How many ICSI/IVF/FET before a positive - POLL

[chocci]

I have an idea.. lets post a thread with IVF success stories... which details how many times it took before BFP, how many eggs, how many embies, how many embies transferred and then reason for infertility. what do u guys think?

xxx

Haha i already did it and got such little response i have given up, people dont seem to be able to be assed answering see, seems people dont really care to be honest!:
https://www.babyandbump.com/problem...o-fertilization-fet-before-positive-poll.html

 

[chocci]

Arh i see i thought this was on anotehr thread, give it a go if you want tanya, but i have tried to start many threads woith a more positive vibe and noone really seems interested, i will stick wit hthe fertilityfriends forum i think, seems like not many bother on here for some reason, i will keep my eyes open for your threa, hope you have more luck than me!

 

[Mervs Mum]

Haha i already did it and got such little response i have given up, people dont seem to be able to be assed answering see, seems people dont really care to be honest

but i have tried to start many threads woith a more positive vibe and noone really seems interested, i will stick wit hthe fertilityfriends forum i think, seems like not many bother on here for some reason

I dont think this is fair. People have been replying to your thread but you keep saying how people cant be 'assed' and they 'dont care' and FF is a better forum.....that's not very 'positive' is it

 

[chocci]

Haha i already did it and got such little response i have given up, people dont seem to be able to be assed answering see, seems people dont really care to be honest

but i have tried to start many threads woith a more positive vibe and noone really seems interested, i will stick wit hthe fertilityfriends forum i think, seems like not many bother on here for some reason

I dont think this is fair. People have been replying to your thread but you keep saying how people cant be 'assed' and they 'dont care' and FF is a better forum.....that's not very 'positive' is it

Well its how i feel unfortunately, not just this thread i have started numerous and hardly get a response, i think, like many others i have chatted with recently its time for a break from here, too much negativity on these boards, its just my opinion but it never used to be like that just seems a lot of people have left these boards recently for the same reason!

 

[Mervs Mum]

Obviously people tend to stick to the boards that are relevant to them but if you (I mean 'members' not you personally ) look around the boards (I have been here since TTC) you'll find lots of threads that get few or even no replies. It really depends who's on at the time of posting or who sees it and decides to reply. People cant expect every thread they start to turn into a hot topic just because they think it's a great idea

 

[alice&bump]

erm, whats to say there's not just a low number of people on here that have had IVF etc?? if people havent had the experiences, they can hardly answer your questions can they?? you might get more response on FF cos there's a lot more people in that situation. and people might not necessarily come into this area once they've got preg/had babies. most poeple on here are really friendly and will answer whatever they can. but even now after being a member for over a year and having 6000 posts, i still have threads that have no answers. its just that some threads people cant reply to.

 

[wrightywales]

i am in 2ww of my 1st IVF so havent got a clue. i'd love it to work 1st time but know that it might not happen just have to wait and see

 

[chocci]

I think i have been reading the wrong boards to be honest and got dragged down by the negativity and its put me in a bad mood haha (not me at all to be frank), i have just had a shit week really after finding out last wed that my ICSi had failed so was in need of inspiration and a little dissapointed that hardly anyone replied to this thread although i am greatful for those who did, seems once people have their BFP they simply leave and thats it really. I thought this would be a nice thread for lots of people feeling down and needing inspiration if they go through the same as me, i was thinking more for others in the future than for me if i am totally frank and thats why i am a little fed up that not many people have shared their stories....... I found some nice threads on other forums with this kind of thing on so thought it would be nice to start one on here for the members on here...hey ho never mind you live and learn

 

[Mervs Mum]

Good luck Wrightywales!! Fingers crossed for you

 

[chocci]

erm, whats to say there's not just a low number of people on here that have had IVF etc?? if people havent had the experiences, they can hardly answer your questions can they?? you might get more response on FF cos there's a lot more people in that situation. and people might not necessarily come into this area once they've got preg/had babies. most poeple on here are really friendly and will answer whatever they can. but even now after being a member for over a year and having 6000 posts, i still have threads that have no answers. its just that some threads people cant reply to.

To answer your points:

Firstly, I posted a link to this thread on the BFP thread i know many people on there have had the experience they are in the LTTTC BFP announcments after all and there is also a thread called for MAY IVF with apprently lots of positives!

Secondly this thread is becoming hot topic now once i made a controversial statement

Never mind i dont want to argue with anyone i have just noticed it alot recently on these boards, again sorry its just an opinion!

 

[Mervs Mum]

I think i have been reading the wrong boards to be honest and got dragged down by the negativity and its put me in a bad mood haha (not me at all to be frank), i have just had a shit week really after finding out last wed that my ICSi had failed so was in need of inspiration and a little dissapointed that hardly anyone replied to this thread although i am greatful for those who did, seems once people have their BFP they simply leave and thats it really. I thought this would be a nice thread for lots of people feeling down and needing inspiration if they go through the same as me, i was thinking more for others in the future than for me if i am totally frank and thats why i am a little fed up that not many people have shared their stories....... I found some nice threads on other forums with this kind of thing on so thought it would be nice to start one on here for the members on here...hey ho never mind you live and learn

I'm sorry you had a bad week Chocci. For the most part when people get their BFP they do move on. It's a new part of their story which they are entitled to get just as submerged in as the might have in the actual TTC - what ever their process was. When I first left TTC I did go back but after a while I did move on and when you get your BFP (soon hopefully) then I hazard a guess that your first priority will be to enjoy your pregnancy and exciting journey. Yes you might pop back to see how your old TTC and LTTTC friends are getting along BUT I guarantee you wont reply to EVERYONES posts....you simply wont see them all.

Good luck and I hope I see you soon on another leg of your journey

 

[Mervs Mum]

And I dont think it's now a hot topic because you were controvertial - I think you were bordering on rude with your sweeping generalisations TBH.

 

[chocci]

NIce thanks for that Mervs mum i really needed that, thanks a lot!

 

[chocci]

And i WAS being sarcastic!

 

[Dilek]

Sorry I totally agree with the other comment earlier. I have been on the LTTC boards for over a year. I was reading way before i joined and there hasnt been that many IVF stories. So when it doesnt relate to members they dont reply.

And on top of that, like me and many others we have journals. Thats were you are going to get success stories and understand us and form relationships. Not trying to be mean but its there for you to read. Take your time and read up, thats what i did. Yep the other forum has many IVF stories but its impersonal. They both have there purpose and i would never give up BNB.

 

[Mendy]

I agree with Dilek. I have been on this forum over a year and I don't recall seeing that many IVF stories, but for the most part, there was a good amount of replies to this thread. Getting one, two, or even three replies is inspirational to me. Even one reply of a success story is all I need to keep me going and keep me trying for what I want. If it doesn't really apply to people then they won't respond.

I know it's only been a week since you found out about your failed cycle, but I found for me even though it still hurts it does get easier with time.

Take care of yourself, chocci.

 

[Lilly123]

Hun.. I dont think there are that many of us doing IVF on here.. but i completely agree we should have a IVF success stories area.. let me look into it..

BTW fertility friends and fertility zone have some nice success stories as I think there are far more girls on there doing IVF..

Good luck hun... I am always here to support u

xxx

 

[chocci]

Thanks Tanya, i wanted a thread where it was easy to find stories, i understand people have them in their journals BUT thre is a lot to trial through in the journals, a lot of it is just general chit chat, i have done that i have looked through a lot of them, its hard work, people looking for inspiration just want to read the bones of a story!.....not meaning to sound funny but there are a lot of irrelevant comments on journals and some are pages and pages long, makes it hard to find just the story in the journals.

Like i said i posted on the BFP section of the LTTTC, people in there must have a story to tell i have noticed there have been a fair few doing IVF/ICSI/FET/IUI??? but maybe i am wrong??? but if they dont want to answer dont suppose we can make them. Maybe the moderators should create a section specfically to creating a brief snippet of success stories from fertility treatments?

Thanks and good luck Tanya i notice your in 2ww....fingers crossed chic x

 

[Brambletess]

Chocci - I am sorry your ICSI was not successful. When will you be trying again? I have recently miscarried and am hoping to start my ICSI in august or september. I think the success stories are there its just so many back off from forums when they get their BFPs. The dream is to be pregnant but the worry doesn't stop it just changes and you seek out those who understand that. To be honest I feel less inclined to join a thread during my ICSI as there is a risk others negativity (understandable of course as its bloody hard at different times) or experienes can affect you and it is a personal journey and for me I want it to be as positive as possible.

I have been told it is better to view IVF as a course of treatment over say 3 goes. The odds of sucess go up massively.

 

[Lilly123]

Thanks Tanya, i wanted a thread where it was easy to find stories, i understand people have them in their journals BUT thre is a lot to trial through in the journals, a lot of it is just general chit chat, i have done that i have looked through a lot of them, its hard work, people looking for inspiration just want to read the bones of a story!.....not meaning to sound funny but there are a lot of irrelevant comments on journals and some are pages and pages long, makes it hard to find just the story in the journals.

Like i said i posted on the BFP section of the LTTTC, people in there must have a story to tell i have noticed there have been a fair few doing IVF/ICSI/FET/IUI??? but maybe i am wrong??? but if they dont want to answer dont suppose we can make them. Maybe the moderators should create a section specfically to creating a brief snippet of success stories from fertility treatments?

Thanks and good luck Tanya i notice your in 2ww....fingers crossed chic x

I agree hun.. I will ask moderators if we can do a thread with IVF success stories..I am not in 2WW yet hun.. will be soon.. should be starting stimms tomorrow

Good luck hun.. u will get there