It won't go away :(

[MollyFreya]

Hi My names Molly and I'm 19 years old and 28+3 weeks pregnant. I've had a really difficult pregnancy as I've had a lot of complications. I didn't find out I was pregnant till I was nearly 2 months. I had been with my boyfriend for 4 years on and off. We had recently got back together after a 3 month break and I got pregnant straight away. I had suspicions my boyfriend had cheated on me at the beginning of our relationship and this is what caused us constantly breaking up. After deciding to keep the baby, my boyfriend decides to tell me that the rumours were true. It broke my heart. Why did he tell me this when I'm 3 months pregnant? I've had a bad pregnancy anyways because of various complications and this just added to the stress.

I went through four years of stress due to my boyfriend cheating on me. I've been finding this hard to cope as I've never told anyone about the cheating because I find it really embarrassing. I know everyone would just tell me to break up with him. I only got back with him in the first place because he swore he never and I found it hard deciding wether to keep this baby as I was ment to be going to Uni after studying hard for three years in fashion design. His slightly older than me and persuaded me to keep this baby. I thought I could move on fr this, but it bothers me everyday. I love my little girl growing inside of me but I'm worried the stress her father is causing me is affecting her and I don't know what to do. I feel so alone?

 

[MummyMana]

At least he's been man enough to own up to his mistakes! Was it just a one off? Maybe you should look into relationship counselling or mediation to try and work through the problems? I hope everything turns out for the best!

 

[pollydolly]

don't feel alone sweetheart.

what he did was awful & stupid but the fact he wants you to keep your baby together & he wants it to work shows he's trying hun.
people (especially men! :haha) make mistakes & he's made a very very bad one, but it seems you want to work through it for your little Girly?
it's hard to forgive so maybe it would be easier for you to forget (or try?) I'm bad with advice so sorry if I'm winding you up or anything.

If you ever need a chat at all feel free to message me any time you like.
where are you from? xx

 

[MollyFreya]

thank you for the comments. I know he has changed a lot and I believe it was only one time at the beginning of the relationship. What's hurting me is that he's had all time to tell me and he decides to do it, when I'm emotional and stressed as it is. Its just one of them things that is constantly on my mind, I just hope it goes away.

But thank you very much for the support + I'm from South East London

 

[MummyMana]

Although he should've told you sooner, its better late than never, it seems like perhaps he wants to draw a line under it and start on a clean slate be open about your feelings to him and take things one step at a time, it'll take a while for your trust to build up again but I believe anyone who wants a relationship to work can work through their problems together as you say it was at the beginning of your relationship and he's probably grown older and wiser since then

 

[pollydolly]

thank you for the comments. I know he has changed a lot and I believe it was only one time at the beginning of the relationship. What's hurting me is that he's had all time to tell me and he decides to do it, when I'm emotional and stressed as it is. Its just one of them things that is constantly on my mind, I just hope it goes away.

But thank you very much for the support + I'm from South East London

it'll go away eventually sweetpea

I'm from way up in Yorkshire! x

 

[MollyFreya]

thank you, you have been really helpful. feel a lot better now
oh that's quite far lol.
good luck with your pregnancy hope everything goes well for you, thanks again x

 

[pollydolly]

hope everything works out for you honey
if you need a chat you know where i am xx

 

[Babyfor2]

What he did was thoughtless, cruel, and stupid, and honestly I think he knows that. And although telling you the truth hurt you at least he did it. I think it shows he's taking this pregnancy really seriously and wants to start fresh. It's so hard to get over these things especially when the wound is re opened but some day you will. I've been cheated on by every boyfriend I ever had until I met my husband. Who never cheated but we have had issues with porn and stuff...I was never with any of those other guys long enough to have any trust in them and allways broke up within 2 months. But I really think a time will come when you wake up 1 day or 1 week or even a month and realize you haven't even thought about him cheating. I think that even though it was on and off you have still known that man for 4 solid years and that gives you a better chance that some girls who got pregnant when they just met a guy. I wish you the best of luck, don't be afraid to talk it out with him. He knows what he did was wrong and will help you however be can.

 

[Mummymoo_x]

So sorry, must be an awful thing to go through especially as your pregnant. Concerntrate on your baby for now.... Things will sort themselves, stay strong & have a HAPPY & healthy pregnancy. Put yourself and your little bubba first for now...he'll soon realise what it means to be a daddy, & if not he wasnt worth it in the first place xxx