sarah u need to let him go. either that or start living your life. If he is still hanging around let him know your enjoying life.. be the sarah he fell in love with.
Ive sooo been there. First time my boyf left it was over dishes! we had a big big long chat i tried to justify things... men dont do that there head rules them.. he thinks you he cant trust you etc etc... he is forgetting he use to love you...
GIVE HIM THE GIFT OF MISSING YOU...
WHen my boyf said he was leaving i said ok come get your stuff let me know when your coming cos i dont wanna be ther (i didnt want to beg him to stay or for him to see me cry) i left the house. After a few weeks of me being heartbroken and doing my best not to text, call email he contacted me over some random thing... after a month he was trying to be my mate and stuff , i let my guard down a few times saying i missed him and loved him and then he went cold again. when i had no time (i did) when i didnt answer his calls or texts he wanted me more and more... Eventually we got back but things just werent as good.
6 months later he started acting cold again etc etc etc i remember going to my sisters wedding and thinking omg i knew he was going to leave (id never had this before) then the more he pulled away the more i went to him , smothered him etc etc... I couldnt loose him not now. i remembered the last time.. it was awful.... well he started making excuses not to come to my house, i was running after him letting him do things i hadnt before (getting a new contract big bill, letting him do as he pleased) he seen his behaviour was getting him more stuff so he started to see that i was worth less ..
eventually with his bad behaviour i ended up finishing it with him, to be honest he wanted it anyways , i was doing him a favour... sooo i let him be.. i cried and cried and left myself a mess (iam such a strong person and for ones who knew me couldnt believe i was letting a man get to me this way). AFter 6 weeks of crying and getting odd tit bits of emails etc i send him a email i stole off a site which helps you get lovers back (catch him and keep him) i said look i am moving on with my life , i hope your well , but id appreicate it if you did nt contact me for a while and il contact you when iam ready!) this is apperently reversing roles. so i started trying to date again and forget him...it was sooo bad i remember washing my hair over the tub and crying and crying whilst getting ready for a date. every man i met i just compared them to him... and as if by magic my OH started wanting to fix my computer or making reasons to see me. I was stronger this time. ok when he came down we didnt take long making up.. but i still done my own things, went out didnt tell him i loved him etc etc.. Now he is a different man!!! as long as you love yourself and dont let him control you , stand up for yourself, he will respect you... Never be a doormat or wait for the crumbs... remember you want him cos he doesnt want you, reverse that role.