Is it right to smack a child?

[xemmax]

Smacking/spanking/putting your hands against a child - I am totally against it.

I don't think it teaches a child to make the right choices and for that reason I don't think it works. It just scares them into not doing something again, and I don't think it's good for a child to be scared of you.

 

[JASMAK]

tapping, spanking, beating, hitting, hurting...it's all causing pain and it's all about a parent not having the proper tools to discipline, I am 110% AGAINST it.

 

[smelly07]

I dont agree with smacking, it wrong..how anyone can justify physically hurting a child is beyond me............ i dont get this tap on the hand stuff either ........whats the point?

 

[xCookieDough]

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Me to, I don't get the tapping as well? It's still a form of smacking imo, maybe people think it's okay because its a "lighter" form?

 

[tina3747]

Most kids who are smacked and shouted at on a daily basis that I've seen just become numb to it anyway!! My friends 2 nightmare boys just laugh at their mum now! I suggested she take the tv and x box away from them for a week they'd soon behave, she replied with "Im not doing that , it's the only thing that keeps them quiet!". Teaching them lots then!!!

 

[tina3747]

Has anyone seen the video a girl put on you tube of her dad who was a hight court judge in the US??
He was secretly filmed by her being beaten by him with a leather belt... Then her mum. Incidently she has a form of cerebral palsy . 16 at the time (23 now) and had down loaded something illegally on the net.
Don't watch it if like me you are too easily shocked.

 

[Dragonfly]

Seen that last night that vid, me and my other half where raging! it happens all to often to kids this. very disturbing how some parents treat children and what they call discipline.

 

[xemmax]

Has anyone seen the video a girl put on you tube of her dad who was a hight court judge in the US??
He was secretly filmed by her being beaten by him with a leather belt... Then her mum. Incidently she has a form of cerebral palsy . 16 at the time (23 now) and had down loaded something illegally on the net.
Don't watch it if like me you are too easily shocked.

I saw this earlier today, it really upset me. The man is an animal. He doesn't know what the hell he is doing, he's just thrashing her with the belt because he can, he has no control whatsoever. Made me sick.

 

[tina3747]

My friends when we were growing up used to have the slipper, cane and belt used on them regular. I witnessed many a time when they were 'naughty' they'd get a pasting for whatever they'd done. One time there were the 2 girls ,me and another 2 kids from next door and their dad worked at a biscuit factory and used to bring big boxes of broken biscuits home. We always had a thing of getting the chocolate ones out and this one time we got really silly acting like animals trying to find them. He walked in and went balistic at them, asked if they prefered the cane or belt and hit them repeatedly in front of us on the behind. Afterwards he said if we were his we'd get the same.
Funny enough his younger 2 kids, the girls step brother and sister were never treated the same, I could never understand it. The girls had cleaning rotas to do, had to be up at 5am to do the chores before paper rounds and do more cleaning when home from school.
He was a jehovahs witness and I remember him telling them that if they ever needed a blood transfusion he'd couldn't do it and said to thier face he'd rather let them die than go against his god. He loved his god more than them he said.
Probably one reason I've never understood that religion.

 

[patch2006uk]

I remember being smacked on the back of my legs twice. All I remember is feeling annoyed, and the sense of injustice (I'd hit my brother - granted I'd walloped him hard and left a hand print that didn't fade for ages - but it didn't seem right to teach 'don't smack' by smacking)

I'd totally tap LO's hand if he reached for the hot stove or a plug socket or went to run across the road or anything. I think that's more about the shock of the contact than the pain it causes, and as long as it's only used in dangerous circumstances, I think it gets a message across quickly and can prevent injury to your LO.

I'd never smack him across the legs though, or make him bend over for a spanking. That just seems so wrong.

An old colleague of my husband said she used to enjoy being spanked by her dad. I think knowing that's possible would also stop me using it as a punishment. How would you cope, having tried to discipline your child and actually ending up 'treating' them, in a way, to an enjoyable spanking. Very wrong...

 

[xCookieDough]

Has anyone seen the video a girl put on you tube of her dad who was a hight court judge in the US??
He was secretly filmed by her being beaten by him with a leather belt... Then her mum. Incidently she has a form of cerebral palsy . 16 at the time (23 now) and had down loaded something illegally on the net.
Don't watch it if like me you are too easily shocked.

I saw this earlier today, it really upset me. The man is an animal. He doesn't know what the hell he is doing, he's just thrashing her with the belt because he can, he has no control whatsoever. Made me sick.

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That is so disgusting, omg! Poor girl, it really upset me aswell.

 

[MonstHer]

I think the belt is pretty ominous... I was more scared of that then anything, and just did stuff in secret after that.
Corporal punishment when used in anger I think is wrong.
It only scared me and made me hate them, and definitely not trust my parents.
Some of my youngest memories are of being slapped/beaten...she used to wear rings too, which would make my mouth bleed.

My earliest memories should be of other things.
No, maybe just a light spanking if she tries to run out in the street or something, lol.
Honestly, it made even more devious I think, just to spite them for their meaness.
I stopped caring.

 

[Blah11]

I think you mean corporal punishment but thats horrid that your earliest memories are full of violence

 

[Dragonfly]

I think corporal punishment used in any way not just anger is wrong.

 

[MonstHer]

I think you mean corporal punishment but thats horrid that your earliest memories are full of violence

Oops, yea, I meant corporal.
Fixed it, ha.

Both of them downplayed it too, when asked about it later, which makes me resentful even more.
It affects how I feel about having my child around my family, for sure.

 

[deafgal]

from my upbringing, spanking was done because some christians believe if you don't spank them, they will not know what wrath (and love) is and they could become a nonbeliever if the parent don't follow the bible. The parents don't want their kids end up in hell after they died for not believing.

they also don't believe in spanking in anger or provoking their child into anger (in the bible) because they believe that too can turn them into nonbelievers.

I think the child can believe without spanking. I think the child can be guided instead.

 

[Ramen]

Not to be the one voice of dissent, but I would spank in extreme cases. The 10 year old that pulled a handgun on a woman making an innocent joke to one of his friends on Halloween who was released without charges would be spanked when I was calm and would be lucky to get privileges back by Halloween 2012. Had it been my 12 year old that pushed a shopping cart off a fourth story parking garage at target for fun and left a mother clinging to life and laughed about it at booking he would count himself lucky that he was in police custody. I don't think smacking a child's hand for minor offenses does any good, but endangering the lives of others would qualify a spanking in my mind.

 

[JASMAK]

Not to be the one voice of dissent, but I would spank in extreme cases. The 10 year old that pulled a handgun on a woman making an innocent joke to one of his friends on Halloween who was released without charges would be spanked when I was calm and would be lucky to get privileges back by Halloween 2012. Had it been my 12 year old that pushed a shopping cart off a fourth story parking garage at target for fun and left a mother clinging to life and laughed about it at booking he would count himself lucky that he was in police custody. I don't think smacking a child's hand for minor offenses does any good, but endangering the lives of others would qualify a spanking in my mind.

The thing is...I bet that kid WAS spanked. Studies show children who are hit, are more aggresive. Research it!

 

[Quackquack99]

Not to be the one voice of dissent, but I would spank in extreme cases. The 10 year old that pulled a handgun on a woman making an innocent joke to one of his friends on Halloween who was released without charges would be spanked when I was calm and would be lucky to get privileges back by Halloween 2012. Had it been my 12 year old that pushed a shopping cart off a fourth story parking garage at target for fun and left a mother clinging to life and laughed about it at booking he would count himself lucky that he was in police custody. I don't think smacking a child's hand for minor offenses does any good, but endangering the lives of others would qualify a spanking in my mind.

The thing is...I bet that kid WAS spanked. Studies show children who are hit, are more aggresive. Research it!

Agreed!

 

[Janidog]

I don't agree with smacking or spanking or biting your children. I resent my mum (she was the main person who gave out the punishment) for the times she would slap us kids on the back of our legs, get the wooden spoon out on our backside, bite us if we bit our siblings to teach us a lesson. Even now they tell me when LO is older that they only way to install discipline is to smack him, its not going to happen

When LO hurts himself he comes to me for comfort, but if i smack him and then try to comfort him, it just doesn't seem right when im the one who hurt him