I don't seem to trust anyone?

[Serene123]

I don't seem to trust anyone with Caitlyn apart from my mum. Even if she's with someone else and I'm in the house, if she starts crying I go to make sure they're not hurting her.........

Can't believe I'm admitting this. I'm so paranoid!!!

 

[Tilly]

I don't either - and I think it's good that you don't to be honest. I don't have any respect for people that leaves their kids with anyone that they've known for 5 minutes.

Id only trust my mum, brother, Sonny's mum and dad to have Bethanie. Maybe Sonny's brother and his girlfriend.. but thats it.

 

[lollylou1]

i dont mind other holding Annabelle, i want her to be sociable, i work in a nursery and i have seen the effects of children who havent been sociable with others from a young age but i wont leave her with anyone, i dont like leaving her with my husband and i am aware he can cope well without me but i always think she need ME. i wont leave her with my closest of friends and i know they are more that capable with their own kids must just be the mothers protective instinct kicking in

Lou
xxx

 

[Serene123]

There are probably a few other people I trust to watch her for a short while, but not many. I trust my sister with her, but not her boyfriend. I like her boyfriend I just don't know him well enough to trust him around her... Even if my sister is there...

I feel ridiculous most of the time. My sister wouldn't let him hurt her, not that he even would! Neither would my friends hurt her, but you never know?!

 

[Pyrrhic]

I think you're being too hard on yourself. You are a first time Mum, and you have had to raise her on your own. It is only natural that you will be protective of her, and continue to want to be the person who does everything for her.

I only trust my OH and my Mum with Niamh. No one else. I won't leave her with my sister who is a nursery nurse! I don't think people will hurt her, just that they won't look after her the way that I do.

 

[Serene123]

I trust my mum and my sister because I live with them and they know how to settle her and what she wants when she's crying.. I don't trust anyone else. My baby needs me, and on the very odd occasion she can't have me, they know what I'd do to settle her and know how to cope.

I'm afraid other people wouldn't be able to settle her, and get angry at her.

I'm glad I'm not going crazy!

 

[Tilly]

I think they are very normal fears, nothing paranoid about that!

 

[lollylou1]

yeah thats the same for me hun its not i dont trust them because i think they might hurt her its more they wouldnt do thinks my way and then she would be really upset.

my sister in law has the most ridiculous routine ideas i have ever heard in my life, my OH mother is so stuck back in the years that if she was crying would probably put something in her bottle and i wouldnt want that but if your not there what can you do

Lou
xxx

 

[Serene123]

Thank you girls!

 

[Pyrrhic]

I trust my mum and my sister because I live with them and they know how to settle her and what she wants when she's crying.. I don't trust anyone else. My baby needs me, and on the very odd occasion she can't have me, they know what I'd do to settle her and know how to cope.

This is EXACTLY how I feel! That no one else knows how to fix her crying like I do. No one can comfort her like I do.

 

[nikky0907]

I trust her dad and my sister with Lola. Other people can hold her but only if I am present and watching it.
I don't think thats paranoid at all

 

[milliemeg]

glad im not the only one!

I trust my DH mum and dad if my mothers present lol but I cant trust anyone else not even my MIL shes terrible cant hold her properly or when she starts crying when she holds her she tells me its wind no its just shes not comfortable with you!

I will never leave her with anyone but DH or mother

Gem x

 

[ryder]

I dont trust many people with Jasmine either. Her 2 Grammas, probably my OH's sister, though we've never had her look after Jasmine yet... And her Daddy. I want her to be social, and anyone can hold her when im there, but I dont want her staying with alot of people at this pont, it would throw her routine off too much.

 

[AppleBlossom]

I trust most people because I want her to be well socialised and not be clingy to me. But that's just me. I guess it's been hard to let her go since you have been pretty much bringing her up on your own since Rich left

 

[lorrilou]

I trust most people because I want her to be well socialised and not be clingy to me. But that's just me. I guess it's been hard to let her go since you have been pretty much bringing her up on your own since Rich left

I was the same with nicole, she would go with anyone, not that i'd let her go with just anyone obviously and she was never ever a clingy baby. Even when she started nursery when she was 2, she was more than happy to toddle off with the nursery staff.

BUT im totally different with callum, my mum and my best friend (his auntie) are the only people i trust with him. I think because of all the horror stories about kids in the media these days it makes you less trusting of people, if that makes sense. I know its always gone on but you here about it nearly every day now.

 

[1st_baby]

Your pretty normal hun im the same way with max

 

[missjess]

Oh hun, I'm exactly the same!!! Only trust my mom and DH with Josh. I know I will be having lots of trouble when my in laws will be here because they'll want to take Josh for walks etc, but they're is no way I'm leaving him alone with anyone else !!!

 

[charlie07]

I'm the same. More so with OH's mum as we have the language barrier and she does things HER way with everything. Put it this way, the onyl time we left her, she fed her 15 mins early (which was acceptable) but then 45 mins early cause she was crying. Well, Gabbi doesn't cry, she whinges and we told her NOT to feed her until the earliest and the latest (wrote down times) and she disregarded them as she said she knew what she was doing. Well she's not hers!!!!! If I could trust her to do what we say then I'd leave her more often!

 

[MoonMuffin]

I trust my DH, my mom and dad, and a few family friends and thats it. My DH thinks its silly that I don't trust his mom (we live with her), but she's got bad arthritis in her hands, she's deaf (can hear, but not well), and whenever she watches her while we are home she brings Kathryn back crying saying she doesn't know what's wrong, meanwhile she didn't even check to see if she had a diaper! (its always that and she still wont check, al you have to do is pinch it to see if it's squishy! How hard is that? we aren't even asking her to change it, just to check)Though I'm not worried about Kathryn not being good with people because She loves people and doesn't mind being passes around at family gatherings, holidays, etc.

 

[princess_bump]

i think its very very normal honey, i only feel comfortable leaving maddi with a select few (my mum, dad and gramps, james and my two bestest friends) although i don't mind maddi going for a cuddle to others, tbh shes so friendly she likes it x