How long after your losses did you get pregnant?

[x-MummyToBe-x]

Just wondering how long it took you ladies to get pregnant after your losses?

I lost a little girl at 20 weeks 24th august 2012 due to brain problems and ended up getting pregnant about 4 months later and ended up misscarrying at 4 weeks due to probably too soon after losing little girl.. been trying now for around 4 months and still no luck getting pregnant im worried as it was quick getting pregnant the other times so wondering if i should go see my gp to see if everything is ok and get checked out? xx

 

[LucyLake]

Hi, I'm sorry for your loss.

We lost our baby at 8w0 on Feb 13, no heartbeat. I miscarried Feb 28 officially and we buried him under our oak.

I waited one AF and had a 31 day cycle.
Then hubby wanted to wait one more and I had a short 25 day cycle.

The 25 day cycle made me worried about my luteal phase so I made dietary changes and began temping. We began TTC using charting and OPK's in month 3 (May). I had a 28 day cycle

Month 4 June: 28 day cycle

Month 5 July: July 12 twins

So, it was very very well worth the wait and getting my diet to help my cycles because it resulted in natural twins.

It took me 3 cycles. With our 9 yr old, he was a planned honeymoon baby and we got pregnant first try. With our MC, we took the morning after pill on New Years Day within 12 hrs and still got prego first try!

My advice: take care of yourself and good things come to those who wait. Also chart and temp and do OPK's because we got pregnant later because our timing in TTC cycles 1 and 2 was a bit off... We had sex before ovulation but not day of. Charting is useful if you don't plan to have sex every single day that month. Good luck

If you chart 3 months and are having sex during that ovulation week and not pregnant, contact GP.

 

[Topanga053]

I disagree with PP about seeing your GP after 3 months of TTC with no luck.

With our first pregnancy, DH and I got pregnant in our second month. We had a blighted ovum diagnosed at 9 weeks and a D&C at 11 weeks. It took us 8 cycles to get pregnant again after that.

Like you, I was worried when 2-3 cycles had passed and no BFP. I DID contact my GP, who agreed to run some preliminary tests (progesterone, other hormones, semen analysis, etc). Everything came back normal, except we had some mixed results w/ my progesterone (one month was abnormal, the next month was normal... turns out we had tested too soon the first month because I ovulate late in my cycle). In short, there was nothing wrong with us and we DID get pregnant naturally a few months later. In the meantime, the tests created a lot of anxiety (especially when my GP said I might not be ovulating regularly, based on the first incorrect progesterone test). I actually ended up incredibly depressed because I was so scared that we were infertile and would not have children, especially since my parents were diagnosed as infertile.

It was really surprising to me how much more anxiety the tests created. Even when the results were normal, the tests themselves made me THINK that something was wrong. If I could do it all again, I would have waited a lot longer before doing any testing, especially since I (like you!) KNOW that I CAN get pregnant.

That said, although TTCAL for 4 months feels like a long time, the average time to get pregnant is 6 months and doctors usually recommend waiting one year before getting testing done. Since you've gotten pregnant three times on your own, I would say the chances are VERY GOOD that nothing is wrong and it's simply taking a little bit longer... sometimes that just happens!

 

[Mahoghani]

We lost our little boy in September last year. We took a few months so that I could heal and we could get ourselves mentally prepared to be pregnant again. We started trying again in March and got our BFP on July 29th. I tracked and used OPKs and drove myself crazy trying to temp and discern when I was ovulating. It actually seemed like it was making it harder so I decided to take July off. And, voila. I think relaxing and not thinking about it is what helped me. My last two pregnancies I got pregnant when I wasn't thinking about it to. In fact my last pregnancy we had been trying for years and I finally got pregnant the month I decided to give up and focus on losing weight and going back to school instead. Everyone is different though. I wouldn't go see your GP like PP said until a year or so. I say that but I was starting to think about going to see someone to see if we had some sort of issue. A few months feels like forever when your TTC. Espeacially after a loss.

Good luck. Sending sticky baby dust your way.

 

[jessandaj]

This is my 4th cycle ttc. We started trying gain in may after a loss in October last year. I know it seems like a long time but it was atleast 7 months of ttc and a year and a half of not preventing to get pregnant with my angel. Give it some time, atleast 6 monts but its reccomended to wait a year with no luck. Lots of baby dust to you very sorry for your loss hope a bfp is on its way !

 

[x-MummyToBe-x]

Thanks all sorry for your losses.

I guess im just worrying i just thought as with all my other pregs it was rather quick ttcin thought it would be the same this time.. just guess its different each time . xx

 

[MamaTex]

Sorry to hear of your losses!! If I were you, I would get looked at. It doesn't hurt to rule things out and make sure you are in a good position to have a baby. More than likely, things are fine with you. The advice on how long to wait seems to vary from doctor to doctor. I had an early loss (before 8 weeks) last fall. I had a natural miscarriage and waited for my HCG to go down to zero, which did not take long. We were told we could DTD and TTC after the bleeding stopped, so we did. I would have one cycle before I got pregnant the next cycle. I honestly thought it was too good to be true, since the first time we TTC it took us about 6 months. Good luck to you and everyone TTC.

 

[LucyLake]

Sorry to hear of your losses!! If I were you, I would get looked at. It doesn't hurt to rule things out and make sure you are in a good position to have a baby. More than likely, things are fine with you. The advice on how long to wait seems to vary from doctor to doctor. I had an early loss (before 8 weeks) last fall. I had a natural miscarriage and waited for my HCG to go down to zero, which did not take long. We were told we could DTD and TTC after the bleeding stopped, so we did. I would have one cycle before I got pregnant the next cycle. I honestly thought it was too good to be true, since the first time we TTC it took us about 6 months. Good luck to you and everyone TTC.

I agree with this and I'll tell you why: When you get checked out, you eliminate things and you take out the guessing game. After my MC, I had my prolactin and Thyroid Stimulating Hormone tested even though we knew beyond a shadow of a doubt that my MC had a VERY simple cause: taking the morning after pill within 12 hours of sex (my husband was one and done for 9 years).

Also, getting some testing like this is helpful in certain instances. Is your period over 40 days, for example? That raises the chance of MC by 130%. Your OB can easily see that you don't make enough estrogen in such an instance. Girls with a +40 day period have a harder time getting pregnant, their follicle matures TOO much and produces an old egg when they get pregnant. They have recurrent miscarriages.

Similarly, if your luteal phase is short at 25 days-26 days cycles and 10-12 days, you can make dietary changes. This worked for me and the result was twins that are natural.

I think if you've been trying for 6 months with no success, you can at least be seen. Have a scan to see if there are cysts on ovaries, ovaries are small and look like they're on birth control, things like that. This also accounts for age, in my case I'm 34, so I would have waited 6 months and then been seen because time is ticking. In your case, OP, you've tried 4 months. I'd chart for the next 3 and then be seen 100%.

My heart is with you, did you lose her to anencephaly? Huge hugs and it WILL happen for you. Hang in there

 

[x-MummyToBe-x]

Sorry to hear of your losses!! If I were you, I would get looked at. It doesn't hurt to rule things out and make sure you are in a good position to have a baby. More than likely, things are fine with you. The advice on how long to wait seems to vary from doctor to doctor. I had an early loss (before 8 weeks) last fall. I had a natural miscarriage and waited for my HCG to go down to zero, which did not take long. We were told we could DTD and TTC after the bleeding stopped, so we did. I would have one cycle before I got pregnant the next cycle. I honestly thought it was too good to be true, since the first time we TTC it took us about 6 months. Good luck to you and everyone TTC.

I agree with this and I'll tell you why: When you get checked out, you eliminate things and you take out the guessing game. After my MC, I had my prolactin and Thyroid Stimulating Hormone tested even though we knew beyond a shadow of a doubt that my MC had a VERY simple cause: taking the morning after pill within 12 hours of sex (my husband was one and done for 9 years).

Also, getting some testing like this is helpful in certain instances. Is your period over 40 days, for example? That raises the chance of MC by 130%. Your OB can easily see that you don't make enough estrogen in such an instance. Girls with a +40 day period have a harder time getting pregnant, their follicle matures TOO much and produces an old egg when they get pregnant. They have recurrent miscarriages.

Similarly, if your luteal phase is short at 25 days-26 days cycles and 10-12 days, you can make dietary changes. This worked for me and the result was twins that are natural.

I think if you've been trying for 6 months with no success, you can at least be seen. Have a scan to see if there are cysts on ovaries, ovaries are small and look like they're on birth control, things like that. This also accounts for age, in my case I'm 34, so I would have waited 6 months and then been seen because time is ticking. In your case, OP, you've tried 4 months. I'd chart for the next 3 and then be seen 100%.

My heart is with you, did you lose her to anencephaly? Huge hugs and it WILL happen for you. Hang in there

Thanks hun xx

No she had severe fluid on the brain and something else to do with her brain but cant think of the name right now.
xx

 

[bexibabes]

sorry to hear of your loss huni, i had a missed miscarriage in april 2013 at 10 weeks, baby had died at 6w 6days, had a d&c. Started ttc as soon as bleeding stopped and got our bfp on 13th june 2013 xx

 

[SiBelle]

Mummytobe, first, I'm very sorry for your loss. I also lost a son at 25 weeks a little over 6 months ago due to severe arthrogryposis. My husband and I decided to not talk about having more children for at least 6-12 months after this traumatic experience. Physically, I was given the go ahead after 2 months but it was recommended we wait to give our mental health a break. We weren't exactly planning on getting pregnant, ( I haven't told him yet but will do so this weekend, I just got a BFP a couple of days ago!).

I would very much doubt that you lost your pregnancy because it was too soon after, unless you had some physical complications during the delivery of Chloe.

My doctor told me that it takes on average 8-12 months to get pregnant (longer if you are older than 35). It doesn't mean there's anything wrong with either of you. It's just how nature works. Sometimes it's quick, sometimes it takes longer.
It took me 4 months to get pregnant the first time, and the same the second time around. I wouldn't worry yet. The first time, I started worrying after 3 months and was referred to a fertility clinic. Everything was normal. I wasn't nervous about the testing but everyone reacts differently.

Baby dust to you.

You don't have to answer this, but how are you celebrating Chloe's upcoming first birthday? Sending big hugs your way. Stay strong.

 

[bump6]

I found out 3 days ago that I'm pregnant again, three weeks after
my d&c

 

[Benim]

My was long story ectopic oct 2010 and ttc again 6 months after surgery no luck until August 8, 2012 I got BFP so happy but scare at the same time 9 months for me seem very very long times.

I got to hold my baby boy May 9,2013 and tomorrow he will be 4 months old.

 

[elleff]

I had 2 periods after my mc, now I'm almost 28 weeks pregnant. Good luck to you xx

 

[floridamomma]

I had 3 living childrens then after meeting my dh had a mmc in dec 2012 and a loss at 10 weeks feb of 2013. we were told to wait 6 months. we started 3 months later in may but got our bfp in august. I started to get nervous because I wasn't getting a bfp but when I focused on other things I fell pregnant straight away

 

[Drsamyjohn]

Four months in between each of three miscarriages, thought that was my norm, so did NOT expect a BFP last week, just one cycle after D&C.

 

[CastawayBride]

Hello,

I had a late term loss as we had our son on July 18th at 31 weeks. I was told that I needed to heal and that once I had AF we would be OK to try again. I had AF 5 weeks 1 day after giving birth. I did not start being intimate again with my husband till I was cleared at 6 weeks. We only dtd twice and well I am pregnant again it looks like. I am waiting until about 5 weeks to go to the doctor to make sure our little bean sticks...I am trying to go with the mind set that everything will be fine and try not to worry, I think worrying can often lead your mind to wander to the negative side. It is so hard not to though...

PS We were going to start actively trying next month, so we are truly blessed with our little miracle!

 

[Storked]

It took me 9 months to conceive again after my loss.