It's been 7 weeks since mc but still not af...when to ring the GP?

[GI_Jane]

9 dpo is still early Bobster, you're not out yet!

Afm, I thought I had ov'ed on Thursday and am now 6 dpo. Since I had light spotting thurs-sat I thought it meant I must have ov'ed then. However, I had ewcm today so took my last opk - POSITIVE! Crap. That means I haven't bd'd at all when I was supposed to. We bd'd today and will for the next 2 days I suppose. I guess what I thought might have been super early pg symptoms were actually ov symptoms.

Ah crazy, at least you found out in time and hopefully you'll catch the eggy. Will you still have your bloods done on Thursday?

 

[mackjess]

Jane is right. You don't ov for 12 48 hours after your positive, so you can still catch that eggy! good job testing again.

 

[bobster]

Good luck mlm. Hope u dtd plenty! Maybe u geared up to o but didn't release the egg the first time. Welcome to the 2ww again! I got a bfn today on 10dpo. Think I'm well and truely out now so fed up. Hope it happens January or I think that's it for me. Feel sorry for myself today

 

[GI_Jane]

Mlm, do you think you almost missed ovulation because you used cheaper opk's this month- not the digital ones? Got a feeling I read you were using them this cycle- sorry if I'm wrong.

Ah bobster, sorry to hear your getting bfn, the disappointment is crap I know this won't make you feel better but you still might not be out yet. But if you are I hope your af comes on time so you can move on to next cycle ASAP. Chin up bobster, we've got to have hope but I know how much seeing a bfn can dent our positivity. 2013 will be our year

How was your appointment today mackjess? Did you get the referral for genetic testing? I know it's easier said than done but try not to worry, I have a good friend who got pregnant at 40 after a loss and she now has a beautiful and perfectly healthy 6 month old.

 

[mackjess]

thank you Jane, I am a bit worried about my nt scan for downs. which they should be calling to sched that for 12 weeks. today I got to hear the heartbeat so I'm being happy about that.

I can't wait to see what 2013 brings for you ladies.

 

[mlm115]

Sorry about your bfn Bobster. Although I do agree that you're not out yet. I didn't get a bfp until 12 dpo last time. You haven't been trying long since your mc, don't give up yet!!!

Mack, so glad you got to hear the heartbeat! Did that make you feel more pregnant??

 

[bobster]

Thanks ladies. I know you're right we haven't been trying long since the mc and I felt we'd missed it straight away because of hardly an bd and lack of ewcm this month. Can't help feeling down about eminent af though due new years eve too which is an extra kick in the teeth. Did another test today and again bfn. Feel so resentful of all these people who get pregnant straight away. Feels so unfair.

Sorry to bring a downer to the thread.

That's great about the hb mackjess! Try not to worry too much about the genetic tests. You are far younger than a lot of mums to be now so your chance of any problems will still be slim

Do you think you did enough around your second ovulation mlm?

Jane, when's your ovulation due?

 

[mackjess]

Bobster, hang in there hon. I know it was devastating when I got AF after my m/c even though I didn't want to get pregnant straight away. I hope she stays away, but if not I'm sure that will make you all the more serious for next month.

MLM - yea, starting to feel a tad bit more pregnant. After we left the appt yesterday, DH asked if hearing the HB meant he could post something on FB now. I had no idea he was so eager to, but I told him no, not until the NT scan.

Feeling more prego has just made me miss my LO more, if that makes sense. I'm grateful of course, but it would have been nice talking about the gender and being able to be more excited over the holidays. Now I can't go back to the naive self I was the first time around and enjoy this as much as I should.

And I realize this Mumford and Sons song is probably about a breakup or a girl, but I really like it and have been listening to it a lot the last few days. Makes me think of the bean I miss so much, and the new one that is sticking.

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"After The Storm"

And after the storm,
I run and run as the rains come
And I look up, I look up,
on my knees and out of luck,
I look up.

Night has always pushed up day
You must know life to see decay
But I won't rot, I won't rot
Not this mind and not this heart,
I won't rot.

And I took you by the hand
And we stood tall,
And remembered our own land,
What we lived for.

And there will come a time, you'll see, with no more tears.
And love will not break your heart, but dismiss your fears.
Get over your hill and see what you find there,
With grace in your heart and flowers in your hair.

And now I cling to what I knew
I saw exactly what was true
But oh no more.
That's why I hold,
That's why I hold with all I have.
That's why I hold.

And I won't die alone and be left there.
Well I guess I'll just go home,
Oh God knows where.
Because death is just so full and man so small.
Well I'm scared of what's behind and what's before.

And there will come a time, you'll see, with no more tears.
And love will not break your heart, but dismiss your fears.
Get over your hill and see what you find there,
With grace in your heart and flowers in your hair.

And there will come a time, you'll see, with no more tears.
And love will not break your heart, but dismiss your fears.
Get over your hill and see what you find there,
With grace in your heart and flowers in your hair.

 

[bobster]

Beautiful song mackjess- just checked it out on youtube. Never heard it before.

I can see why you are thinking of your lost LO even more now. I guess its a comfort to feel that missing so much in a way though and I'm sure it will make you love and appreciate your other LO more.

I've had sporadic quite bad af cramps today so waiting patiently for her arrival now and focusing on next cycle. Me and OH are engaged and we've decided to get married this summer so that will be something else to focus on.

Jane and mlm how are you both doing? what cd/dpo are you now?

 

[GI_Jane]

Beautiful song mackjess- just checked it out on youtube. Never heard it before.

I can see why you are thinking of your lost LO even more now. I guess its a comfort to feel that missing so much in a way though and I'm sure it will make you love and appreciate your other LO more.

I've had sporadic quite bad af cramps today so waiting patiently for her arrival now and focusing on next cycle. Me and OH are engaged and we've decided to get married this summer so that will be something else to focus on.

Jane and mlm how are you both doing? what cd/dpo are you now?

I need to look that song up too, I have their first album but not their second one and i'm interested to hear this song now. I thought of my lost bean on Christmas day.

Summer 2013 wedding sounds lovely bobster, congrats on setting a date and it will certainly give you something else to focus on....I bet you'll get pregnant when you least expect it and you'll have to rush to get your dress altered Will it be a big or small affair?

I'm doing ok thanks, I'm cd 11 and depending on cycle length expect to o between 14th and 25th Jan so not been thinking too much about TTC. We did try out the pre-seed today and we liked it

 

[mlm115]

Congrats Bobster, wedding planning will definitely give you a distraction from stressing TTC. I want wedding details too! : )

Good call with the preseed Jane, it makes a huge difference for us.

I'm 2 or 3 dpo. Got my blood taken Thursday which showed hcg at 5, which is considered negative. Strangely enough that is right about when I got the pos opk, so maybe my body needed to be "negative" in order to ovulate? Who knows. We bd'd the day I had ewcm/pos opk and the day after. Hopefully that was enough, but we shall see! DH and I have just decided to start looking for a new house so that will be my exciting distraction from TTC stress!

 

[bobster]

thanks looking forward to focusing on something else for a while.

Wow good news for you too! I think your bd'ing sounds spot on too. Seems logical that your body would wait for hcg to go low enough. Exciting to be in the 2ww. We really do need another bfp around here!

Are you changing houses in the same area or moving completely?

 

[bobster]

Jane Woop we'll be in our 2ww together then next time! Yay! Glad to share it with you.

It will be a small affair. We're both not the types to like a lot of attention on us and we don't want to spend much either (saving for a house atm). We're just having family on the wedding bit and then a bit party for everyone sometime after. Will wear a smart dress (something plain and simple), not a proper wedding dress. In fact we're not telling any of our friends until after the wedding so afterdo will be a few weeks after the wedding (very low key!).

I have listened to so many friends stress about weddings and spend a fortune and I don't want the pressure of it. Just want to go off and get married!

 

[mlm115]

I wanted a small wedding too. I ended up doing the big wedding thing, but I think I did it more to make everyone else happy. If you want a small wedding, go for it! It's about the 2 of you and that's all that matters. Plus you're right, weddings can be crazy expensive. Smart of you to save some $$$

I live in the Chicago suburbs and am looking only about 30 minutes away from where we currently are. Looking for our bigger, family friendly "forever" house : ).

 

[GI_Jane]

Pleased to hear your hcg is now considered negative mlm and I agree with bobster, we could use another bfp on this thread but no pressure! So now you are considered negative, will you no longer have any more blood tests? - unless you get a bfp of course?

We had a small wedding also bobster. We decided to get married and 6 weeks later we did it. We didn't want to spend 1 to 2 years planning like our friends and family had for theirs and spending money we didn't have. We wanted our wedding to be about our union and not about this one big day.

My sister spent about £15,000 on her big day and planned it over 18 months- 4 years later they were divorced (think the bank loan for the wedding had only just been paid off too!). I know it's not like that for everyone but I do think there is too much emphasis on spending a bomb.

I love house hunting Mlm, especially for your forever home that's so exciting...how many kids are you planning btw? We moved into a new place 1 year ago but its more of a stepping stone house than our forever home but I love that we chose it together and are making it ours.

Have you ladies any plans for new years eve?

 

[bobster]

Oh yes we're trying to avoid making it about everyone else. It becomes so stressful trying to please everyone and i'm a worrier about everything so I know it would be like that if we had a big wedding.

Aww thats so nice that you're able to buy a house so young. I'm from a small city in northern England which is sooo expensive. We've seen a couple of houses but been outbid on both so are renting and saving (or trying to!!!).

Does anyone else feel very bloated and fat after Christmas? I'm determined to sort myself out and lose some weight in January. I'm not fat by any means but am much bigger than my natural body weight is comfortable with. Thinking this might be hindering my ttc journey too. Trying to get oh to eat all the junk so I can't have anymore! .. just rambling now.

 

[bobster]

Oooh Jane that awful about your sister! I bet she now regrets all that money being spent. Poor her

Wow you have the right idea just doing it! No messing about lol.

I think I want 3 children. OH would be happy with 2. I would like one of each, so if I have 2 girls or 2 boys I think i'll push for a 3rd. How many do you hope to have?

 

[GI_Jane]

Yes definitely feeling bloated and fat after all the indulging. Feeling generally very uncomfortable. Looks like the weather is going to be raining less so oh and I can do some hiking before we go back to work on 7th jan which will hopefully jump start my metabolism.

I always wanted 4 kids but financially, sanity wise and biological clock wise I think 2 would be best for us.

I'm only 14 lbs overweight but even with the PCOS that's too much which really annoys me as I know some pretty big ladies who have got pregnant so easily and their weight was not an issue- and I mean they are big, like you can't tell they were even pregnant. Sometimes it feels like there is no justice when it's comes to TTC.

Feeling quite positive about 2013 though, I feel like by starting my diet on 1st jan, the reflexology, using opk's and pre-seed should all help in out TTC journey.
We'll see....

 

[mlm115]

I think I want 2 kids, but think I may be like you Bobster- if I have 2 boys or 2 girls I might push for a third.

Hope you all have a great NYE! Bring on 2013 and our bfps and our 2013 babies!!

 

[mackjess]

I'm hoping to have 2.

And I just popped on real quick to wish everyone a wonderful new years eve. weddings and babies, 2013 is going to be awesome!