month old, both girls, and I'm comforted in the knowledge that I'll never have to deal with pregnancy labour or newborns again!
Being a family of 4 works perfectly for us. I always wanted 2 and was never bothered with gender either way. Just the thought of adding a 3rd into our unit as it is now feels weird. I'm not saying it's wrong to have or want more than 2 but for me, I just can't imagine a 3rd child. Feels odd.
Being a family of 4 works perfectly for us. I always wanted 2 and was never bothered with gender either way. Just the thought of adding a 3rd into our unit as it is now feels weird. I'm not saying it's wrong to have or want more than 2 but for me, I just can't imagine a 3rd child. Feels odd.
I also cannot imagine a 3rd child our unit of 4 is perfect but I do feel jealous of our friends and a little saddened it is odd
I can completely understand this feeling. I have three, which is what we always wanted, and the balance feels right now and I'm excited to see my 3 kids grow up together. I don't want to add a fourth child to the mix, yet I'm still so so sad that I'll never be pregnant, give birth or have a brand new baby again. It's a weird set of feelings that contradict each other.
I'm really struggling. I've given up a lot of 'me' (socialising/ gym/ holidays etc) to have my children. I hide behind them I know that. I could have another and still feel like this, I suspect that's what would happen. I worry about what will happen to me when they start to grow up and don't need me as much....
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I am so happy and content! We have our gorgeous baby girl now and our cheeky 'big' boy. They are perfect and I never have to be pregnant again! 
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I absolutely loved having my 'me time' back as my big 2 got bigger. That said, I was 17 and 18 when I had my first too and very much still in the maiden stage of life. As I head towards my 30s now (I am 29) I actually really feel content with the motherhood thing. I View 30- 45 as mother and then I think things get a bit crazy again with pre menopause. I am ecstatic I have had a last chance to do this, In a stage of life where I feel more comfortable with myself, with my own wants an needs. I also spent my 20s finding what I wanted and I do parent different now as a a result.
A few years ago, I was 100% sure I wanted no more. I wanted to enjoy life more and be me. I was never ever broody!
Last 2 yrs I have been incredibly broody, I cant believe life thre such a spanner! This is definitely my last and as long as all goes ok then I will have to concentrate again on the next stage, its scary though. To surrender to being 'done'. xx
A few years ago, I was 100% sure I wanted no more. I wanted to enjoy life more and be me. I was never ever broody!
Last 2 yrs I have been incredibly broody, I cant believe life thre such a spanner! This is definitely my last and as long as all goes ok then I will have to concentrate again on the next stage, its scary though. To surrender to being 'done'. xx
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I just found this thread as I was going through BnB reminiscing and being sad at work on my son's first birthday.
I always wanted three. My husband was on board with that until we had my daughter...she was a wonderful baby but she was such a game changer that I had to convince him to try for two.
I secretly hoped that my son would be a girl so I could maybe convince him to try for a third as he really wanted a son. That obviously didn't happen and I am so in love with son and wouldn't trade him for anything BUT I was sad as I knew my husband would be more adamant about being done, (which he was and is).
We talked it over and because he was so done I agreed to him having a vasectomy. That happened at the end of May. He needs to go hand in his SA in the next few weeks. We have not been overly careful re pulling out, etc and part of my wonders if I'm secretly hoping for a miracle pregnancy???
Like everyone else here has said, we are better off if we stop having kids now. I just got a new and more senior job so becoming pregnant anytime soon would not be great. My husband doesn't want anymore and I didn't want to be in a position where I "tricked" him or pressured him into a third. I also didn't love being pregnant as much the second time and felt guilty I couldn't do as much with my daughter. But then my daughter will ask me if she can have a baby sister and my heart breaks.
I guess whatever will be will be. I do feel beyond blessed and lucky to have the two that I have now!
I always wanted three. My husband was on board with that until we had my daughter...she was a wonderful baby but she was such a game changer that I had to convince him to try for two.
I secretly hoped that my son would be a girl so I could maybe convince him to try for a third as he really wanted a son. That obviously didn't happen and I am so in love with son and wouldn't trade him for anything BUT I was sad as I knew my husband would be more adamant about being done, (which he was and is).
We talked it over and because he was so done I agreed to him having a vasectomy. That happened at the end of May. He needs to go hand in his SA in the next few weeks. We have not been overly careful re pulling out, etc and part of my wonders if I'm secretly hoping for a miracle pregnancy???
Like everyone else here has said, we are better off if we stop having kids now. I just got a new and more senior job so becoming pregnant anytime soon would not be great. My husband doesn't want anymore and I didn't want to be in a position where I "tricked" him or pressured him into a third. I also didn't love being pregnant as much the second time and felt guilty I couldn't do as much with my daughter. But then my daughter will ask me if she can have a baby sister and my heart breaks.
I guess whatever will be will be. I do feel beyond blessed and lucky to have the two that I have now!
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That's so sweet!
My daughter's best friend has a new baby sister, which is part of the reason she wants one as well I think
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My daughter is "broody" too. Her best friend is my best friend's daughter and my best friend is planning to have another child soon with her partner and her daughter has picked up on it and keeps talking about getting a new baby soon and now Lily wants one too. She is constantly asking for another baby but since I would love one and it's DH who doesn't want another I just tell her to "tell daddy" haha
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Although I don't want to be, my square is complete. Plans were to have another in 2020 but it was broken dreams. DD1 wants a little brother and DD2 absolutely adores babies, I tell her to ask daddy but daddy says no . They're 2 completely different characters and I love them both for their differences but inside I'm not fully "complete", something is missing. We're moving into a bigger house end of 2016/early 2017 to accommodate what we've got now, we're going for driving licenses and looking at cars now. I'd love to take both to disneyland once DD2 is a little older to remember which I guess a third would restrict us due to age gaps and I'd feel guilty for taking DD's but never having the chance to take number 3.
I will just call myself settling with 2.
. They're 2 completely different characters and I love them both for their differences but inside I'm not fully "complete", something is missing. We're moving into a bigger house end of 2016/early 2017 to accommodate what we've got now, we're going for driving licenses and looking at cars now. I'd love to take both to disneyland once DD2 is a little older to remember which I guess a third would restrict us due to age gaps and I'd feel guilty for taking DD's but never having the chance to take number 3. I will just call myself settling with 2.
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It may be early days for us but knowing our family is complete fills me with excitement. I'm excited to see what life will hold for us, without the stresses and worries of ttc, pregnancies, loses etc. Closing that chapter of my life feels good. Xx
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I'm becoming more and more excited about the future. I'd love to finally aleep through the night again. My two are now actually playing together and I love it. They will independently find games to play. They have such great imagination and are so caring and loving towards each other. ( I know that won't always be, so I'm enjoying it while it lasts)
