it's all official - saying "I do" on 20th July 2013 ** venue pics page 59 **

[NuKe]

IT'S YOUR WEDDING. dont ask someone out of pressure from ppl, ask who u want!!! its a big deal.

 

[EmmyReece]

Yeah, but my nan is the sort of person, where if I don't do what's expected of me then she'll probably do something stupid like take a handful of pills at the wedding just to be centre of attention

 

[NuKe]

 

[EmmyReece]

Yep that's exactly what she's like, it makes me so mad, she's always been the same, big times in the family, if she hasn't had her own way she's done something stupid to get the attention. She's going to be pissed off as it is because I'm not inviting my aunty and her brats (she refused to pay £200, even though she's rolling in it, to alter her flights to her holiday home in Germany so that she could come to Dad's funeral)

 

[NuKe]

she sounds like a right old bag!

 

[EmmyReece]

that's honestly putting it lightly hun, but I can't not invite my nan because my grandad would be upset and he's the loveliest guy you could meet, a bit dopey, but lovely all the same lol

 

[NuKe]

can u not ask him to keep her restrained from doing anything silly? or is that out of the question??

 

[mummymunch]

My nan is the same hun, everything has to be about her, she got so drunk at my aunts wedding we were all a bit miffed as she said she stopped drinking, she cried cause we all 'ignored her' and then sent my other aunt who came from bournemouth a horrible letter saying since she married my uncle shes ruined everything :s she then didnt even come to her own sons funeral and blamed my grandad for his death (he died cause his heart just stopped cause he was a heroin addict) i dont want her at the wedding but there would be more grief if i dont! Wow that feels better... Sorry!!!

Can you have both your uncle and your dads friend walk you? But if you really just want your dads friend then go for it. People will be too happy on your day to notice your nan

 

[EmmyReece]

What I might do is get my uncles and my grandad together and explain why I want it this way, surely if I do that then they'll understand why I'm doing it? Uncle Adam has Jodie to walk down the aisle, Grandad walked 3 daughters down the aisle and Uncle Matthew is the one who lives in Macau, and I don't want to put extra pressure on him to pay the stupidly expensive flight prices by asking him. I don't even know if Dad's friend will be able to come, so maybe I'm getting ahead of myself in wanting to ask him

I wish my grandad could keep her restrained Nuke, I really do But if she's going to do something then there's no stopping her

 

[EmmyReece]

Oh and on a plus note, 1 week from now we'll be on our way to the venue to pay the deposit

 

[NuKe]

 

[Traskey]

I think you should have what you want but I do understand the pressure that you feel under to do the right thing. There's no easy answer to this one though. Just do what you and Chris want.

 

[Smile181c]

Hun I completely understand about family pressuring you into stuff. There are some people in my guest list that I don't really want there, but are there because it saves me grief don't even get me started on my top table troubles cause my step dad will throw a huge fit if he's not on it!

It's hard to get past it, but you have to keep telling yourself that it's not their day, and it's not about them. If your mum does anything silly, no one is gonna give her any kind of positive attention - they'll all be thinking 'how could she do something like this on the biggest day of her daughters life?' If you want your dad's best friend to walk you down the aisle, I'm sure your uncles and grandad will be fine with it, and no doubt your dad's friend will be honoured

 

[EmmyReece]

My mum will be fine whoever I choose hun, it's my Nan that's going to cause a bit of a stinker I think

I think I might sit my uncle Adam and my grandad down and have a word with them about it, just hope they understand and aren't upset.

 

[honeybee2]

I'm so sorry for the pickle! You need to go with your heart though hun!

 

[EmmyReece]

thanks ladies ... I don't know why I've got it in my head for my dad's friend to give me away

 

[Tarkwa]

Hey Emmy!
I LOVE LOVE LOVE the snow white dress hun - it does really well with your daisy scheme (without actually having daisies all over it! Apple blossom is so similar and lovely in white). I know lots of ladies on here said the dresses they liked and chose were not 'the' dresses and went with something the shop assistant went with, but I went with the dress I liked on the hanger!!! I went through the shop and picked out tons to try on. The first dress I tried was an Alfred Angelo 1516 one my mum had seen in a magazine. The second which was one that I chose was the one I went for! The shop assistant got me lots more to try on but I kept comparing everything to my dress. I then tried it on again, started crying and realised it was MY dress - I had found THE one! I was so overwhelmed. The only thing different from what I had in mind was that I quite liked the thought of an organza/chiffon dress, but I wasn't massively fussed on that in the first place. So what I'm saying is if you love a dress in a picture/on the hanger then you might well still love it on you (though lots of women don't I did!).

Cake sounds yummy - defo get a taster beforehand. Mine was M&S so couldn't go wrong - everyone loves a good M&S cake, don't they?!

And with regards to walking you down the aisle you need to do what you and Chris feel is best hun. One way of dealing with it (and this is HIGHLY CONTROVERSIAL!) would be to be upfront with your nan and tell her what you are doing and say if she wants to play up then everyone will ignore her. Tell her if she wants to do something stupid like pop a load of pills that you will help her (i.e. go out and buy them for her, put them out ready for her to take, hand her a glass of water) just to shock her into realising that it is YOUR day and not hers. You can probably tell from how I would deal with someone like her that I really don't like attention seekers who would want to deliberately want to take away from someone else's special day. It's not fair that people should have to deal with shit like that when planning their dream day. Anyway, I'm sure you will deal with it in a much nicer way than I would!!! And you have plenty of time to sort it out.
xxx

 

[EmmyReece]

you always give the best advice hun

and btw I love your dress, it's so pretty

What I'll probably do with regards to my nan is lead by example and ignore her dramatics if she starts anything. I just can't be doing with any hassle from her, so I'll probably put my moh on reflecting duty and keeping her away from me.

I still have no idea how to approach the idea of who to walk me down the aisle. I can honestly 100% picture my dad's friend walking me down the aisle, but my uncles, or my grandad, I really just don't see it

I'm a happy girly today though, 2 of the bridesmaid headdresses arrived today and my bridezilla notebook

Here's one of the headdresses

https://i55.photobucket.com/albums/g126/emmyreece/IMG-20110705-00058-1.jpg https://i55.photobucket.com/albums/g126/emmyreece/Snapshot_20110705-1.jpg

And here's my funky bridezilla book

https://i55.photobucket.com/albums/g126/emmyreece/IMG-20110705-00059-1.jpg

https://i55.photobucket.com/albums/g126/emmyreece/IMG-20110705-00060-1.jpg https://i55.photobucket.com/albums/g126/emmyreece/IMG-20110705-00061-1.jpg

https://i55.photobucket.com/albums/g126/emmyreece/IMG-20110705-00062-1.jpg https://i55.photobucket.com/albums/g126/emmyreece/IMG-20110705-00063-1.jpg https://i55.photobucket.com/albums/g126/emmyreece/IMG-20110705-00064-1.jpg

 

[Smile181c]

Oops my bad replace 'mum' with 'nan' when reading my comment

the headdress is lovely mine are quite similar! but I don't know if I'll be using them yet. All depends on how I want the flowergirls hair to be like!

 

[EmmyReece]

I'll probably ask them to have their hair down and then have it wavy, kinda like this?

https://www.ayushveda.com/magazine/wp-content/uploads/2010/07/Long-Curly-Hair-Styles.jpg

or this

https://4.bp.blogspot.com/_30PRmkOl4ro/S1mdZ9iVKxI/AAAAAAAAZk4/83LxCk3JFe0/s400/kate_hudson300x400.jpg