arturia
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Hello ladies.
I just got a positive this morning. Cautiously expecting May 3rd 2017.
I haven't told my dh yet as that situation is complicated. Some of you may know the story as I posted a whole tl;dr thread about it on the WTT board.
So really, my question is, does anyone have any suggestions for how to tell him? He's not going to be happy, so I don't know that something like buying a 'daddy' book or wrapping my pregnancy test is going to work. Sitting down and telling him 'I'm sorry, I have 'bad' news' is likely to result in an unhappy several days. And lastly, I am not going to terminate. He's told me it's not something he'd ask me to do, but I expect he'll be thinking it.
I just got a positive this morning. Cautiously expecting May 3rd 2017.
I haven't told my dh yet as that situation is complicated. Some of you may know the story as I posted a whole tl;dr thread about it on the WTT board.
Our TTC journey has been complicated. End of February I went off the pill with my husband's blessing. Around the same time, he started to taper off his SSRI. We halfheartedly tried for the next couple months. I only tracked anything for the first month, in part because I was planning our move into a new house, our first with a mortgage. We moved June 7th.
About a month after we move (and a couple months after he stopped his SSRI completely, before he had really stabilized emotionally) he tells me he was wrong, he never wants to be a father at all. We nearly divorce over this, as being a mom figures strongly in my own vision for the future.
Cut to August. I still haven't gotten my birth control back in order because I like being off the hormonal stuff and fear getting a copper IUD. (I have a tilted uterus and expect my backwards facing cervix to cause trouble with insertion.) and he's telling me he's not sure what he wants anymore. We have risky I think 3-4 days before my expected O day. Seems to have caught an egg. Afterwards, he tells me he regrets that choice, so I guess he really hopes I'm not pregnant.
Luckily I feel that, due to my financial situation, parenting for him ends up largely optional. I have a career, I can pay for child care and a place on my own if I have to. (I'd have to take on roommates to stay in the new house though.)
About a month after we move (and a couple months after he stopped his SSRI completely, before he had really stabilized emotionally) he tells me he was wrong, he never wants to be a father at all. We nearly divorce over this, as being a mom figures strongly in my own vision for the future.
Cut to August. I still haven't gotten my birth control back in order because I like being off the hormonal stuff and fear getting a copper IUD. (I have a tilted uterus and expect my backwards facing cervix to cause trouble with insertion.) and he's telling me he's not sure what he wants anymore. We have risky I think 3-4 days before my expected O day. Seems to have caught an egg. Afterwards, he tells me he regrets that choice, so I guess he really hopes I'm not pregnant.
Luckily I feel that, due to my financial situation, parenting for him ends up largely optional. I have a career, I can pay for child care and a place on my own if I have to. (I'd have to take on roommates to stay in the new house though.)
So really, my question is, does anyone have any suggestions for how to tell him? He's not going to be happy, so I don't know that something like buying a 'daddy' book or wrapping my pregnancy test is going to work. Sitting down and telling him 'I'm sorry, I have 'bad' news' is likely to result in an unhappy several days. And lastly, I am not going to terminate. He's told me it's not something he'd ask me to do, but I expect he'll be thinking it.