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Is is true? moms have no time?
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When I told my hubby about you, he didn't believe me
When did you decide to have 9 kids? You should write a book about your life story. It would be an interesting read.
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I really do think that having a baby is just something you can't prepare for until it happens. I remember it coming as such a shock that my life was turned totally upside down but this little thing so much so that I barely recognised it!
I think alot depends on what LO is like. Aisling never had a great latch so breastfeeding took between 45-60 minutes at a time unlike 20 minutes for everyone else I knew. Then she'd only sleep on my lap and I hadn't discovered a decent sling so I'd be sitting on the sofa for yet another hour. Couldn't sleep myself because she wanted me to jiggle my legs the whole time!
For me, the main thing even with an older baby is that if you add up all the moments in the day that LO doesn't need your attention then yes, you actually have quite alot of time. BUT all of that time is broken up into 5 minutes here, 10 minutes there so not enough time to get anything real done. It's just a bit of firefighting to get the house looking good but I can't tell you the number of times when I'd finally got her off to sleep in her cot, gone to the loo, changed into workout gear, put the workout dvd on, got 5 minutes into it and she's awake - repeat for every other task you want to get done in a day!
One thing that really annoyed me when I was pregnant though was 'sleep now, it's the last chance you'll get' - it came across to me as incredibly patronising. Even if it's true, why basically say to someone 'haha your life is about to get worse'?!
And for some, like me, sleeping was impossible anyway. I had SPD, was absolutely exhausted but couldn't find a position to sleep in which didn't cause me huge amounts of pain - my body most definitely wanted to sleep but I was in too much pain to do it. I wanted to punch people who said 'sleep now, it's the last chance you'll get' and I've vowed never to say it to a pregnant lady myself!
I think alot depends on what LO is like. Aisling never had a great latch so breastfeeding took between 45-60 minutes at a time unlike 20 minutes for everyone else I knew. Then she'd only sleep on my lap and I hadn't discovered a decent sling so I'd be sitting on the sofa for yet another hour. Couldn't sleep myself because she wanted me to jiggle my legs the whole time!
For me, the main thing even with an older baby is that if you add up all the moments in the day that LO doesn't need your attention then yes, you actually have quite alot of time. BUT all of that time is broken up into 5 minutes here, 10 minutes there so not enough time to get anything real done. It's just a bit of firefighting to get the house looking good but I can't tell you the number of times when I'd finally got her off to sleep in her cot, gone to the loo, changed into workout gear, put the workout dvd on, got 5 minutes into it and she's awake - repeat for every other task you want to get done in a day!
One thing that really annoyed me when I was pregnant though was 'sleep now, it's the last chance you'll get' - it came across to me as incredibly patronising. Even if it's true, why basically say to someone 'haha your life is about to get worse'?!
And for some, like me, sleeping was impossible anyway. I had SPD, was absolutely exhausted but couldn't find a position to sleep in which didn't cause me huge amounts of pain - my body most definitely wanted to sleep but I was in too much pain to do it. I wanted to punch people who said 'sleep now, it's the last chance you'll get' and I've vowed never to say it to a pregnant lady myself!
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Totally agree-I was shocked by how much of my time breast feeding took up, literally hours glued to the settee, feeding every 1-11/2hrs, for like 50mins at a time-by the time I'd changed his nappy it was time for another feed!-some dayd I didn't manage to have a cup of coffee til hubby came home! Wasn't helped by the fact that he'd only sleep on me, something he's finally grown out of thank goodness! x
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When I told my hubby about you, he didn't believe me
When did you decide to have 9 kids? You should write a book about your life story. It would be an interesting read.
We didnt really decide it! I said no more after 4 and thats why i have a 4 year gap. Then Rachel came along, and the others quickly followed!!!
Im actually just starting my books! Im doing one on pregnancy and one on childcare!
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I really do think that having a baby is just something you can't prepare for until it happens. I remember it coming as such a shock that my life was turned totally upside down but this little thing so much so that I barely recognised it!
I think alot depends on what LO is like. Aisling never had a great latch so breastfeeding took between 45-60 minutes at a time unlike 20 minutes for everyone else I knew. Then she'd only sleep on my lap and I hadn't discovered a decent sling so I'd be sitting on the sofa for yet another hour. Couldn't sleep myself because she wanted me to jiggle my legs the whole time!
For me, the main thing even with an older baby is that if you add up all the moments in the day that LO doesn't need your attention then yes, you actually have quite alot of time. BUT all of that time is broken up into 5 minutes here, 10 minutes there so not enough time to get anything real done. It's just a bit of firefighting to get the house looking good but I can't tell you the number of times when I'd finally got her off to sleep in her cot, gone to the loo, changed into workout gear, put the workout dvd on, got 5 minutes into it and she's awake - repeat for every other task you want to get done in a day!
One thing that really annoyed me when I was pregnant though was 'sleep now, it's the last chance you'll get' - it came across to me as incredibly patronising. Even if it's true, why basically say to someone 'haha your life is about to get worse'?!
I've been winding up my pregnant cousin by saying that
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When I told my hubby about you, he didn't believe me
When did you decide to have 9 kids? You should write a book about your life story. It would be an interesting read.
We didnt really decide it! I said no more after 4 and thats why i have a 4 year gap. Then Rachel came along, and the others quickly followed!!!
Im actually just starting my books! Im doing one on pregnancy and one on childcare!
You're more qualified than anyone I know to write them!
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Sam9kids
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When I told my hubby about you, he didn't believe me
When did you decide to have 9 kids? You should write a book about your life story. It would be an interesting read.
We didnt really decide it! I said no more after 4 and thats why i have a 4 year gap. Then Rachel came along, and the others quickly followed!!!
Im actually just starting my books! Im doing one on pregnancy and one on childcare!
You're more qualified than anyone I know to write them!
Thankyou! I can but try!
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It depends on the baby. I know new mums who find the time to bake cakes or do a bit of decorating, while I barely manage to dress and feed myself! Xander has never slept much during the day - maybe 3 half hour naps all day - and when he's awake he gets bored easily so I have to constantly play with him/pick him up/carry him round. Babies generally travel well though, the motion of the pram or the car soothes them, so getting out is easy enough, but don't count on actually being able to do whatever you had planned once you get there!
As some have said, it depends on the labour, delivery, birth, and temperment.
The first 2 months of my LO's life was a living hell, an absolute nightmare. I think I went the first week without brushing my teeth, hair, or changing my clothes.
LO sustained fractures during the delivery and every time I touched him or tried to feed him, he screamed in pain. I couldn't bond well because I couldn't even touch him for fear of injury. He then had colic and screamed a good 23 hours a day.
I know your delivery & first few weeks will probably be good as most of them are, but there are situations where moms do have no time - the only hour or two they have in 24 hours is leftover to sleep. While I can appreciate a lot of moms do have time to do their hair, makeup, and clean their house (which I do now as LO has moved beyond colic & fractures have healed), do keep in mind that you are very blessed to have a happy healthy newborn. We are not all so fortunate.
The first 2 months of my LO's life was a living hell, an absolute nightmare. I think I went the first week without brushing my teeth, hair, or changing my clothes.
LO sustained fractures during the delivery and every time I touched him or tried to feed him, he screamed in pain. I couldn't bond well because I couldn't even touch him for fear of injury. He then had colic and screamed a good 23 hours a day.
I know your delivery & first few weeks will probably be good as most of them are, but there are situations where moms do have no time - the only hour or two they have in 24 hours is leftover to sleep. While I can appreciate a lot of moms do have time to do their hair, makeup, and clean their house (which I do now as LO has moved beyond colic & fractures have healed), do keep in mind that you are very blessed to have a happy healthy newborn. We are not all so fortunate.
I know 100% I am blessed to have a happy, healthy newborn and never take it for granted.
We all cope differently to our individual situations, this I believe is what the OP was looking for... our experiences and opinions as mums to newborn babies.
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What do you mean you don't have time. Your LO's can play with each other, you should have loads of time
No seriously, when you have a child you never know where the time goes. I get up at 7am and then look at the clock and it 5pm
you know what I think this is where I may start to have MORE time than singleton mums - they are starting to interact and its lovely to watch. Although their favourite game is 'grab bits of your brothers face and see if it makes him squeal' atm eekkk hehehehehehe
