GFGuy
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I am super new to this, and double super new to looking at any websites called "BabyandBump" lol. So if my questions are ridiculous, I apologize in advance. So here's the deal...
My wife and I just started trying Sunday morning. We both feel like it's going to happen fast. We don't really have a reason except we both feel like it will. Wife has said she felt odd the very next day. We tried again 2 days later and today being the 4th day since the 1st try, she feels like she has a cold all of a sudden. Kind of like flu like symptoms, but not extreme, just feeling like crap and soar throat.
Normally we wouldn't think anything of that, but we, for the most part, are very healthy and neither of us have been sick for years. Plus, we want to get pregnant so this would all be great if that's what's going on. But here is why I am worried.
Neither of us smoke, we both exercise, we both eat organic/real/whole foods for the most part but do enjoy some "cheat" foods here and there (especially on vacation last month! still trying to recover!) All that sounds like we are on top of our game health wise, but we have both enjoyed our alcohol as a single married couple for quite some time. The wife stopped the day we started trying, and I did too. But we hfad pizza, wings and many beers just the night before. Once we find out if she is pregnant, she will be done for the long haul of course and I will do whatever (probably slow down a bit so she isn't jealous!) But I am freaking out now because I have read how MY drinking alone, for the past 3 months as the dad to be (if we conceived) could have made the sperm abnormal and in turn make the future baby have birth defects...
Is this true? We aren't raging alcoholics, but we drink more than most people probably think is the OK amount. Certainly more than any article or doctor will say is the appropriate amount. Probably a bottle or two of wine each night for me, closer to the two mark or quite a few beers. Enough to be feeling no pain. But we hang with each other at home while doing this, we are hard working professionals during the day and enjoy letting loose at night. And we will be different once we have kids, but my concern is that if she is pregnant, my past drinking has doomed our future kids. I hate to be hoping she isn't pregnant because of this instead of getting excited... She doesn't mind AT ALL giving up drinking from this point forward so this isn't at all a post about how to get around this during pregnancy.
Does anyone know if I should be worried or if we will be fine as long as she is healthy during pregnancy?
There isn't many guy doctor people out there for my concerns. I seem to be more concerned than the wife is but it's the damn internet that has me thinking that we are doomed...
PS: Is sex every other day a good idea during the ttc? less or more?
Thank you all for reading my rant and any advice would be greatly appreciated!
My wife and I just started trying Sunday morning. We both feel like it's going to happen fast. We don't really have a reason except we both feel like it will. Wife has said she felt odd the very next day. We tried again 2 days later and today being the 4th day since the 1st try, she feels like she has a cold all of a sudden. Kind of like flu like symptoms, but not extreme, just feeling like crap and soar throat.
Normally we wouldn't think anything of that, but we, for the most part, are very healthy and neither of us have been sick for years. Plus, we want to get pregnant so this would all be great if that's what's going on. But here is why I am worried.
Neither of us smoke, we both exercise, we both eat organic/real/whole foods for the most part but do enjoy some "cheat" foods here and there (especially on vacation last month! still trying to recover!) All that sounds like we are on top of our game health wise, but we have both enjoyed our alcohol as a single married couple for quite some time. The wife stopped the day we started trying, and I did too. But we hfad pizza, wings and many beers just the night before. Once we find out if she is pregnant, she will be done for the long haul of course and I will do whatever (probably slow down a bit so she isn't jealous!) But I am freaking out now because I have read how MY drinking alone, for the past 3 months as the dad to be (if we conceived) could have made the sperm abnormal and in turn make the future baby have birth defects...
Is this true? We aren't raging alcoholics, but we drink more than most people probably think is the OK amount. Certainly more than any article or doctor will say is the appropriate amount. Probably a bottle or two of wine each night for me, closer to the two mark or quite a few beers. Enough to be feeling no pain. But we hang with each other at home while doing this, we are hard working professionals during the day and enjoy letting loose at night. And we will be different once we have kids, but my concern is that if she is pregnant, my past drinking has doomed our future kids. I hate to be hoping she isn't pregnant because of this instead of getting excited... She doesn't mind AT ALL giving up drinking from this point forward so this isn't at all a post about how to get around this during pregnancy.
Does anyone know if I should be worried or if we will be fine as long as she is healthy during pregnancy?
There isn't many guy doctor people out there for my concerns. I seem to be more concerned than the wife is but it's the damn internet that has me thinking that we are doomed...
PS: Is sex every other day a good idea during the ttc? less or more?
Thank you all for reading my rant and any advice would be greatly appreciated!