How many ICSI/IVF/FET before a positive - POLL

[chocci]

Good luck on the rest of your journey.

thanks and you too

 

[chocci]

I think alot of women find it hard to talk about the IVF etc journey as for some it has been very hard and long.. i no if i ever get my baby threw IVF i never wanna think about all these years of hurt.

Perhaps, maybe, i dont know how i will feel, no actually i think i will be the type thats wants to share my journey no matter how hard it has been just because i like to give people hope, just because someones story might mirror my own....suppose each to their own. i just hope there are some people out there who have had a hard journey who are willing to share it with us, its truley inspirrational to read of success after years of trying.... i think so anyway

 

[x_Rainbow_x]

i think its because atm im the only one on here having a certain type of IVF.. nobody like me at all. i have found no1 like me with any type of sucsess..

 

[chocci]

i think its because atm im the only one on here having a certain type of IVF.. nobody like me at all. i have found no1 like me with any type of sucsess..

Well you can be the first to write about your success on the success thread!! The first person to tell a story like yours to happily write about your journey and perhaps help someone else in the future searchign the internet for stories of hope who DO have a situation like yours x

 

[chocci]

Posted on wrong thread DOh - deleted

 

[maz]

I have looked in this thread on a few occasions now but chose not to post simply because of the title ... I haven't had a positive outcome from either of my IVF cycles yet. The early MC from the first isn't counted as a success in the eyes of the HFEA, so I'm not counting it as a success either.

I don't know if a success thread would be the best option. Let's face it - not every cycle is a positive and successful experience, and giving what could potentially be false hope to people reading it, could be counter productive. I'm more of a 'warts-and-all' kind of girl, so want to read about the negatives and worst case scenarios as well ...

Hope that makes sense.

 

[maz]

Oh, and I forgot to add that from my own point of view - I've been part of the LTTTC forum for what feels like an eternity now, and I don't come on as often as I used to. That is mainly due to me not being able to learn anything new, and also because when I am feeling down, depressed, fed up, or whatever, I'm not the right person to be giving people advice.

It's not because I don't care about others and their difficulties, but more so because I do care and don't want to drag them down with me.

 

[chocci]

Hi Maz

On many forums there are success threads, where people simply post a few paragraphs of their story when they finally have their success. For me and I think many others they are truley inspirational especially when in that long 2ww where your mind and body plays tricks on you, am i, arnt i, negative, positive, sometimes its just nice to read how others felt the same and have similiar stories to you and that may have failed first time, second time, but eventually got a positive. It helps some people not give up which people do fel like doing after an infertility treatment failure, its can inspire us to be strong and continue and realise we are not the only ones in such a sad situation. It also stops helps to remove the "woe me" attitude that can develop as we are all probably guilty of that on occasions being negative and thinking nothing will work, just reading a couple of success stories can rid us of that and give us some positivity and hope again.

Tanya and I have asked the mods if we can have a seperate section like on other forums, perhaps to have seperate threads withi the section for IVF success, ICSI success, success perhaps after miscarriage etc etc. We are awaiting their response

 

[x_Rainbow_x]

maybe acctually do a poll and ask all of LTTTC if theyd like one first as if one is made and not used its gone 2 waste.. Im sure mods will agree one will only be made if people really want one and will use it.

 

[chocci]

maybe acctually do a poll and ask all of LTTTC if theyd like one first as if one is made and not used its gone 2 waste.. Im sure mods will agree one will only be made if people really want one and will use it.

Perhaps but why would anyone who has been trying to concieve for a long timenot want to see success stories from others who were in the same boat as them........ i fell like giving in on this one

 

[chocci]

Oh, and I forgot to add that from my own point of view - I've been part of the LTTTC forum for what feels like an eternity now, and I don't come on as often as I used to. That is mainly due to me not being able to learn anything new, and also because when I am feeling down, depressed, fed up, or whatever, I'm not the right person to be giving people advice.

It's not because I don't care about others and their difficulties, but more so because I do care and don't want to drag them down with me.

Wouldnt a success thread make you feel better, you dont have to comment, just read stories for inspiration when your feeling fed up?

 

[x_Rainbow_x]

im just saying give everyone the choice to vote see what they vote for.. you never no they might all say yes... you can do a proper poll

 

[chocci]

im just saying give everyone the choice to vote see what they vote for.. you never no they might all say yes... you can do a proper poll

Well Tanya has already contacted the mods so let them do what they need to do to decide. They may say no, it was just an idea, if people dont want it then fine, but if they dont i would be truley perplexed as to why not.

 

[x_Rainbow_x]

maybe because as happy as we are to see so many people get there dream some of us are still here and probally will be for quite a while. Esp when youv had so many goes and you feel like giving up. You have to remember not everyone thinks the same as you are atm.. sometimes it gets very very hard for some of us.. we dont all deal with the problems the same. if people chose they dont want one then thats there choice one that should be respected.

 

[chocci]

I give in.

 

[x_Rainbow_x]

all im saying is give people the choice do a poll but make it annonomous so ppl have private votes to see what they want.. if u dnt wanna do ill do it for u if you want?

 

[chocci]

How do i do a poll? I didnt know it could be done on this forum?

 

[x_Rainbow_x]

want me 2 do it for you? gotta start a new thread.

 

[chocci]

Yeah if you would, but can you make it clear it would be a thread only for success stories of those who have been through fertility treatment, who have had long hard journeys just like us, who want to inspire others not to give up after failures as if your keep trying success is just aroung the corner. The thread will just be a short entry from people who want to share their story that lead to a positive result eventually and will include such things as the cuase of the infertiltiy, secondary factors (if any), number of cycles, how many eggs retrieved, how many fertilised, how many embryos transferred and grade, EDD/DOB, how they felt throughout, sideaffects / symptoms and their journey to BFP

Cheers, i cant find how to do a poll

 

[hopefulfor09]

Wow. I have come over to LTTTC in the past 2 months and haven't really commented on many threads - mostly because I don't know a whole lot about this stuff (which is why i came over - to learn). It's looking like we are going to be referred for IVF (DH's SAs were not good) and while I haven't been through any of this yet and have nothing but the utmost respect for those who have - I think this type of thread would be very useful. BnB has been a great source of inspiration on our journey thus far. The support I have received has helped me tremendously.

But then I see threads like this. Where one comment made in a state of desperation and hopelessness is blown out of proportion and that person (who came on here for support and inspiration) ends up feeling worse. I don't think what Chocci said was a personal attack on anyone or on BnB. But someone who didn't have something relevant to share came on this thread to call her out and then insult her by saying she's all about me me me? I don't think that's a fair assumption to make. When I found out about DHs SA - I wanted to find info on successs stories with IVF too and while I love reading the journals sometimes there are just so many pages......and having this in once section would be very helpful for a lot of people.

Chocci - I am so sorry your ICSI resulted in a BFN. My heart goes out to every single member who is in this section and struggling to have a baby. Of all the places on BnB to put your two cents in and judge someone on one comment ....this is not the one.