I Confess.....

[maria86]

@maria86

Your VERY right and we did talk about it over a couple months and he would make comments about it and made it seem like he was game. Then last night i asked him if he really wanted another baby or if he was just going along with me, he replied "i'm happy with our 2". needless to say i was a little crushed and rolled over and went to sleep. He doesn't want to talk about it. All he says is he knows i want a baby, and he knows we are much more stable and can afford one more now then we could with our first 2. So now i'm stressing because i want another baby!!! We currently rent our house (we were doing rent to own, but we want out of the city) and we have been trying to find our perfect house in a good area. The past couple days he has only been looking at 4 bedrooms (which we would need with a #3) and then he makes that comment last night. I'm getting mixed signals!!! and going crazy!!!

That is probably very taunting! I am sorry you are going through this. What I have learned about men (aside from them being totally different creatures than us ) is that they really really do NOT get hints well. Have you tried a head on approach? I mean, sitting him down with a nice cup of tea in a relaxed atmosphere and really asking him: "Are you on board for another baby or do you not want one?". And no "maybe" or "just for you". Try it out and see how he really feels. Also, try not to "close down" emotionally (turn around, leave etc). Listen to him. Maybe he has a reason for his emotions.
Sorry for a long reply!
Good luck!

 

[cbass929]

@maria86

i almost feel he's unsure because of the MIL. He is a only child, she aborted her second child at 20 weeks. . She wanted me to do that with both my kids, i am strongly AGAINST abortions. Me on the other hand i have a brother and sister, 2 half brothers, 3 step brothers and 2 step sister. So its a big family. Not sure, thanks for the input i'll be definitely HOPEFULLY getting to the end of it this evening... thanks bunches

 

[maria86]

@cbass929 I am sorry!! It is horrible to have a B*tch for MIL... Good luck to you! I Hope it will work out in the end! And btw, it is amazing that you stuck to your beliefs and did not abort your wonderful children!!!

 

[SpringerS]

I confess that at the weekend I was visiting the city which 4 of my friends who have had babies in the last 6 months reside in and I didn't tell them as I didn't want to have to see them.

I confess that I have still got to get around to buying a gift for my friend's baby who was born in June. I've tried a number of times but for some reason I just can't manage it. And as it's been so long it's going to have to be something really special.

 

[ami1985]

i confess that it makes me mad when people moan and complain about TTC when they already have a child and are so lucky and blessed to have one

I wish I did

 

[SpringerS]

I confess.. I am feeling depressed at m OH lack of BD'ing, I have the higher sex drive, he says he wants this baby just as much as me, but cant help feeling that he avoids BD! always a reason why we cant i mean once in 5 weeks???? or worse I dont arouse him like i used to does he not realise it takes two to make a baby!

My husband was seriously ill for two of the last 3 years and as a result we had almost no sex life. When we decided at the start of this year to start trying again we were both very worried as he still had very little sex drive. Each month was incredibly stressful as he could never guarantee he'd be up to having sex at the right time each month and the stress of it was so intense it made it even harder for him to succeed.

Then we found maca. He originally started taking it for the sperm improvement benefits as neither of us had any faith in libido enhancers but OMG!!!!!!!! He's turned into a complete love machine. I strongly recommend it, especially the powder.

 

[CuddleBunny]

TTC Confessions:
I confess that I roll my eyes when people are frustrated with TTC after 2 months.
I confess that I'm jealous with people that get pregnant easily and don't have any health issues standing in their way.
I confess that when hubby thought we were ntnp for nearly a year I was tracking ovulation and making sure we BD'd then.
I confess because I didn't get pregnant in ntnp time that it might not ever happen.
I confess that all I have ever wanted was to be a stay at home mom so when people tell me to go to college and get a career I just want to scream sometimes.
I confess that every time I get AF I still hold out hope I got pregnant.
I confess that I was happy when my cousin lost custody to her child because she was a poor mother that did drugs in front of her child, to say the least of things.
I confess that I want to scream at my best friend when she complains about her kid or about being pregnant when she knows about my miscarriage and troubles TTC.
I confess that over 2 years after my miscarriage I still sometimes silently cry myself to sleep.

Non-TTC confessions:
I confess that I have an addiction to junk food and fast food and I have to force myself not to eat it.
I confess that no matter how much I love OH sometimes I just want to be alone, and when I don't get that I want to scream at the top of my lungs.
I confess that I am addicted to watching movies and tv series online.
I confess that I am not a good cook.
I confess that I don't get along with "normal" people and no longer go onto Facebook because all it does is make my blood rise to see how stupid most people my age are.
I confess that every month AF arrives, I smoke 1 joint to ease the cramping and stress.

Thanks for the thread...feels good to get things off my chest

 

[Mosnippy]

I confess.. I am feeling depressed at m OH lack of BD'ing, I have the higher sex drive, he says he wants this baby just as much as me, but cant help feeling that he avoids BD! always a reason why we cant i mean once in 5 weeks???? or worse I dont arouse him like i used to does he not realise it takes two to make a baby!

Then we found maca. He originally started taking it for the sperm improvement benefits as neither of us had any faith in libido enhancers but OMG!!!!!!!! He's turned into a complete love machine. I strongly recommend it, especially the powder.

aw thanks for the reply, i will look into this... although I think I finally got to the bottom of it...damn men are so stubborrrnnnnn instead of saying its really painful and sensitive downbelow after we have BD he doesnt say anything the nut case!!!! as he is too embarressed to see a Dr!

 

[lmp1505768]

I confess that I'm secretly mad at DF for insisting I continue depo provera in march, because he thought I was super fertiile and would get my cycle back right away.needless to say,that didnt happen.
I confess that it irritates me when I see 'angry' moms (who view their kids as a chore) and I can't get pregnant with my second.
I confess that I hate it when people assume that being a young mom,makes a bad mom.
I confess I'm contemplating the 'use egg whites for BD' theory. Even though it kinda grosses me out.without tell DF of course.
I confess that my MIL getting involved and thinking her opinion on us TTC matters,really pisses me off.

 

[lotte]

I confess i thought ttc would be a lot quicker and more simple
I confess i have bought baby things already and now think i have jinxed myself
I confess that i don't dare tell friends we are ttc in case it takes forever and they wonder why
I confess i get jelous when i look at the bfp's and pregnant bellies

 

[PrincessKay]

I confess... Even though this is my first cycle, im still desperatley hoping to get a BFP.

I confess... It pisses me off when my friend falls pregnant at the drop of a hat, and she doesnt want anymore kids.

I confess... Im so jealous of my 2 sisters, i wanted to give my mum her first grandchild as i am the oldest.

I confess... Everytime i bake cakes i cant help thinking i cant wait to bake with my child, get all messy and have matching aprons

I confess... I hold my kitty in my arms and rock her like a baby, and she hates it.

I confess... Even though it isnt time to test yet, ive already done 2 tests.

 

[Twinkie210]

I confess... that if I knew it was this hard to get pregnant I would never have started BC! I have wasted a lot of money!

 

[cbass929]

I confess... that if I knew it was this hard to get pregnant I would never have started BC! I have wasted a lot of money!

That is VERY True!!!! GL

 

[Angel baby]

I confess that I secretly wanted to knock the hell out of my neighbor who thinks he got a girl pregnant from a one night stand and her tubes are tied when he knowingly knew I had a tubal reversal surgery almost 6 months ago and I don't want to hear that crap! IDIOT! My hormones must be raging today?!?

 

[mommytobe11]

i confess... That if i knew it was this hard to get pregnant i would never have started bc! I have wasted a lot of money!

true story!!

 

[Yammas]

^^ same here

 

[Mrs.stefka]

I confess...that all of these threads have been theraputic by letting me know I am not the only person out there that feels frustrated with the whole process of trying to conceive. Thanks ladies!

 

[U347464]

I confess... that if I knew it was this hard to get pregnant I would never have started BC! I have wasted a lot of money!

Amen!

 

[U347464]

i confess that it makes me mad when people moan and complain about TTC when they already have a child and are so lucky and blessed to have one

I wish I did

I feel the same way. I stick with the TTC#1 threads from now.

 

[U347464]

I confess that I do not like the bitter nasty person I'm becoming.

Same here.