Dopeyjopey
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Here are my thoughts:
We can all discuss things openly, maybe a little too much sometimes and tact can fall by the wayside.
I don't feel like there is a 'them and us' culture. On the threads were it appears that way I find it has gone like this... one person makes a statement that is maybe a little offhand or slightly tactless. One person will challenge the statement and others will then back them up. Other people then defend the first person and the camp is split in two. It is not always the same people on the same 'team', however there may be a few people that feel there are. Queue the 'high horse' type comments and then eventually everyone calms down and starts talking about kittens
I don't think BFers do try and change other peoples' minds. Most of the time it is simply someone giving advice based on their own personal experience. Sometimes it can sound 'preachy' but I think that is more because of the NHS ramming it down everyone's throats instead of it being viewed as the norm.
FFers I think often jump on the defensive because they feel judged, whether they are or not. It can be upsetting for someone who couldn't BF but people should be encouraged to feel good about FFing as it is keeping their child alive, FF kids are no different to BF ones in the majority of cases and it was the best thing in their circumstances.
I do feel a lot of questions are asked in the wrong section and there are just too many differing opinions for it to go smoothly. I know you may get less responses in one of the specific sections but generally the few answers you do get are much more productive
We can all discuss things openly, maybe a little too much sometimes and tact can fall by the wayside.
I don't feel like there is a 'them and us' culture. On the threads were it appears that way I find it has gone like this... one person makes a statement that is maybe a little offhand or slightly tactless. One person will challenge the statement and others will then back them up. Other people then defend the first person and the camp is split in two. It is not always the same people on the same 'team', however there may be a few people that feel there are. Queue the 'high horse' type comments and then eventually everyone calms down and starts talking about kittens
I don't think BFers do try and change other peoples' minds. Most of the time it is simply someone giving advice based on their own personal experience. Sometimes it can sound 'preachy' but I think that is more because of the NHS ramming it down everyone's throats instead of it being viewed as the norm.
FFers I think often jump on the defensive because they feel judged, whether they are or not. It can be upsetting for someone who couldn't BF but people should be encouraged to feel good about FFing as it is keeping their child alive, FF kids are no different to BF ones in the majority of cases and it was the best thing in their circumstances.
I do feel a lot of questions are asked in the wrong section and there are just too many differing opinions for it to go smoothly. I know you may get less responses in one of the specific sections but generally the few answers you do get are much more productive