it would've been all too perfect....

[rj84]

Hi ladies, just having a little rant really - it's our 6mnth TTC and this month would've been oh so perfect - father's day to tell DH, my mothers birthday to announce at the end of June and my Dad's birthday as the due date - all too perfect..... and here I am on 11dpo BFN and feel totally out and depressed.

just feel like shouting - when will it be my turn? !!!!!

I know there are many ladies who have been TTC a lot longer than us - but we'd been WTT for over two years cause of finance, DH readiness etc - and now I just wish we'd got on with it!! You're supposed to wait 'for the right time' no one sad it would be so heartbreaking.

How do you cope with the disappointment each month??

xxxbabydustxxx

 

[karleyflower]

hey rj84,

aww sorry about your bfn but you never know until af shows! I know I never knew it would be so emotionally draining and disappointing to keep seeing bfn and thinking, why am I not pregnant yet!

But, I am doing my best to stay as positive as possible, hard as that is sometimes, I really believe it will help get a sticky bean he he.

sorry not really much help, but just wanted you to know your not alone in feeling the way you are right now

baby dust xx

 

[Bear0609]

Totally know how you're feeling, its so heartbreaking that for some of us conceiving is so hard. I just keep telling myself that one day it will be my turn, although my dream of being a mum before I'm 30 is not going to happen now.

 

[wantanerd]

For me positivity is the key. I let myself be upset for one day and then I move on and prepare myself for the next cycle. I was like you this month, everything seemed to line up perfectly. My mom would be here when I found out, my birthday is around the corner, and I would know the sex in time for my dad's 60th b-day and I would have been due in Feb which has many important dates for DH and I.

But I can find good things about a baby being due in any month. TTC is frustrating and can be stressful but I think positivity helps a lot more.

 

[KTsmiles]

Patience is really a virtue, one that I don't have. So if you are anything like me, I know exactly how you feel. Life is a miracle and everything happens for a reason. Reasons we will never know but we have to trust that there is a very good reason why things don't happen when we want them too. You just have to keep being optimistic and remember that there is some reason why it didn't happen this month and be ok with that, and focus that energy positively to get ready to try again next month! Hang in there. We are all routing for you!! ~*~BABY DUST TO YOU!!~*~ KT

 

[Tanzibar83]

Being a mum before 30 is my wish too Bear0609, I was hoping to have had at least 3 by then but I'm nearly 6 months off my 28th birthday and no baby in sight, I'm not even close.

When I decided TTC my hubby had been ready for months and I kept telling him that we'll have no trouble and it'll happen cycle 1...it didn't. It's been nearly a year since TTC and I've only had 5 cycles but far too much heartbreak and stress over something which just isn't happening.

I've come to learn that films and tv really warp people's idea of TTC and if I knew how hard it was I would have started years ago. The thing that keeps me going is just treating it like a military operation. CD1 - 6 try everything supplement wise, (either soy or maca, etc). CD7 right up until FF detects ovulation bonk like rabbits and OPK like mad. Don't be put off by negative results as there's no such thing until AF rears her horrible face. put all symptoms and cycle data into FF and when it looks like ovulation is near bump up the bonking even further and just be careful with my body.

Thinking about it I put so much time and effort into thinking like that, that I dont get as much heartache as I use to. I suffer from long cycles so I think my mind is over shadowed by fertility friend helping me see my unique body patterns. This month though if I end up with AF I have to go for my Hycosy examination which sounds terrifying so if you get 2 minutes check out my FF chart and see how much we've been b'ding over the past week. (That'll show you how much I need to have a BFP this cycle, haha)