beansheart
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I REALLY hope this doesn't upset anyone but have nowhere else to go with this and thought I would get it off my chest and maybe this'd be the place to talk. I spoke to a friend right during my m/c who had just found out she was was about lose her baby. She was told that whilst Dr's like you to have a period before TTC that was purely selfish and if wanted to, crack on with it! Much the same as what I was told during my m/c scan.
SO, whilst we're not actively trying, we've taken no precautions. Now, I am reading stuff that says you should defo wait til your next period before not taking any measures to stop getting pregnant again the main consensus is that you have to have 20 days of no bleeding which I am over and above now. I have had really dull cramping like pain which I got when I first found out I was positive....and my boobs have been a bit sore but nothing like they were....but this has only started in the last week or so....I'm tempted to do a test just to know but then have also read that it could be positive even when not due to HCG levels. But the tests they made me take even before the bleeding stopped were virtually negative and I was told in a week the line would disappear altogether... so to my mind, if I did take one and it was positive can I believe it?!
I dunno whether to call the EPU or something and see but at the same time I don't wanna know if I am pregnant again cause it would be so early and if the same was to happen again I would rather be ignorant if that is at all possible.
Have I really been stupid to not take precautions? We did talk about it but it just never happened and we decided fate would be what fate decided (it's a strong belief in our relationship). I said to OH yesterday that if I had not gotten my period in the next week or so I was going to do a test but am so scared that if it comes positive I will be falsely informed so to speak, though this goes against what I was told (as above).
Sorry ladies, I know some people will be angry at me and maybe think me irresponsible but it was never that. I just cannot get my head round the fact that I lost at exactly 8 weeks and that a month on I could still be "getting back to normal" if that makes sense?! I guess I naively thought that as soon as the bleeding stopped and a week or so after that I would be virtually back to normal....this was certainly the impression that I got from the information I was told at the time
SO, whilst we're not actively trying, we've taken no precautions. Now, I am reading stuff that says you should defo wait til your next period before not taking any measures to stop getting pregnant again the main consensus is that you have to have 20 days of no bleeding which I am over and above now. I have had really dull cramping like pain which I got when I first found out I was positive....and my boobs have been a bit sore but nothing like they were....but this has only started in the last week or so....I'm tempted to do a test just to know but then have also read that it could be positive even when not due to HCG levels. But the tests they made me take even before the bleeding stopped were virtually negative and I was told in a week the line would disappear altogether... so to my mind, if I did take one and it was positive can I believe it?!
I dunno whether to call the EPU or something and see but at the same time I don't wanna know if I am pregnant again cause it would be so early and if the same was to happen again I would rather be ignorant if that is at all possible.
Have I really been stupid to not take precautions? We did talk about it but it just never happened and we decided fate would be what fate decided (it's a strong belief in our relationship). I said to OH yesterday that if I had not gotten my period in the next week or so I was going to do a test but am so scared that if it comes positive I will be falsely informed so to speak, though this goes against what I was told (as above).
Sorry ladies, I know some people will be angry at me and maybe think me irresponsible but it was never that. I just cannot get my head round the fact that I lost at exactly 8 weeks and that a month on I could still be "getting back to normal" if that makes sense?! I guess I naively thought that as soon as the bleeding stopped and a week or so after that I would be virtually back to normal....this was certainly the impression that I got from the information I was told at the time