Is it wrong of me and OH

[Tink1o5]

is it wrong of me and the OH to feel ready to try again for another baby after just having a miscarriage on Feb 5th.???

I had VERY heavy bright bleeding on Feb 5th, and then it turned to a dark brown and 2 days ago all the bleeding has stopped. I have a check up on the 19th to make sure all has flushed out.

 

[Lazy Leo]

Sorry for your loss. If you both feel ready hun, then no, it's not wrong

 

[Miss Happy x]

I think if you both feel ready then go for it, look towards the future I say! Hope all goes well and your ok xxxx

 

[Barneyboo]

No not at all, as long as you and your OH are ready that's all that matters x x x x

 

[bklove]

I say get to it! Once you both feel ready like everyone else said, go ahead.

 

[Las78]

I say go for it too, I m/c on the 6th and am desperate to try again although I felt guilty, it's not that we want to replace the baby as we know that nothing will ever replace him but I so badly want a baby to hold and love

 

[Kota]

Nope, not wrong! But then I'm in the same boat, mc feb 5th as well, we'll be getting back to it quick smart!

 

[Orange lady]

Not at all. I think if you both feel ready, you should go for it.
xxx

 

[Rebaby]

I think it's important to do whatever feels right for you as a couple, and if that is getting back to ttc then go for it. Everyone is different and if it feels the natural thing to do then it can't be wrong.

 

[sarahhoney]

I'm in the same boat too! We miscarried on the 2nd Feb and though I do feel like I have a chance now to get myself sorted (lose weight and clear house a bit!) we are certainly not stopping ourselves from falling pregnant however we aren't at it like rabbits and we aren't charting etc.

I think that way we aren't putting ourselves under too much pressure either but we aren't stopping anything from happening if it wants to naturally.

I think good for you, why not be positive and go for it!!! Hopefully then a will be just around the corner x

 

[Blondie]

Some couples find it too soon, some need to try again asap - it's a completely individual thing. I had mc on 22nd Jan and we started trying straight away and I'm desperately hoping that I will get another in the next couple of days.

 

[vickielm]

Hi hunni,

So sorry for your loss.

I also had a identical twin MMC in Dec 08 and had D+C 12th Jan 09. We BD quite a few times as throught bleeding had stopped.

It is 6 week today since D+C and we have been BD regually for a few weeks now as we are not waiting for AF. Good job as i have not had it yet!!!!

Good luck hunni. Just give yourself a week or so and get your head aroundyour los and give you and hubbi time to grieve. You will not be replacing your loss,just make sureyou are ready. I was the same and wanted to try as soon as i possible could (hence BDinbetween spotting) alhtough looking back the first few times weBD it was because i wasnted to take the pain away and cover up what had actually happend.

I amok now though and i am sure you will be also hunni.

If you need to chat then PMme i dont mind, but as you can see i am very opinionatedand honnest!!

Vik

 

[Jessa]

I think that if you and your hubby feel like you're ready, then go for it. After our first miscarriage, my hubby and I started trying again right away. My advice would be to just take it easy for the first few weeks though. Charting and temping and all that can get you worked up. Just enjoy each other again and see where it leads. Good luck!

 

[Shelby2007]

I dont think anything is wrong with it.. like Vik - I had a MMC with identical twins.. and am ready to try again.. but we have to wait 3 months (drs orders!!) -

Everyone is different.. I know you do not want to replace your baby.. but rather just want a baby to hold for and care for like myself. I say get to trying!!

 

[plumplump]

Go for it- if you feel ready then don't let what anybody elses thinks or says get in your way. We lost on the 12th Jan and only waited two weeks, it is how you and your OH feel that counts. Good luck toots wishing you all the health and happiness that I can!!

 

[DiddyDons]

its not wrong at all! i have a friend who had a stillbirth then got preg 5months later only to M/C at 5 weeks and she never had a period after...shes now 24 weeks gone

 

[susan_1981]

As soon as I found out about my miscarriage, I was thinking about getting pregnant again. Everyone is different but I didn't want to dwell on the past and upset myself any more than necessary. Focusing on the future and trying again was the only thing that really kept me going. I had a mmc at the end of December and we are trying again. Had my first period at the beginning of Feb, ov'd yesterday so we are back in and trying extremely hard this month.

Good luck with trying again and sorry for your loss.

 

[gemsio]

i think if you feel its right do it, i miscarried in december, and we are going to wait til the summer, even though the waiting is killing me.
for us its too early when it first happend i wanted to get pregnant straight away but now i think its best for us to wait a while. best of luck for your next try honey. xxx

 

[RobenR]

My husband and I had a D&E on 4 Feb. We waited exactly 10 days before trying again and are now actively working on TTC despite how recent it has been. If you and your husband feel ready for it then hit the sheets and here's hoping for a positive!