PS--it all depends on whether they will hold off starting the donor on her stims. My nurse was willing to do it for a week for me; however, when I found I needed surgery, they decided to keep moving forward with stimming the donor. That's how we've ended up where we are now. Since it will only be a day or two now, I can't imaging why they wouldn't wait to start the donor until you are ready. If they seem like they are giving up on you this cycle, give 'em bloody hell!
AFM--just heard from the clinic's lab about fertilization. They collected 7 eggs and 6 successfully fertilized. YAY!
(Because they recently changed from offering 5-7 eggs to now offering a flat 6 eggs, I think they grandfathered us and gave us all 7. At least that's what I am assuming.) We are beyond thrilled! Starting with what could be a small number, I was nervous about how many would get past the first hurdle. I know we still have the torturous wait until day 3 (Tuesday) and then day 5 (Thursday), but we can at least breathe easy about fertilization. I actually haven't been as anxious and nervous as I thought I would be, so that's good.
DH just kept saying "Wow" when I told him over the phone. He was in shock, in a good way. Of course, he hasn't done as much research and doesn't have a support resource like BnB, so he said he was hoping for 1 to make it. Silly boy, if we only had 1 fertilize, that would be a very bad sign. I've talked with him about fertilization & growth rates, but some of it goes in one ear & out the other. Poor guy is hanging out in NYC with a pounding migraine. We just got off the phone because he said he was going to look for someplace to throw up. He only gets 1 or 2 migraines a year, so he's refused to go to the Dr about it to try meds. Maybe now he will if it ruins a vacation day in a city he loves.
One other thing...DH saw the donor. I don't know if she showed up late or what, but he said she was in line behind him checking in and when she checked in, they took her right back. I would hope the clinic would actively try to avoid that from happening. I will ask our nurse about it. He thought she didn't seem to recognize who he might be, but that the woman with her who waited in the waiting room after she went in was eyeing him up. I was very curious about her, but he didn't want to share much aside from she was "normal looking." He felt super uncomfortable on the ethics front and wished he hadn't seen her.
Sorry for the long post! Writing about all this is apparently therapeutic for me. . .
I hope everyone's having a great weekend! And to those in the US, happy Labor Day. Hope you don't have to labor on it.
Well I emailed her today and now going for bloodwork tomorrow instead of saturday. Does anyone know if cycle gets cancelled for me if my period does not show up??? I am trying not to stress but this is more difficult to control than my diet
My donor conceived group therapy/support group leader calls it reproductive trauma. It is real and you just have to honor that some days will be really hard. I hope your DH can get some help. Does he have a counselor or any anti-depressant meds? No shame in getting help for depression. Just remember...this time is different, though, and you have lots of reasons to be hopeful! 
I finally got started with period yesterday but there wasn't much bleeding. Suppose to go day 2 of periods for bloodworm ultrasound so headed out now but feel period hasn't really kicked off as it's very light and barely there. So let's see. Hope I'm still on track to start estrace today. Donor starts stimms tomorrow. I hope it all syncs out. Getting stressed. Went for acupuncture yesterday and slept bit better 
