i hate my pregnant body!

[Linda23]

So I really hate my pregnant body. Don't get me wrong I'm very happy I'm able to concieve/carry a child and she is healthy. I've always had this image of me being cute with a tight little bump all glowing and happy, well I saw today that's not what's going on here. I went clothes shopping today for tank tops being that its 80 degrees here and I don't own any tank tops that fit. What a disaster! Itws the first time in awhile I've seen myself in a full length mirror and I was disgusted. I wasn't tiny to start with (159 and 5'2" at first weigh in) I've only gained 15 lbs so far at 25 weeks,but suddenly I have back fat rolling over my bra, rolls, love handles galore, even thicker thighs/butt, a fat face and double chin not to mention my still wiggley belly and stretch marks since 12ish weeks. I'm so envious of other pregnant women I see who have a cute bump, thick hair, and a radiant pregnant glow. I look like I started a fast food diet. I don't even want my OH to see my changing clothes anymore. No wonder we stopped being intimate. I don't get compliments from him unless I fish for them or say I feel/look fat. His reply is just "your pregnant". I'm having such a hard time and I cry over it. I'm really dreading summer. I don't want to be seen in a tank top or shorts let alone a bathing suit. I know my little girl is worth it, but I can't wait to start working outand dieting. It makes me reconsider having more than one child I know I can't be the only one feeling like this.

 

[momof2tobe]

Haha, I'm sorry but it made me laugh inside. I am exactly the same! ...and this is my third one so my strech marks are terrible, and i was always jealous of all those women who get that cute bump and don't gain that much.
It was the worst in my first pregnancy, when i just realized that I'm just gonna gain 50+ pounds!
Now I'm just going with it because i can't do it any other way! I guess it's genetics.
But don't worry, even if you do gain a lot, the baby is so worth it and the time will just fly....and you will loose it afterwards!

 

[babydust818]

I understand what you're going through. When i visioned me being pregnant i too visioned me looking exactly the same as before except add a nice round bump to it. When i look into the mirror all i see is fat. You can't even tell i'm pregnant. You can easily mistake it for fat. When i go maternity clothes shopping the shirts don't even hug my 'bump' like most girls. It makes me just look like a big fat blob pretending to be pregnant. I cry every day because i get so aggravated when it comes time to get dressed. I have nothing that fits or makes me look pregnant other than a summer dress. When i take a shirtless bump pic it's absolutely disgusting. Nothing but a big apron belly that's hanging over my pants.

I really think our hormones don't help the matter. I find myself having less and less patience. DH tries to calm me and make me feel better, but it doesn't help. I won't be satisfied until my bump looks like a bump. I'm about 25w.... unreal how many women that have nice big bumps at that stage. I am so envious. Ugh... this has to get better. Right?

 

[Linda23]

I understand what you're going through. When i visioned me being pregnant i too visioned me looking exactly the same as before except add a nice round bump to it. When i look into the mirror all i see is fat. You can't even tell i'm pregnant. You can easily mistake it for fat. When i go maternity clothes shopping the shirts don't even hug my 'bump' like most girls. It makes me just look like a big fat blob pretending to be pregnant. I cry every day because i get so aggravated when it comes time to get dressed. I have nothing that fits or makes me look pregnant other than a summer dress. When i take a shirtless bump pic it's absolutely disgusting. Nothing but a big apron belly that's hanging over my pants.

I really think our hormones don't help the matter. I find myself having less and less patience. DH tries to calm me and make me feel better, but it doesn't help. I won't be satisfied until my bump looks like a bump. I'm about 25w.... unreal how many women that have nice big bumps at that stage. I am so envious. Ugh... this has to get better. Right?

Finally someone understands! I wouldnt dare take a shirtless belly pic for the same reason. Everyone keeps requesting bump pics but I refuse. I swear my hard round belly will never come.

 

[Pixiedust22]

I feel fat as well... I started calling myself snorlax which is a pokemon that looks like this:

https://www.dltk-kids.com/pokemon/adoptions/143.gif

 

[MamaLa]

I know the feeling, I plus size to begin with, but I am just wishing I would show more of a round bump. But I keep reminding myself that I am still early and I am showing a little bit, because my stomach doesn't poke out like this. . I just hope I'll end up with a cute bump that everyone will love to rub. Lol.

 

[BabyBlondex]

Me too, i dont want to moan as all i'm really worried about is my baby being healthy, but on a more vain note, i feel the same.. Ive always been really toned, i'm 5ft 4 and usually 8 stone and do a lot of walking with DD, i only had 3 stretch marks when pregnant with her and they was hardly visable, but with this baby, now carrying a boy ive put on 2 stone and i'm so much bigger bump wise than i was with DD, I also have the map of bloody britain on my stomach, and with it being only nearly 3 weeks til i meet my baby, i'm full of emotion, i cried all night to OH last night because i dont think ill ever get rid of these stretch marks or this weight, and i know i shouldnt care, and deep down i dont really, its just sad to feel this insecure of my body when i've always been confident.. hmmm I feel sad writing this!

 

[Petzy]

I understand very much..... It's a big struggle for me too. I lost a bunch of weight two years ago and had been really happy with my body and now to watch it climb back up is really hard. I've gained 15 so far I am hoping 30 will be the max. Trying to watch what I eat and be active and not overdo it. It is worth it ladies. It doesn't mean it's easy right? We will get through this big change too . I am excited to lose it after though! Hehe

 

[Linda23]

Thank you everyone! It's good to know other moms and mom to be. I'm really struggling with this since I too lost weight and toned up a couple years ago. I let myself go and when I finally started to work out hardcore (p90x) I got pregnant. Now I'm watching my OH workout, eat better/less calories, shed pounds and inches while I'm getting larger, fatter, and eating like a horse.

 

[jhughes0709]

first off (((((Hugs))))) Seeing your body change is so hard! I had the little cute bump with my first 2 babies. this time around...not so much. Everything is sagging and nothing is cute or tight. But we are growing something amazing. I know it's hard and shopping for me sucks too b/c I had a bit of a saggy belly before I got pregnant and I hoped it would round out....so far its not. I have this underbelly hang thing going on. I hate it. Your belly will round out soon I'm sure. But I totally understand your feelings and it's ok. My belly looks like a road map from my boys...but when you are holding your sweet baby your belly and body will be the furthest thing from your mind I know it sounds cliche' but all this craziness is so more than worth it! I keep muttering that to myself as I am trying to find a shirt to fit or pants that don't make my thighs look HUGE. lol