In The bedroom ...

[Hopingforabub]

Well this is a bit but anyway.
We recently went from full time TTC to this month NTNP and I have to say I'm happier with NTNP.
When we were TTC I was stressed and obsessed with symptom spotting and temping ect. But this month I am a lot happier and we have BD's more in the last week than we would have in a whole month of TTC.
We have however chaged our bedroom habbits...
When we were TTC we were carefull around dates (always trying to get it around ovulation) we avoided oral sex (because of the whole saliva kill sperm) and it was really just boring sex!
Now however we have been watching porn together (this I am suprised I started doing and it was my idea because I'd rather OH watch it with me then behind my back.. I ventured online and bought a few sex toys that are for us both, OH bought me some very sexy lingerie. I also bough some ribbed and dotted condoms (which I know defeat the object of getting pregnant but It was fun because it reminded us of sex before we were thinking about starting a family and we don't use them all the time.

My question mainly is do you ladies do anything special to spice up the bedroom?

 

[EllieGoulet]

Unfortunately no....TTC has completely killed my s3x drive but those are some good ideas. I hope you fall soon, condoms or no condoms!

 

[cochy115]

Kudos to you! That is what life is all about And how awesome would it be to make a baby in this state of mind instead of boring, scheduled sex? Love it.

 

[littleprinces]

totally agree with this! my sex drive has gone down since TTC, sometimes it feels like a military operation and gets a bit predictable! We brought some pre seed hoping to get a BFP...but it made sex so much more fun! usually around O time its is so painful i dont enjoy it but with preseed it didnt hurt! this made it more fun and we are looking into spicing everything up next cycle unless we are blessed enough to get a BFP this cycle!

Good idea for a thread

 

[ameeann]

ohh I deffo need to get some preseed! I have that same problem!! lol
as for the sex drive . . . mine's actually fine!! (which is weird because when I was on the BCP I had no at all!!)
but the problem is . . . he doesn't seem to have much of a sex drive atm, i think its because of the schedule and maybe pressure?

I feel like a sex pest!!!

 

[LovingLimes]

I can not concentrate on the actual sex anymore. Esp. after seeing that "Great Sperm Race" movie, lol. The whole time I am thinking, "Ok, we can do it this time" and where my egg is and what his sperm looks like, etc. But, I try to make him give me a good massage (feet, shoulders) before. That usually relaxes me and gets him going.

After 5 days in a row he kind of lost his steam, which I never would think happen. We have been together for 6+years and I always told him "Just wait until I try to get pregnant we are going to have so much sex you will get sick of it", lol

 

[ameeann]

haha Yeah I know exactly what you mean!!!

 

[littleprinces]

After 5 days in a row he kind of lost his steam, which I never would think happen. We have been together for 6+years and I always told him "Just wait until I try to get pregnant we are going to have so much sex you will get sick of it", lol[/QUOTE]

I said the same thing to my other half and he laughed and i was right.... he does get sick of it i wanted to do SMEP this month but im worried he will get bored :/

 

[AC1987]

Maybe since I haven't been TTCing that long but I actually find I have more of a sex drive More then my DH thats for sure hahah..
Oh man ever since I watched the great sperm race I always think about tiny people shooting up me and the dude knitting always comes to mind.

 

[LuluSS]

Actually, since TTC, mine and DH's BD is the same as it always is...except no oral and I lay down with my bottom slightly tilted up for about 15 minutes afterwards. So I am pretty fortunate. We BD the same frequency too (4-5) days a week. I have only been TTC for 4 cycles though, just started my 5th. But we are so open with each other and so much alike that I don't think we will run into the problem of boring BD.

And yes, I wear sexy lingerie for him sometimes....he loves it!

And, since the beginning of the relationship, I am mostly the one who initiates. I have always had a higher drive then DH.

 

[LuluSS]

Also, DH likes "trying to make a baby". Probably because it is exactly like, just having sex lol. He gets excited when I get a positive OPK and wants to BD right away hahaha.

 

[itakp]

Definitely losing the spark in our bedroom... Month 11 of obsessing about ovulation and timing BD right. Not even sexy underwear does it anymore. This month he flatly refused BD as I have a terrible cold and there´s snot, coughing and the lot, you can imagine. But onwards and upwards, there´s always next month and maybe (just maybe) we´ll just relax a bit and not time things. Maybe I can get him to bed again?

 

[ameeann]

After 5 days in a row he kind of lost his steam, which I never would think happen. We have been together for 6+years and I always told him "Just wait until I try to get pregnant we are going to have so much sex you will get sick of it", lol

I said the same thing to my other half and he laughed and i was right.... he does get sick of it i wanted to do SMEP this month but im worried he will get bored :/[/QUOTE]

I'm doing SMEP this month . . . I've just not told him in advance, he hasn't realised it's every other day yet . . . I told him we have to BD everyday over OV though! haha ouchies for me!

 

[EAandBA_TTC]

DH knows I use OPK's, but I don't share with him when they're positive so he doesn't feel as used... I do try to dress up in lingerie atleast a few times a month & light a few candles...We do use toys regularly, and always have... But even with that it's still getting a little scheduled / military style as the months go on... We both have admitted it... And we both definitely have a reduced sex drive in the few days after ovulation week... Hoping to get our BFP soon to relieve the pressure!

 

[Hopingforabub]

Well its definitely getting better for us since the relaxed approached i even jokingly said to OH last night I wonder how long it would take us if we wanted to on every surface of the house, well his face defiantly lit up and i have had a few surprises today!

 

[MissAnnabelle]

Unfortunately no....TTC has completely killed my s3x drive but those are some good ideas. I hope you fall soon, condoms or no condoms!

Thank god - it's not just me! You made my day (in a weird way..lol)

 

[KozmikKitten]

I agree that ttc has kind of ruined the BD'ing for us also. We had a m/c and since then, its been more of a chore to get another BFP. However, I think I am also going to start NTNP next month, if I do not get a BFP next week. I think the OPK's made me really crazy and obsessed. And I get really emotional if we cannot BD at the "right time." And that doesnt do anything for the mood!

 

[ameeann]

I agree that ttc has kind of ruined the BD'ing for us also. We had a m/c and since then, its been more of a chore to get another BFP. However, I think I am also going to start NTNP next month, if I do not get a BFP next week. I think the OPK's made me really crazy and obsessed. And I get really emotional if we cannot BD at the "right time." And that doesnt do anything for the mood!

ohh I hear you on the emotional thing with the OPK's! If I think we can't BD at the right time I go mental! lol
He said he was tired and sore from work yesterday . . . I said tough!!

feel like a right sex pest!!! bless him . . . poor man! haha

 

[karry1412]

but the problem is . . . he doesn't seem to have much of a sex drive atm, i think its because of the schedule and maybe pressure?

I feel like a sex pest!!!

Here here. Never had this problem until TTC

 

[ameeann]

me either . . . gah! god damn men! haha