i'll never understand this (drug content)

[Siyren]

hello? i agreed that smoking ANYTHING around children is not acceptable? my point was that you implied that EVERYONE who smokes weed is a terrible parent!

hello yourself. Excuse me, I didn't realise you were going to be pedantic. Let me clarify FOR YOU "I don't thinking smoking weed around children is acceptable"
Although saying that I wouldn't be nominating anyone who smokes weed for parent of the year either. I'm sorry if that offends the weed smokers who think they are great parents ,I just don't think choosing to have anything in your body that messes with your head is great parenting.
My opinion is just based on my experience as I said before - people I have known who smoked weed were not in a great state of mind, their focus tended to be on where the next joint was. And as with any addiction it can take over your life.

its hardly pedantic, you made a huge sweeping statement which isnt correct, and i chose to comment on that, i wouldnt call that pedantic.
its not that I need clarification its that 'i think people who smoke weed are terrible parents' and 'i think people who smoke weed AROUND their kids are terrible parents' are two VERY different statements!
you dont offend me one bit, i dont 'think' that i am a great mummy, i KNOW that i am! Ruby wants for nothing at all, materially or otherwise, and is sway ahead of all her milestones. we spend loads of time together at activities, on adventures, and just hanging out, and have a very strong relationship, if i choose to smoke a joint in my garden at night when Ruby is asleep i really cant see how that makes me any less of a 'good parent' than you. Its not as if im taking mind altering halloucinigenics, and rolling around my house oblivious to whats happening is it! to be honest i get the impression from your posts that you havent really been around much in the way of drugs, so maybe have a slightly different perspective that others might, but really, it is HIGHLY unusual for a recreational dope smoker to be like you say, only concentrating on where the next joint is coming from and having it 'take over their life'

without wading in too much here- as its just my opinion, while weed smoking doesnt make anyone the most awful parent anyhwere ever, surely smoking weed- even recreationally sets a bad example as it IS illegal. also what would you do if there was a problem in the night and you were still high (im speaking hypothetically as im not even sure you smoke dope, and this is in no way meant to offend, just offering a different point of view) potentially if your child had to be rushed to a and e for some reason- and its happened to us before in the middle of the night- Social services could be informed x

 

[xxembobxx]

i get the impression from your posts that you havent really been around much in the way of drugs, so maybe have a slightly different perspective that others might, but really, it is HIGHLY unusual for a recreational dope smoker to be like you say, only concentrating on where the next joint is coming from and having it 'take over their life'

I'll be the first to admit I am very anti-drugs, I just don't get why
My experience is of a family member who smokes weed A LOT. So much so that it's the first thing she reaches for in the morning. It wasn't always like that, it just spiralled. And the mood swings are terrible. I feel the weed definitely affected her mental state.
And there was a work colleague who smoked weed at home. Only then he was doing it at work. He got a warning but still turned up with that stoned look.
I don't wish to appear judgmental on you as lord knows I have my faults, it's just that drugs isn't one of them! EVERY person I know who has smoked weed has gone onto something stronger, sometimes just as a one-off but still it's that downward slope.

 

[NIfirsttimer]

hello? i agreed that smoking ANYTHING around children is not acceptable? my point was that you implied that EVERYONE who smokes weed is a terrible parent!

hello yourself. Excuse me, I didn't realise you were going to be pedantic. Let me clarify FOR YOU "I don't thinking smoking weed around children is acceptable"
Although saying that I wouldn't be nominating anyone who smokes weed for parent of the year either. I'm sorry if that offends the weed smokers who think they are great parents ,I just don't think choosing to have anything in your body that messes with your head is great parenting.
My opinion is just based on my experience as I said before - people I have known who smoked weed were not in a great state of mind, their focus tended to be on where the next joint was. And as with any addiction it can take over your life.

its hardly pedantic, you made a huge sweeping statement which isnt correct, and i chose to comment on that, i wouldnt call that pedantic.
its not that I need clarification its that 'i think people who smoke weed are terrible parents' and 'i think people who smoke weed AROUND their kids are terrible parents' are two VERY different statements!
you dont offend me one bit, i dont 'think' that i am a great mummy, i KNOW that i am! Ruby wants for nothing at all, materially or otherwise, and is sway ahead of all her milestones. we spend loads of time together at activities, on adventures, and just hanging out, and have a very strong relationship, if i choose to smoke a joint in my garden at night when Ruby is asleep i really cant see how that makes me any less of a 'good parent' than you. Its not as if im taking mind altering halloucinigenics, and rolling around my house oblivious to whats happening is it! to be honest i get the impression from your posts that you havent really been around much in the way of drugs, so maybe have a slightly different perspective that others might, but really, it is HIGHLY unusual for a recreational dope smoker to be like you say, only concentrating on where the next joint is coming from and having it 'take over their life'

without wading in too much here- as its just my opinion, while weed smoking doesnt make anyone the most awful parent anyhwere ever, surely smoking weed- even recreationally sets a bad example as it IS illegal. also what would you do if there was a problem in the night and you were still high (im speaking hypothetically as im not even sure you smoke dope, and this is in no way meant to offend, just offering a different point of view) potentially if your child had to be rushed to a and e for some reason- and its happened to us before in the middle of the night- Social services could be informed x

'high'? i smoke a joint or two, im NEVER high lol.. to be honest id be in a WAY worse position if that happened and id had two or three glasses of wine before bed, but im assuming thats ok? im sure many many parents have a few drinks some evenings and social services arent mentioned?
like many many dope smokers, im an upstanding member of society, we both work, are married, university educated, own our own home, and chose to smoke a few joint now and then, i dont see the big deal? its not like we are spending rubys food money on weed and shes sat in a filthy nappy while we get 'high' in the next room!
as for setting an example, its one of those things that i do that Ru doesnt see me do. like have sex, or pick my nose, i can chose to do it because i am an adult and make my own decisions. i dont do it in the same room as her because its not appropriate, and i wouldnt put her health at risk, so im not sure what example im setting by doing something that she doesnt see, and that doesnt have any impact on her...

 

[NIfirsttimer]

i get the impression from your posts that you havent really been around much in the way of drugs, so maybe have a slightly different perspective that others might, but really, it is HIGHLY unusual for a recreational dope smoker to be like you say, only concentrating on where the next joint is coming from and having it 'take over their life'

I'll be the first to admit I am very anti-drugs, I just don't get why
My experience is of a family member who smokes weed A LOT. So much so that it's the first thing she reaches for in the morning. It wasn't always like that, it just spiralled. And the mood swings are terrible. I feel the weed definitely affected her mental state.
And there was a work colleague who smoked weed at home. Only then he was doing it at work. He got a warning but still turned up with that stoned look.
I don't wish to appear judgmental on you as lord knows I have my faults, it's just that drugs isn't one of them! EVERY person I know who has smoked weed has gone onto something stronger, sometimes just as a one-off but still it's that downward slope.

well, maybe we just know different kinds of people.. most of my friends are also smokers and like us work and pay their bills and love their children, and have an occassional smoke. im 33 and i think if i was going to start on that whole 'something stronger' nonsense id have started a long time ago!

you cant really say something like what you said about ALL parents who smoke weed being terrible parents, and then follow it up with 'i dont want to appear judgemental!'

 

[Aidan's Mummy]

and its happened to us before in the middle of the night- Social services could be informed

This isn't true hun, I am a student nurse working with health visitors and their attitude to weed is as long as the baby is well cared for and not put at risk SS or health professionals are not concerned. They only time a concern is raised if their habit starts to effect their baby in a detrimental way. A lady we saw the other week smoked weed every now and then and the HV had no concerns what so ever as the baby was well cared for and it was never taken around her. A small amlunt of weed does not effect the persons brain in a huge way they may become sleepy but mums eg are sometimes tired they are still able to function properly and care for their baby. Like I said earlier I do no agree with weed being smoked around a child but if that child doesn't see it, aware of it or affected by it then it is up to the parent. And I don't feel it makes them any less of a parent either x

 

[Siyren]

i am sorry i seem to have offended you- i dont have any experience of drugs, and as far as i was aware smoking dope= you get high.
for what its worth i dont drink either- im completely T total as my friend almost died in a drink driving accident so i cant make any comparison there.
as for setting a bad example- im thinking more about what will you say if your daughter turns around and says she's doing week in years to come- would you support that or not as it is illegal?
and i wasn't claiming social services NEED to be involved, im saying would it be an automatic reporting- we spend a lot of times in hospitals as lyssa has a heart condition and smelling of dope is something ive heard raised as an issue before, whether this is regular practise or not, i honestly dont know.
again im not damning you as a bad mother just offering a diff perspective
i dont see how this thread can be offensive to you anyway as you've already said you dont smoke around your little girl?

 

[Siyren]

and its happened to us before in the middle of the night- Social services could be informed

This isn't true hun, I am a student nurse working with health visitors and their attitude to weed is as long as the baby is well cared for and not put at risk SS or health professionals are not concerned. They only time a concern is raised if their habit starts to effect their baby in a detrimental way. A lady we saw the other week smoked weed every now and then and the HV had no concerns what so ever as the baby was well cared for and it was never taken around her. A small amlunt of weed does not effect the persons brain in a huge way they may become sleepy but mums eg are sometimes tired they are still able to function properly and care for their baby. Like I said earlier I do no agree with weed being smoked around a child but if that child doesn't see it, aware of it or affected by it then it is up to the parent. And I don't feel it makes them any less of a parent either x

thanks for clarifying that hun! as i said when i just posted i didnt know if it was regular practise or not, just something i overheard through the curtains on the childrens ward x

 

[9babiesgone]

I have taken weed, many times in the past year, bc I suffer from osteoporosis, and lupus, and a few other things. I have a legal license for it, and I am a great mom. I can articulate very clearly. and I am never "stoned" Not everyone who smokes gets 'high' or is intoxicated. Just like some prescriptions affect people differently so does weed. and someone making blanket statements that all moms who smoke weed around their children are bad. is ridiculous. Just like saying all moms who take xanax around their kids is a bad mom, bc that can affect mood and alter perception too. should we judge all moms for using that?

 

[xxembobxx]

Ok I'm judgmental then. Tbh I was trying to defuse whatever is getting you so worked up.
You're very lucky that weed doesn't affect you as it doesn't make you high....can I ask what the point in it is then?
As a PP said it's illegal. Wine drinking isn't. I wouldn't condone drinking 3 glasses of wine every night either tbh but then I'm not much of an alcohol person.

 

[xxembobxx]

I have taken weed, many times in the past year, bc I suffer from osteoporosis, and lupus, and a few other things. I have a legal license for it, and I am a great mom. I can articulate very clearly. and I am never "stoned" Not everyone who smokes gets 'high' or is intoxicated. Just like some prescriptions affect people differently so does weed. and someone making blanket statements that all moms who smoke weed around their children are bad. is ridiculous. Just like saying all moms who take xanax around their kids is a bad mom, bc that can affect mood and alter perception too. should we judge all moms for using that?

I did actually state about CHOICE. If you are prescribed something then I don't feel it's much of a choice really. A medical professional has advised it as the best thing, not because you're just after a high.
I believe any smoking around children is bad, whether it involves weed or not.

 

[9babiesgone]

Weed has a lot of properties that dont include getting high, like pain relief, nausea for those with cancer treatment , also can shrink tumors. their are more uses for marijuana than you can even imagine. and most are backed up with medical science.

 

[Siyren]

I have taken weed, many times in the past year, bc I suffer from osteoporosis, and lupus, and a few other things. I have a legal license for it, and I am a great mom. I can articulate very clearly. and I am never "stoned" Not everyone who smokes gets 'high' or is intoxicated. Just like some prescriptions affect people differently so does weed. and someone making blanket statements that all moms who smoke weed around their children are bad. is ridiculous. Just like saying all moms who take xanax around their kids is a bad mom, bc that can affect mood and alter perception too. should we judge all moms for using that?

thanks for another view! my mum has rheumatoid arthritis and takes some kind of opiate (it may be methaltrexate but idk if its that or if im even spelling that right)
that leaves her lying on the sofa murmuring "i love you shiny" for hours at a time.... which would be much more dangerous that weed! again sorry to those ive offended i honestly didnt know that taking weed didnt necesaarily mean you were high

 

[9babiesgone]

Well I smoke in a closed room away from my kids, so does that mean i am a bad parent?? I can barely move, they wouldnt give me good painkillers bc risk of addiction so weed was a good alternative, so as soon as I got my prescription I can walk and go places and take my kids to parks. I think I am a better parent bc I smoke weed, and bc it can help me do things I can not normally do .

 

[xxembobxx]

Weed has a lot of properties that dont include getting high, like pain relief, nausea for those with cancer treatment , also can shrink tumors. their are more uses for marijuana than you can even imagine. and most are backed up with medical science.

And yet it's illegal.

 

[NIfirsttimer]

i am sorry i seem to have offended you- i dont have any experience of drugs, and as far as i was aware smoking dope= you get high.
for what its worth i dont drink either- im completely T total as my friend almost died in a drink driving accident so i cant make any comparison there.
as for setting a bad example- im thinking more about what will you say if your daughter turns around and says she's doing week in years to come- would you support that or not as it is illegal?
and i wasn't claiming social services NEED to be involved, im saying would it be an automatic reporting- we spend a lot of times in hospitals as lyssa has a heart condition and smelling of dope is something ive heard raised as an issue before, whether this is regular practise or not, i honestly dont know.
again im not damning you as a bad mother just offering a diff perspective
i dont see how this thread can be offensive to you anyway as you've already said you dont smoke around your little girl?

you havent offended me at all!
if Ruby came to me at 18+ and told me that she was smoking weed i would have all the usual conversations with her, same as i would about alcohol, or smoking cigarettes, i would urge her to make sensible informed decisions, and i would be glad that she came to me rather than just smoke and not let on like the vast majority of teenagers do!
i dont find the thread offensive as i totally agree that sitting in a room full of ANY kind of smoke, with kids there is wrong, unacceptable and selfish.. the only bit of the whole thread that bothered me in any way was xxembobxx's comment about how we are all crap parents if we smoke weed!

 

[9babiesgone]

actually where I Live in the usa, it is not illegal to have a prescription for it!!

 

[9babiesgone]

and siyren I am glad you are able to see the other side of it for some people!! : )

 

[Siyren]

Weed has a lot of properties that dont include getting high, like pain relief, nausea for those with cancer treatment , also can shrink tumors. their are more uses for marijuana than you can even imagine. and most are backed up with medical science.

And yet it's illegal.

it's only illegal for recreational use sweetie not medicinal


9babiesgone- to me the definition of a bad parent combined with weed is my friends ex- she came home to find him completely high and their two year old rolling him another joint- so no your not a bad parent, and again i never meant to offend anyone- consider me having learned more about drugs!

 

[Siyren]

ooh yay! im glad i didnt offend0 im always conscious that things can come accross badly online as you cant hear my tone or see my face!

 

[xxembobxx]

the only bit of the whole thread that bothered me in any way was xxembobxx's comment about how we are all crap parents if we smoke weed!

Which I clarified as smoking AROUND children.

I'm really trying to keep it impersonal which you should perhaps do also, but then i'm not the one who feels they have to justify their lifestyle choices.