I am hating the experience of TTC

[melsybelsy]

We have been TTC since November 2010. But eversince we made that decision our sex life has gone down hill. I first became anxious about being a good enough mum etc. Then this led me to start getting a lot of pain in my bladder and sex became painful. So to try and find out what was wrong had an laparoskopi.It turned out it's was all because I was soo tight and stressed. After that hurdle I though I would try to relax and continue but three months after op I am still feeling the psychological pressure of trying to conceive. When having sex all the things that can go wrong comes to my mind, and I just can't relax making it hard to have intercourse. Last night I was ovulating,so I had planned things for the evening. My husband didn't know I was ovulating but he was stressed with work. So it completely turned me off, hence when it came to having sex I went all cold. In fact my husband said it was like touching a robot.The problem is it just feels like we are having sex for the sake of it not because we wanted to so I just feels mechanical. He didn't know I was ovulating but I am soooooo frustrated with whole process. We have been married nearly four years and before this we had a pretty good sex life. What can I do to just enjoy this process and relax...?? Any help would help..

 

[Hutchess]

we've been trying since Dec so know how you feel by March i was just fed up so decided to mix it up

we started really making an effort to have fun time at non crucial stages like this week, alos avoiding the standard baby positions mid cycle to keep it fresh

this has alos helped the TTW from being quite so hard and emotional - filling it with fun and excitment and it goes quicker!!

i never liked the thought of missing a months opportunity so have focused on the other days to make them super special - its working for us!!

 

[LauraJoanne]

maybe try swapping every few months. have so many set months ttc and if still nothing have a little break and just try NTNP to take the pressure off. its hard because sex came become such a chore, a job you need to get done to get preg. gl xxx

 

[melsybelsy]

Thanks for the suggestions, the ironic thing is that in order to increase your chances of pregnant you need to relax and not think about it.. I get soo frustrated with myself because I blame for self for not being able to relax and enjoy BD. I have stop charting to make TTW a bit easier and relax more. I am trying to avoid using Ovulation kits, as I feel this will just add to pressure. I have rough idea when I O cos of discharge..