It's been 7 weeks since mc but still not af...when to ring the GP?

[MrsPhez]

Good luck for tomorrow Jane. I think its good to book a gp appointment. I felt a bit more at ease after mine and I'm the same as you 1 scarily long af in 3.5 months. At least we both know we are not alone. It is very annoying waiting for af isn't it.

Mrsphez, after my first mc my luteal phase was only 9 days and then the next cycle I ovulated at the right time and got pregnant again (second cp) so hopefully this cycle will straighten out for you. how long are your cycles again?

MLM- keep testing. its so exciting to get a positive isn't it! Are you doing smep?

AFM we bd'd last night but I have a feeling the first positive opk woulda been saturday but I didn't test then stupidly . We didn't bd then either but did on the friday so might have missed it grrrr! Will try to bd tonight. Feel like we'd not done it enough for some reason but on a positive note the gp did tell me to wait 2-3 cycles to start trying again so might not be a bad thing if it doesn't work this cycle. It will totally suck if it doesn't though as due af on new years eve!!!

Cycles are long, 35-40 days is "normal".
Hope you were successful playing catch the egg!

 

[GI_Jane]

Nah haven't tested yet. I know the answer already and feeling happier the last couple days I didn't want to ruin my mood. I also took the tests from the bathroom cabinet and forget to raid my secret hiding place before i used the toilet! Will do one the morning before my GP appointment on Friday.

Is your oh out of his sulk now bobster?

 

[bobster]

just been checking the calendar again. deffo think I ov'd last cycle as my super stretchy ewcm was 14 days before my veryyyyy long af started. Just wondering if I have actually ov'd earlier as I have had hardly any ewcm this time and thats really not like me. Usually have loads!

 

[bobster]

Nah haven't tested yet. I know the answer already and feeling happier the last couple days I didn't want to ruin my mood. I also took the tests from the bathroom cabinet and forget to raid my secret hiding place before i used the toilet! Will do one the morning before my GP appointment on Friday.

Is your oh out of his sulk now bobster?

He's lost his mojo. Work stress is getting to him so no bd apart from the days I said and pretty sure I may have ov'd yesterday so still think I am out. Soo gutted.

I know how you feel about the tests. I try to rationalise my testing by saying its using them all up so I'm no longer able to obsess. Its like an addiction!!! But then just buy more anyway..

Hope you get a nice surprise on Fri. Hope the gp helps explain why af is taking her time too. It will be interesting to know if she says anything diff to my gp.

 

[GI_Jane]

Hey bobster, sorry you feel that you are out. The only way you'll know for sure is in 10-14 days time but I do understand that feeling of just knowing because the signs of o are not right. I knew early on that this would not be my bfp cycle too.

I'm having some pre af changes so think she will be here any day now. Last cycle was 57 days long and I'm already at 53 days so thinking that maybe this is my new 'normal'. So because of this and half knowing what the GP would say I decided to cancel my appointment. Next cycle I am def going to use the opks and now I have an idea of my 'new' cycle length hopefully I can see if I'm actually o'ing or not.

Bobster, it's good if you think you did o last cycle, means your body is doing someting and also confirms that your luteal phase is normal at 14 days

I'm feeling very hopeful for next cycle and looking forward to Christmas.

Are you feeling better mlm? Did you finish your antibiotics Mackjess?

Everyone set for Christmas?

 

[MrsPhez]

Nah haven't tested yet. I know the answer already and feeling happier the last couple days I didn't want to ruin my mood. I also took the tests from the bathroom cabinet and forget to raid my secret hiding place before i used the toilet! Will do one the morning before my GP appointment on Friday.

Is your oh out of his sulk now bobster?

He's lost his mojo. Work stress is getting to him so no bd apart from the days I said and pretty sure I may have ov'd yesterday so still think I am out. Soo gutted.

I know how you feel about the tests. I try to rationalise my testing by saying its using them all up so I'm no longer able to obsess. Its like an addiction!!! But then just buy more anyway..

Hope you get a nice surprise on Fri. Hope the gp helps explain why af is taking her time too. It will be interesting to know if she says anything diff to my gp.

You never know Bobster, stranger things have happened. Are you going to have a tipple over Christmas?
On day CD3, so far it's normal,

 

[MrsPhez]

Thanks for reassurance gang, feeling OK about the short LP now!
On CD3, normal AF so far. Bobster you make we wonder how long it's going to go on for but I don't really care. The first AF is a milestone post mc so I'm going to enjoy Christmas. Presents are bought, just need to sort the house out before Saturday when my folks come. Luckily Dexter is at nursery Thur Fri and DH is off work so can do a proper job of it.

 

[bobster]

MrsPhez I'm sure it won't take long for you to get back to normal with your cycle. I went back to normal straight away after the first chemical. I think 2 in a row is the reason things are messed up for me so try not to worry. Glad you are feeling more relaxed. I think Christmas is a good distraction for all of us and something to look forward to. I will definitely be enjoying a tipple over Christmas. Hoping to put everything into it and getting a bit healthier in January.

Jane maybe this is just your 'normal' for now while things are straigntening out. I think your GP probably would have said the same thing as mine which was 'give your cycles time to settle down and stop trying for a while'. Mc affects everyone so differently. I have high hopes for a January bfp with you girls.

When is everyone due to Ov in January? I'm hoping if this next af is normal (please god!) that I should be due to ov around the 20th and af/bfp due 3rd Feb. Here's hoping!

Mack are you feeling better now?
Mlm- Any signs of ovulation yet for you?

 

[mlm115]

Everyone here seems a bit more positive and relaxed, that's great! I agree that the holidays are a great distraction.

Afm, I am feeling much better, thank you for asking. No signs of ovulation yet.

For those of you that use preseed, do you use it internally or externally? Hope it's not tmi, but just really curious if it makes a difference.

 

[GI_Jane]

Definitely feeling happier lately

Haven't tried the pre-seed yet mlm, it's still in the box (that says seriously fun baby making on it!) but I was thinking I would try it internally- got to give those swimmers the best possible chance- hope it makes them survive longer in there and hopefully catch that eggy. How do you use it Mlm?

Bobster, so based on my new even longer cycle length I won't o until first week of February (which seems like ages away!) so here's hoping for a valentines BFP


I now have the next 2.5 weeks off work- must explain my happy mood!

 

[mackjess]

I used it internally, it comes with an applicator type thing so you can use it before you head into the bedroom. I liked that, so it wasn't so obvious to DH that we were 'trying' and he was more relaxed.

Bobster - I'm feeling pretty crummy still, but I'll take it. I think it's because I have to take progesterone. It makes me feel like I'm drunk, tired, and hungover at the same time. But I am done taking it the week of Jan 7th because the baby will take over hormone making. I just have to hang in there a little longer. I feel really bad because it's affecting my work. Grateful it's the holidays and a lot of people are off so I can keep up.

Glad everyone else is feeling more positive. I hope everyone is going to have a great Xmas. We have a dinner every year with our friends and that is tonight. I can't wait, and I had to take tomorrow off because I know I'll be exhausted even tho my level of effort today was turning on the crockpot this morning for the roast. DH knows I'm feeling crummy so he cleaned the house yesterday. Of course, it's not my level of clean and he didn't mop the wood floors so hopefully the guests don't mind the paw prints.

And to everyone that can still drink, PLEASE HAVE A GLASS OF WINE FOR ME!! I miss wine, and sometimes have to have a piece of dark chocolate with dinner because I miss the flavor of it.

 

[GI_Jane]

Af has officially started. CD1 girls

 

[bobster]

Wooop Jane!!!! Cd 1 means your cycle was shorter so hopefully next one will be even shorter. Plus you get af over with before Christmas! Brill!

Mackjess- Sorry you're feeling poorly. I remember feeling hungover with the first pregnancy- awful! Not long though until the 7th Jan. Enjoy your dinner tonight yum!

MLM- hope you get your bfp- we need another one on this thread! When will your af be due? You're due to ov this week right?

Jane- I'm soooo jealous that you're off for so long over Christmas! I can't wait until Friday when I have 5 days off. I'm really excited about relaxing over Christmas and eating loads. Just think girls this will be the last Christmas without the next bump/baby! How exciting!!!

 

[mlm115]

Glad she finally showed up Jane! Like Bobster said, maybe your cycles are shortening a little, so that's good. I'm also incredibly jealous of your long vacay, though I will be off from Saturday until after the new year which I am beyond excited about!

Mack, sorry you feel like garbage. That's great that your hubby is trying up help out though, good for him!

Bobster, I love how positive you sound that this will be the last Christmas without a bump or baby. That's such an awesome thought, I'm going to have to share it with DH tonight! : )

 

[GI_Jane]

Have any of you read the book 'taking charge of your fertility'? I'm in two minds whether to buy it or not, the reviews are very mixed.

 

[bobster]

No I haven't but heard good things. Suppose iy depends ov whether it will make u obsess more it if it will help and reassure u. For me I think it might make ny ttc obsessions worse!

 

[bobster]

Sorry I'm on phone! Had such a horrid bloaty stomach today and ovary twinges. Mack did u hav any symptoms this soon after ov?

 

[GI_Jane]

No I haven't but heard good things. Suppose iy depends ov whether it will make u obsess more it if it will help and reassure u. For me I think it might make ny ttc obsessions worse!

Thanks bobster, yeah I think I won't bother for now and focus on using my OPKs later this cycle.

Sorry I'm on phone! Had such a horrid bloaty stomach today and ovary twinges. Mack did u hav any symptoms this soon after ov?

oh wow bobster- could this be what we hope it is?! when will you test, Christmas eve? or is that too early? or maybe this is an ovulation sign a little later than you thought?

 

[mackjess]

Bobster - I literally caught a terrible virus/fever the day after I OV, so I have no idea about symptoms like that.

 

[nikkie122]

Hello Ladies, I hope it is okay if I join this thread. I had a mc end of August when I was about 10 weeks. I bled for about 3 weeks. About 4-5 weeks later AF arrived but it lasted quite awhile and spotted a lot after. Then the following month it took 6 weeks for AF to arrive and now I am going on week 7. I am really frustrated and just want my body to go back to normal.