taperjeangirl
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This is going to all sound really stupid when i write it down, I Know, but I am so upset right at this minute!
i didn't know whether to put this in here or in the relationship bit but here goes anyway, maybe some of you are having the same feelings.......
So on Friday (Daisy was 1 week old) OH's mum announced that she was taking Daisy into town to meet her friends and show her off, she never asked, she told me she was and this pissed me off to start with, but to keep the peace I agreed that she could take her for an hour, but this hour turned into 3 and by the time she got back I was beside myself, crying and thinking the worst, she has a mobile but refuses to use it, so I had no way of contacting her and to make matters worse, OH's mother told me to stop being so dramatic and that Daisy was fine.
I then told OH that Daisy wouldn't be going anywhere again unless I was with her.....
Today he said he was taking her down to his mums, I know I should trust him but I just can't, I can't stand the thought of her being away too long and if anything happens while I am not there I would never forgive myself.
His sister wants to take her out for a walk on Monday and I am worrying about it already.....
I think being so young when I had my first daughter I didn't have an instant bond, and my mum kind of took over the last time so I really didn't feel any of this and I am finding it really overwhelming, I need advice on how to deal with all this without upsetting people.
The way I keep seeing it is that they never really bothered that much when I was pregnant and now they all want to be here 24/7
I am hoping that all my emotions will eventually calm down but just needing to vent I think.
Has anyone else been through this? Or maybe I am just being dramatic
i didn't know whether to put this in here or in the relationship bit but here goes anyway, maybe some of you are having the same feelings.......
So on Friday (Daisy was 1 week old) OH's mum announced that she was taking Daisy into town to meet her friends and show her off, she never asked, she told me she was and this pissed me off to start with, but to keep the peace I agreed that she could take her for an hour, but this hour turned into 3 and by the time she got back I was beside myself, crying and thinking the worst, she has a mobile but refuses to use it, so I had no way of contacting her and to make matters worse, OH's mother told me to stop being so dramatic and that Daisy was fine.
I then told OH that Daisy wouldn't be going anywhere again unless I was with her.....
Today he said he was taking her down to his mums, I know I should trust him but I just can't, I can't stand the thought of her being away too long and if anything happens while I am not there I would never forgive myself.
His sister wants to take her out for a walk on Monday and I am worrying about it already.....
I think being so young when I had my first daughter I didn't have an instant bond, and my mum kind of took over the last time so I really didn't feel any of this and I am finding it really overwhelming, I need advice on how to deal with all this without upsetting people.
The way I keep seeing it is that they never really bothered that much when I was pregnant and now they all want to be here 24/7
I am hoping that all my emotions will eventually calm down but just needing to vent I think.
Has anyone else been through this? Or maybe I am just being dramatic