My husband hasn't been the most supportive guy, either. He wasn't overly supportive through my first pregnancy. When we went to the doctor, he quizzed the doctor on all of my symptoms, especially the fatigue, like he didn't believe that it was normal. He was better after that about the symptoms, and seemed more forgiving of the fact that I just needed more naps than usual.
This time around, though... he absolutely didn't even react when I told him I was pregnant again. He didn't so much as crack a smile or shrug!
He's not mad about it or anything, but its like he just doesn't care! So frustrating! I'm starting to get the fatigue again, and by 8pm I'm downright dragging, but its not like he hopped out of bed this morning to take care of DS's breakfast! Nope... left that for me, and DH slept in until 10!
Grrrr, and last night, he tried to get himself some boobie grabbing in and I about balled up and died it hurt so bad. He says, "Oh c'mon! It can't hurt THAT bad!" I just glared at him and told him he's going to have to find his very gentle setting, or get absolutely no boobie grabbing for the next few months.
I think, really, that men just don't
get it, at least some of them. They don't know what its like to bleed for several days once a month, so they certainly don't know what its like to NOT bleed, bloat up by 2 pant sizes, have boobs that ache so bad it hurts to look at them, feel the need to cry every time you turn around, experience cramping and then start to worry, have vivid nightmares that are so realistic that you wake up hyperventilating... Why would they understand?! All they had to do was the fun part. And if you wanted the baby more than he did, he's going to expect you to grin and bear it, because, after all, you WANTED this.
So you stand in the luke-warm shower crying because you married a man and wishing that by some stroke of luck you'll wake up and you're picture-perfect, incredibly sensitive and empathetic husband will be bringing you breakfast in bed, because he got up 2 hours early to clean the house and take care of your 2 year old, just because he wanted you to get in a bit of extra rest, because he knows what a toll this tiny little poppyseed of a baby is taking on your body and he just wants to help out!
By the second trimester last time, my DH was better about the being supportive part, and I felt less like I had made a massive mistake in letting him knock me up. I'm hoping for the same this time around, especially after he sees the LO on the ultrasound.